do you ever get bored??

ska_lover

shiny76 wrote: »

Isn't 12 old enough to leave on her own occasionally? (or shouldn't I open that can???)

LOL I was waiting for someone to say that, for fear of getting flamed.

Call me a bad mother but depending on the DD's maturity obviously, she could well be old enough to be left alone now and then, while you pop shops, pop to a neighbours for an hour for a coffee? People have mobile phones these days, chill out. At 12 years old, I would come home to an empty house after school as both parents worked, on occasion when they were both on a late shift, I would be left alone until around 9pm. I was very able to look after myself, and even used to cook in prep for parents coming home (if I could be bothered!). You could look into an evening class starting next september at a local college - she will be that bit older then as well..

Back to the OPs origional (sp?) thread - Honestly I think that people tend to feel a bit unsettled at this time of year. I feel bored sometimes...weeks can go by and nothing has particuarly 'happened' - we just trundle along. I honestly believe that most people lead as boring a life during the week, we are far too knackered once we have got home from work, cooked tea, prepared packed lunches, helped with homework to think about any social activity. It is very very samey and we are mostly in the same boat. Invite a friend round for a bottle of wine of an evening?

I find the trick is to have something to look forward to. Things like get a summer holiday somewhere warm booked, book a few days off work with your hubby and chill out together, book a restuarant for saturday night for you and your OH. If your daughter is sensible, she will be OK on her own for a couple of hours.

I get bored, but I wouldnt in a million years want to sit doing jigsaws - horror! or crafts, I get no enjoyment from that. I'd rather whack on some music and phone a friend for a chat. Or come on here for a moan hahaha!

I really think you need something to look forward to, we all do.

If you are retiring in a handful of years, there is a big thing to look forward to right there - you are far better off than most if you can afford to do that - cheer up

affordmylife

thanks again.

i could offer to host book club here but im not sure if they would come its about 20-30 mins away from the town it is normally held in (im the one that moved away).

hubby and i would go out for a meal but its a standing joke thats is always "a candlelit meal for 3". we love her to bits and she is the youngest of 5 so we love her company as the others have all left home (empty nest syndrome).

the nearest college is 30 mins away too. and ill be honest im really not ready to leave her alone at night. she is not happy to be left either. so we will leave that one for a couple of years.

im currently paying off a bit of debt but once that has gone i have the option of retiring. hubby doesnt mind but i am now worried it might be even more boring.

i think people are right it is the time of year. we have two weekends away coming up and a week in spain booked for august. im just suffering from the post christmas blues i expect xx

wear280902

I may have missed the point by comparing my boredom with yours. But could their be a little hint of jealousy
( which doesn't always have to be the bad/negative type). Do you feel your OH , family member or good friend have more freedom with their life/lives....a more interesting job etc. Therefore you perceive yours to be boring in comparison ?

I know you say you love doing the homework with your daughter and your job obviously helps with this.....but are there no projects or homework where your OH could step in to help sometimes shedding some new light on projects or ways of doing things or giving them some time to enjoy together. My partner is the more patient of us in our relationship so will often tackle the times when my DD is feeling frustrated with things as we both share similar personality traits by setting ourselves too higher goals. So sometimes it is matching differing personality traits to your DD's homework that can help showing there is no one way to complete an assignment.

affordmylife

lol at my husband doing her homework. bless him he is a bit brain cell challenged. love him but its definitely not his thing. he is more practical. xx