MSE Pregnancy Club 24

bellola

Hey everyone, I experienced my first nearly new sale today. Pregnant women and mothers are crazy! But I did manage to get a set of Next canvases for the nursery for just £2.50, so pleased with that! Also got some Next joggers and a gorgeous Mothercare floral dress. Perfect for my trip to France in June. Mum brought us a 3in1 play gym which looks brand new so set that up and had a play!

Just ordered the changing unit from Babies r us, OH is a teacher so 2 weeks half term for him so he can build the changing unit and have a general tidy up of the nursery. Going to wait til after 20 week scan before buying cot and pushchair etc. That's on 23rd April so just over 3 weeks to wait.

Quiet night in tonight, takeaway, The Voice, BGT and Take Me Out! Then out for sunday lunch tomorrow as it's my birthday so that will be a nice treat.

I have got the Avent newborn bottle set and steriliser as they were half price in Argos, am hoping to BF so just got some cheapies to try out.

emsbet

Bellola your scan is the day before mine

Flutterby I'm rubbish at knowing how easy anything is to get to for me. I think anything other than Bolton and Manchester city centre would involve two trains for me but that's not to say it would be too difficult. I will still be pg in June so I won't have baby and associated items to lug round so I'll go where is easiest for ladies with babies.
Gin said Trafford centre was easier for her to drive to than Manc centre.

xx

happydays77_2

flutterby_lil wrote: »

That was my thought exactly......lol.

If Trafford is awkward, what about Bury or similar, never been but it is on the way for me, maybe a little too far or more hard work for you all but I am just thinking......i just thought Trafford was central, easy and free parking, didn't think about public transport.

Flutterby, just a thought, but how about if we set the date in stone so people can keep their diaries free and then see nearer the time who will be coming because of these unreliable babies. A few weeks before we could then sort out the place being either the Trafford Centre or the city centre. The week of the 4th June is half term week i believe, as its the Jubilee so maybe sometime the week starting the 11th?

happydays77_2

Ive been having a little bit of a panic today and i was after a bit of advice. I know for some of you it will be hard to answer but for others im picking your brains. I am feeling really very anxious about it soon not being just me and my DS. We have such a close bond as we have lived on our own for such a long time and the thought of having someone else in our lives, albeit my own child, actually makes me feel really nervous. Is this just a normal anxiety do you think? I just dont know if i will be very good at this juggling act especially with them being so different in ages. I feel wrong just even writing it down but its been worrying me all day.

Amymo

Hey Happy, obviously I'm in a slightly different position but have had similar thoughts about it not just being DH and I soon and also felt guilty. I have an aunt with a 14 year gap between hers and the oldest dotes on the LO and vice versa, they have slightly more grown up family days out i.e. trips to Pizza Hut, theme parks when LO was too young to enjoy much, but it worked out well and your son sounds like a really grown up lad, maybe you could have a chat with him about his expectations?

camNolliesMUMMY

happydays77 wrote: »

We are allowed a baby brain. Did you go overdue with your first child?

Haha yes I did ds1 was due on the 17th of April n arrived on the 28th, I'm now 2 days over and I've just had a curry fingers crossed.

mishkanorman

happydays77 wrote: »

Ive been having a little bit of a panic today and i was after a bit of advice. I know for some of you it will be hard to answer but for others im picking your brains. I am feeling really very anxious about it soon not being just me and my DS. We have such a close bond as we have lived on our own for such a long time and the thought of having someone else in our lives, albeit my own child, actually makes me feel really nervous. Is this just a normal anxiety do you think? I just dont know if i will be very good at this juggling act especially with them being so different in ages. I feel wrong just even writing it down but its been worrying me all day.

Im in a similar ish situation in that my 2 boys are 20 mnths apart in age and will be 7 and 9 this year, it will be like starting all over again. They are very close, are the same height and look like twins, I worry how the baby will fit into that

My boys are very much my babies, my youngest especially likes his snuggles and calls me "mumba" we have a very close bond - I worry that a new baby will shove him out !

having said that, we have talked lots - they are both super keen to have a brother or sister to show their cool stuff to, to look after and play with. I have a friend who has a big gap between her eldest and youngest and they are the best of friends, the middle child who is closer in age to the youngest doesnt get on with him at all, they are too close in age to appreciate each other.

im sure you will find your bond will grow, it will just be a different dynamic to your household with baby.

glimmerofhope

Hi Happy
I also can't speak from experience but from what I have read of Callum you appear to have raised an intelligent and kind young man, maybe as Amymo has said have a talk to him explain that TL will need alot of your time but that doesn't mean that you are ignoring him and will still be there to help with his homework etc. I cannot Remember if you had said about him helping with feeding etc but maybe get him involved. The grown up days out sound like a good idea that way he won't feel it is all about TL. Maybe speak to your family also and ask them to make sure that they don't leave C out when cooing over the baby and make time for him.

happydays77_2

Thank you for your kind replies.
Glimmer - that is a good idea about other people still making him feel in the loop so to speak. At the moment everybody is so preoccupied with how I am, and when is baby due etc that they often even forget Callum is in the room and I do notice he gets left out. This is one of the reasons i have made sure he knows it's only me and him that know the babies name before he's born as he wants that to be our little secret.

Mishka - thanks for replying aswell. It does seem very daunting with the age gap they will have and I'm trying to think of common ground we can all have. Maybe I'm looking to hard and th fact that they will be brothers will be enough. With my ex not being about aswell Callum is very sure of the fact he wants to be a role model to the LO as he is aware he will be the constant male presence in his life. I'm very proud that he thinks like that but I also want him to remember he is a child and don't want him to grow up too quickly.

happydays77_2

Amymo wrote: »

Hey Happy, obviously I'm in a slightly different position but have had similar thoughts about it not just being DH and I soon and also felt guilty. I have an aunt with a 14 year gap between hers and the oldest dotes on the LO and vice versa, they have slightly more grown up family days out i.e. trips to Pizza Hut, theme parks when LO was too young to enjoy much, but it worked out well and your son sounds like a really grown up lad, maybe you could have a chat with him about his expectations?

Thanks Amy. That sounds like a good plan with regards to days out. When LO is still tiny it's obviously going to be a lot easier to do these things that wouldn't be suitable for the pair of them. I might try and plan a few things for the summer holidays for him to look forward too.