No T Words mentioned at all - a fresh start

monnagran

Fuddle: Don't worry too much, this tactic is very much used in schools. They are covering their backs. Unfortunately, some schools seem to have the ethos that they can never be wrong, and if a parent is dissatisfied then it must be the parents fault.
However, you have drawn a line in the sand, you know it and they know you know it. They will all be that much more careful to avoid upsetting you again and hopefully your dd will reap the benefit.

Don't be frustrated, you have made a big difference to dd's school life. She will be that much more confident knowing that you have her back.

fuddle

I know it's just annoying how it has shifted from 'there's no problem' 'yes there is' 'oh yes there appears to be a bit of a problem but it's probably your fault because we told you so that there was nothing wrong academically' But you're both right in that it has all been worth it because DD is more settled and feels more secure.

Lyn I didn't answer your question yesterday about the gas. I know that there's a gas oven and hob (never had a gas oven before eeek) but I doubt there's gas to the fire as there's an electric point in there. It will be more upheaval gas way. I had a lot of tears last night and DH subsequently said that we should just get the burner if it means that much to me but I'm not going with it because it's a partnership and we need to agree not one feel like they have been railroaded hence the deciding not to make a decision.

I have been emailed from probate. We're to go and sign an oath. Problem being that I have just sent my ID to mortgage people. Thankfully it's a walk in kind of deal so as soon as I get it back we'll go.

Floss

Fuds that sounds very positive from the Probate team. What's the housing market like around your mums home? Do you think it will sell fairly easily?

I've been stomping around the house today - was let go from my lovely job last night as they "need flexibility" but in reality it is because I won't cancel plans set since January to stay with DH's brother for Christmas just so I can run around an eating pub for 9 hours on Christmas Eve, 6 hours on Christmas Day & 9 hours on Boxing Day

candlelight_2013

Floss, they are probably wondering why on earth you wouldn't be prepared to work all those hours over Christmas.

Something else will come along in the New Year, a job that is really meant for you,

Candlelightx

pollyanna_26

Floss I've been meaning to ask how the job was going . Stomp away love that sounds unreasonable and unfair . As you have a catering kitchen is there any possibility of setting up independently in function catering ? Just a thought .
Fuds I love gas hobs but not keen on gas ovens . The stove issue will resolve itself , better to both let it rest for now there's such a lot going on at the moment .
Hope mum had a reasonable day Lainey .
Need to wash my hair so may be back later x
polly

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Wait until you're in small one and then get someone in from one of the woodstove installation companies and firstly find out if the fireplace and chimney ARE suitable to have a burner installed. If they are then have the debate but if they aren't you don't have to have the debate and can then consider what you'll do about a possible gas fire. Baby steps pet, and even then not until you're moved in.

FLOSS rotten luck over the job but I'm glad you stuck to your guns, did you tell them you already had the dates committed when you accepted the job? if you did then the whole thing is very unfair and if there is a union you might get recompense for being let go unfairly. Maybe just to walk would be better for your peace of mind though.

monnagran

Oh Floss, that's so unfair. I can understand that these jobs have to be done over Christmas but surely they can be covered by Rota. I had a cousin who used to run a village pub and the one day he wouldn't open was Christmas Day. He said that not only did he feel that it was the one day he wanted to spend with his family but he wouldn't expect that his staff felt any differently.
Don't worry, Floss, there will be another, better job waiting for you somewhere.

Pollyanna: I'm the opposite to you. I don't mind gas ovens but hate gas hobs. Give me a nice flat ceramic hob every time, so easy to clean.

Fuddle: I'm amazed at the number of times you have to prove who you are these days. I keep my driving licence up, not because I intend to start driving again but it's small enough to have tucked away in your purse for times when you have to produce proof of ID.

I've just heard that a very old friend of mine has died at the age of 106.
An amazing woman who was still riding her bike at 98. She lived on her own until about 8 months ago when her niece finally managed to persuade her into a very nice home. Apparently she was running the place within weeks!

x

fuddle

I agree. I'm sure new employers should honour holidays already booked but Floss whether that should happen or not it's not fair on you and obviously why they're saying they need flexibility. How annoying but I wonder if life decided you would have a taster of a different career maybe. Have you any thoughts on your next desired move.

It didn't even enter my head that the chimney wouldn't be suitable. I wonder if that's why there's an electric point there. Definitely need to put it to bed now until we're able to get questions answered.

Mam's house? It's in a bad way Floss. Sister and I are thinking about auctioning it. We are really lucky as our cousin's wife is an EA and going to take it on. We won't be bothered by anything other than the major stuff plus we know we won't be diddled or fobbed off.

I have realised that we have £650 wrapped up in rental deposit when we leave the rental we're in. I'm 100% confident we'll get it back as we look after the houses we rent so that means I can get the girls' high sleeper beds (with desk, shelves drawers and wardrobe contained underneath) and their shared room kitted out and decorated within weeks of moving. They have decided they would like grey and white stripes with gold glitter wall stickers spelling their names above their beds. Youngest would like glow in the dark stars on the ceiling because we've never dared let her with rental ceilings. Eldest fancies splashes of black, gold and leopard print. Fingers crossed I can pull it off without it looking like my beloved charity shop!

pollyanna_26

Monna Your dear friend sounds like a life well loved and llived May she rest in peace x
Fuds there are a lot of similar houses to your new home in the villages around me . Middle daughter lives in similar but a bit larger and sd with large gardens . They are different eras , daughters is victorian brick . Originally they were tied houses to the local manor house but the present lord has begun putting some on the market . They are popular with first time buyers as they are solid and have been maintained well . Some are owned by landlords . As yours was let I wonder if the lady who inherited the property had the socket installed in the inglenook to allow for a look alike electric stove .
polly

scottishminnie

Evening all.

Catching up a bit - Fuddle, great news on the house. Delighted you have something to look forward to.

Floss - I suspect you being "let go" is a temper tantrum which will come back to bite someone on the behind very soon. Something better will come along with a much more deserving employer.

Lainey - I'm sad to hear your mums scan news but glad you and the family are managing to stay so positive for her.

I haven't been around much, it's been a bit frantic. Still no news on the job front, the announcements may be delayed until the new year but I would rather know soon one way or another so I can get on with things.

I seem to have run into so many opinionated people ( not here, in real life) who have made thoughtless remarks recently that I've gone to ground a bit. From the hairdresser who couldn't understand why on earth I celebrated Christmas when I don't have any children to a practise nurse who, while carrying out a routine test, explained the difference between me and "normal" women to justify why things were taking a bit longer than expect.
Im sure none of them were meant with malice and I'm just overly sensitive but I definitely need to toughen up.

I've had a few days holiday and my late friends husband asked myself and another friend to clear her clothing from the house for him as he couldn't face it but felt that one year on it should be done. It took us a full day to sort though things for charity shops etc and it was draining but we are glad to have helped him out. Today I also visited my husbands dear aunt whose husband died just before Christmas last year. My visits are normally at the weekends so she was very surprised to see me mid week but delighted as she wasn't having a great day. she said I was a very welcome distraction, just as much as she was to me:)

Tomorrow I need to rearrange the freezer so I can see how much space I have, I would like to make some desserts for Christmas Day and freeze them however my soup mountain has made me a little short of space. I have a large fridge freezer inside and an upright freezer in the garage although I'm thinking of buying another cheap upright - or maybe if we just ate from the freezer until the weekend I could create some space. I think my siege mentality comes from childhood memories of being snowed in on the farm and totally cut off for a week at a time.

So off to measure my ironing board now - it was a wedding present more than 25 years ago and for several years I've been mending the torn cover and adding towels to line it however I think the time has come to buy a new one!

I hope all my other friends here are well and warm (it's somewhat chilly up here!)