do you ever get bored??

Peater

If you are bored now, what do you think it will be like in 5 years when you want to retire??

starnurse76

Hi,

I can understand how you feel - or rather, my husband can understand how you feel - as he frequently complains he is bored!!! Thing is, no matter how much people have suggested anything, particularly people close to him,family,friends etc- he just wont listen .... then he will moan he is bored anyway! lol. Cant win !!
The only person who can change is you. If you are bored, do something with your life. You need a hobby. I always think a hobby can change you.. something to look forward to, or something that takes your mind off feeling bored. My husband has a mountain bike, i said ride that, he says its too cold.
Okaaayy... how about that gym membership you signed up to for about 6 weeks to give it a go - nope its too far, and i cant be arsed.
Right well you fancy going out for a meal tonight then? Nope, too dark and cold.
See what i mean?? A law unto himself. Thats my husband. lol.
I gotta admit though, he is getting better and plus we are expecting our first baby any day now, so believe me, he will not have time to be bored !! lol. He is also starting to come out of his shell a bit more and making some new friends - one of which we are meeting tomorrow with his wife and child for lunch.

On a personal note - when i feel low, down, depressed or whatever you want to call it - i have found my niche. craftwork. I know its not for everyone, but my friends say it lets out my emotions, or whatever im feeling at the time. Consequently, i have several pieces of patchwork and completed sewing projects around the house, all meaning different things at different times of my life.

Anyway, im sure it wont help but... it was nice to let you know you are certainly not the first and most definitely not the last person ever to say IM BORED!!!

Shamima X

valk_scot

Your life is going smoothly and the worst thing you've got to be unhappy about is that you're bored?

My advice is to enjoy it while you can because sure as fate, something will come along and rock the boat sooner or later. Death, illness, redundency, burglary, house fire...you get the idea. Remember the old chinese curse...may you live in interesting times?

make_me_wise

I think you are bored because nothing in your life stimulates you or stretches you.

You say you are bored in your job. I work as a teacher and find the job interesting, challenging, demanding, exciting. No one day is the same as another. I know full well my assistants feel that way too. Are there enough training opportunities and chances for any advancement at your school? Is enough time invested in helping staff reach their potential? When was the last time someone gave you an appraisal and asked you what you want?

You say you have a lovely lifestyle yet in your first sentence you tell us that you work, come home, cook, watch tv, knit, go on laptop, read a book and go to bed. If that is the same day in day out it is no wonder you are bored.

Do you have any hobbies that get you out of the house? Do you mix and socialise with people? Do you ever go out to restaurants or catch the latest film at the cinema? When was the last time you planned a fun family day out?

Life can become very mundane and boring if you give yourself nothing to look forward to or work towards.

In between all the day to day necessary stuff in life do something a few times a week just for you. Something that will make you happy and that you can really enjoy. Life is to short for it all to be about responsibility and slog.

166million

I am so bored. Sitting at work I want to smash my own head in sometimes. I'm not allowed to do hobbies whilst I am at work.

Gazing_On_Sunsets

Imagine yourself on your death bed (eek, I know, bear with me!) and looking back over a fantastic life. What are the high points - the things you're most proud of...family, job, and personal achievements? If there are gaps, indulge in some crazy fantasies of what you'd like to be able to remember. What crazy tales do you want to be able to tell grandkids? What do you want your greatgrandkids to say at school..."my great gran, she skiied down the matterhorn when she was 62, wearing pink knickers on her head and raised £1000000 for cancer research" or whatever.

Do things that make you, and others, *smile*.

VfM4meplse

Caroline73 wrote: »

I have new hobbies all the time. In the past two years I've taught myself lots of crafts, my current hobbies are cooking and jigsaws

OMG, kill me now! I can understand mastering an art, but could never look forward to completing a jigsaw in the evening!

I think part of the problem is the short daylight hours that's making you feel frustrated. You need to fiind something you can do with your DD, why not get more involved with her school projects for example? Or get a Wii? Or think about cosmtic home improvements?

It'll be a slippery slope if you get so bored you find yourself making "friends" online in the evenings when DD has gone to bed....

affordmylife

first of all i would like to say a massive thank you to you all for bothering to reply.

in answer to some of the points raised.

i would love to do a spreadsheet thingy for debt and am going to look into that - any ideas/suggestions would be really welcome.

my dd is 12 and yes i do have the car here and can drive but i cant leave her home alone and although i get invited to stuff which i would love to go to like book club and the pub i cant take her with me cos she would be bored stiff and needs to be in bed at a reasonable time.

make me wise - regarding work. i work with one or two teachers that fully engage me in the lesson and i love that. unfortunately i work with about 10 others who havent noticed im in the room yet!!! i had an appraisal at work about six months ago and said i would love to have training in ict and yes they have put training on but its out of my work hours and they wont pay us!!! previous to this ta position i was a ta in a special needs school and i was so busy and fullfilled i never felt bored. i changed jobs due to a house move.

other points i do all homework and school projects with my dd. we are currently building a castle. i am happy and willing to help her with this but as ive been doing exactly the same lessons all day at school with a different class of her year group it too is pretty boring much as i love her dearly.

we have a house that is 18 months old so no decorating as such at the moment its all good x

Oldernotwiser

affordmylife wrote: »

im 45 next month and dont want to study/train for a new career. i wish to retire at 50.

Won't that be even more boring?

London_Town

You say you want to retire at 50 OP, is that a realistic goal or a fanatsy? If it's realistic, what an exciting thing you have coming to you in a few years time. Surely you need to be preparing for that life change now? How will you fill your time? If you don't have to work at all beyond 50, you could look at voluntary work. I have a friend who retired early in her mid fifties from a senior management position and she's busier than ever, applying her skills to helping groups that support young people who get involved with crime. Think of how a voluntary group could utilse your skills set.

From a personal perspective, start to think about setting goals. Perhaps you could aim to be fitter at 50 then you were at 40 through joining a gym or taking up a sport. Once you retire, you'll still be young enough to do anything. What a fantastic opportuntity you have to look forward to -good luck and start planning for it!