MSE Pregnancy Club 24

emsbet

Triangle, as others have said its best to wash the clothes as they put chemicals on them to make them look nice in the shop. I think it's recommended that you use a non-bio for baby's clothes as their skin is so sensitive.

Good luck with your moxibustion this afternoon BB

xx

Miss_Money

Triangle I don't really have anyone in rl to speak to about it. Ive suggested counselling before to him, as I said that the way we argue (and it isnt often maybe one in 6 months but its big) isn't normal.. he just said every couple argues. he thinks it's normal. I never argued with the ex husband so I find it totally alien to row with someone. ironic that he's my ex lol, he had the opposite problem, he was too laid back and couldn't hold down a job etc. anyway thats the last im going to say on the oh today as i'm bored of going round it in my own head so goodness knows how you lot must feel about me moaning on!

BB Iwashed all the baby clothes that came back to me from my sister (stuff dd's wore when they were babies ) I folded it all and stuck all the newborn stuff in a drawer in my room ready for night time changes etc. I will bring a small box of baby grows dowstairs for changes in the day. Im not in the lest bit organised though. all my homebirth stuff seems to have been moved into odd places by the oh. i havent a clue where the plastic sheeting is, ir the electric pump or buckets the cot we have been given is STILL in bits and non of the girls furniture has been moved into their room, despite having the last 12 weeks saying "yes i'll do it at the weekend" and Im the lazy one :rotfl: Im half tempted to try and do it myself tbh oh and other bad news i cant find my gaviscon
my plaster is off my toe now and ugh yuck! my toenail is sort of hanging off!!!

jovichick123

Morning all,

Congrats to JennyNoo, if ever there was an example of a perfect birth, yours sounds damn close Loving the names, Theo is in our shortlist of three that OH and I have managed to agree on

(((hugs))) Miss Money its sounds like your OH needs a severe kick up the backside :mad: Am still feeling a bit groggy so can't remember everything I have read since yesterday but some of it sounded achingly familiar. Is it possible your fella has some form of OCD? I only ask as his behaviour sounds similar to that of my ex. We were together for five years (from 17 til 22) and during that time, he controlled every aspect of our lives from money to socialising.. He hated the house being messy (read as: not looking like a show home) and would fly off the handle at the slightest thing being out of place - he had a particular thing about ornaments being the same distance from one another on top of the TV.... I basically lived the life of a Stepford Wife for five years before finally realising that I couldn't do it anymore. He wasn't violent but his words could cut right through me and tbh he was downright nasty most of the time. I believed everything he told me about me being lazy and useless and it was only once I walked away I realised he was wrong. Don't let your OH make you feel bad. You are doing a fantastic job bringing up your two girls, as well as coping with pregnancy, SPD and the stresses life places on us and quite frankly, he should be supporting you. I too will join the queue to come round and kick his a** for you if you like

jovichick123

BB1984 wrote: »

Triangle, I think most people suggest to wash even brand new baby clothes, as sometimes they have chemical residues on them from the manufacturing process...? (or something!)

:eek: you are scaring me with your organisation! Or rather I'm scaring myself with my lack of organisation! I'm 35 weeks on Thursday and haven't got everything I need, haven't packed my hospital bag, and haven't even begun to think about washing baby clothes - no point as it'd all get dusty again! Oh cripes this baby had better not come early....! :eek:

Off for my moxibustion this afternoon...should be interesting if nothing else!

BB x

It scared me too, I am 35 weeks on Wednesday and am in your position BB :eek: OH scared me stupid yesterday as we think the date of my c-section will be 06/06/12 (we get confirmation next Monday) and if that is the case, we only have 29 days left to go :eek: Am off shopping soon to get bits for hospital bag

Miss_Money

jovi this is the thig i dont get.. most of the time he isnt bothered by the lack of a tidy house, and he makes loads of mess... but every now and again he will just blow up over it.. )or something else. thats why im thinking autism. ~His words hurt me a lot yesterday. basically said im a carp mum. and i don't do enough discipline. I think i do enough discipline and i think the way he handles the girls is over the top. but ive always put it down to him not knowing anything about kids in general and not having one of his own. i told him that he would handle this one differently and then feel guilty about the way he has handles some situations. anyway... that really is the last im posting on him today hes a waste of my time today. today im going to be happy
the other man in my life is driving me mad too. rusty the barmy brown jr has just had me on a chase (read that as hobble) around the house as he knicked the kmids socks out of the laundry pile and some clean pants. what is it with boys and girls knickers? honestly!!!! :rotfl:

Triangle

Oh BB and Jovi, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to scare you! If it makes you feel better, I have been on reduced hours at work for last 6 weeks so I've had time to get things organised. But to be honest, the real truth is that I am a geek who loves nothing better than to tick or highlight an item off one of my many lists!

Oh and thanks for answers about washing clothes ladies, will definately do them all now.

Miss_Money

BB good luck with your moxibustion today I really hope it works for you xxx

museumworker

Miss_money, please don't feel you have to respond to this today as I know you've had enough of thinking about it and just want to clear your head. I don't post much but felt compelled to here, I hope you don't mind or think I am interfering but this struck such a cord with me. My ex displayed similar traits - controlling behaviour, verbal abuse (and at times physical), wouldn't listen to me (or would agree to change after a massive row and then a few weeks later would have another bust up in exactly the same way). He also had the upper hand financially and belittled me with comments. I left when DD was 2 and I honestly wish I'd left a lot sooner. No-one deserves to be treated like that by anyone, regardless of their upbringing. We tried counselling because I really wanted to make it work for DD's sake (but he started saying things like don't you dare tell the counsellor that just before we'd go in, which kind of defeats the purpose!). At least I know I gave it a go. I left with nothing - no money, no household possessions - but have rebuilt a life for myself based on self-respect. There are organisations out there who can help and you never have to feel trapped. My crunch point came when DD started saying 'daddy is shouting at mummy again' and I thought I can't bring my daughter up to think this is normal or acceptable behaviour. Funny how I left for DD's sake, now I am stronger I would leave for my own. I now have a fantastic partner and a solid relationship based on mutual respect. We have the occasional disagreement/row (who doesn't?) but it is never nasty or vindictive, just both of us expressing how we feel.
Anyway, hope you have a good day, and look after yourself.

Kitten_Pie

Triangle wrote: »

Quick questions - do I need to wash the brand new shop stuff too?

As others have said it is more important to wash the new stuff than the second hand stuff. The chemicals they use especially on baby clothes aren't nice and are best kept away from them.

Miss_Money wrote: »

today im going to be happy
the other man in my life is driving me mad too. rusty the barmy brown jr has just had me on a chase (read that as hobble) around the house as he knicked the kmids socks out of the laundry pile and some clean pants. what is it with boys and girls knickers? honestly!!!! :rotfl:

My dog when I was little used to love our knickers, clean or dirty he would steal them all the little hoarder. If we had them on the line you could watch him jump up and pull them down. (golden retriever) Nothing else just knickers, his favourite were my sisters. odd:cool:

Triangle wrote: »

I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to scare you! If it makes you feel better, I have been on reduced hours at work for last 6 weeks so I've had time to get things organised. But to be honest, the real truth is that I am a geek who loves nothing better than to tick or highlight an item off one of my many lists!

I was all prepared and ready at 32 weeks last time. I am one of those people who likes lists and things being in order (although not as tidy as you would expect ) This time I might put together a hospital bag with a night dress, lipbalm is a must but I'm not going to worry about anything else.

Obviously a lot of this is due to my history, but I also know that it isn't the end of the world if things aren't ready. We have all the items in storage and the clothes are washed and in boxes so it's not as though we will be completely unprepared just not going to get it out until we know a baby is coming home with us.

jovichick123

Triangle wrote: »

Oh BB and Jovi, I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to scare you! If it makes you feel better, I have been on reduced hours at work for last 6 weeks so I've had time to get things organised. But to be honest, the real truth is that I am a geek who loves nothing better than to tick or highlight an item off one of my many lists!

Oh and thanks for answers about washing clothes ladies, will definately do them all now.

Nope lol now I feel worse, I have been off work since 17 weeks pregnant due to redundancy and am not nearly as organised :rotfl: Must... find.... motivation

Right, am going shopping armed with list for maternity bag Catch you all later