MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Amymo

Aw Amysquash, that's rubbish for you! Am sure snoopytweety will have some advice for you, and a lot can happen in 3 weeks too

I'm measuring small so will be interested to see what my 31 week appt this afternoon shows, it's a worry whichever way isn't it?! I always said I wouldn't care about other people's remarks, but no-one believes I'm 31 weeks and there shocked remarks are getting me worried she's too small, but the midwife keeps saying it's just because I'm tall!

I would happily give up work for Lent today, still no word on our funding, so can't take on maternity cover, and I know it's not my responsibility but I'm too darned conscientious, there's only one of me and the stress is ramping up!

Ravenlady_2

OH walked out on us today. I am in total shock about it all.
Yesterday I got the the end of my tether with following 4 people around picking up all their bits of crap and rubbish they leave lying around, sick of OH lounging around in bed till lunchtime and just generally not lifting a finger to help, sick of finding mouldy cups over on his side of the bed, sick of being greeted by an empty fridge most mornings after OH has had a midnight snack, sick of being the only person with enough braincells to figure out how to pay a bloody bill or sort out any problems, sick of doing 3+ loads of laundry a day and being capable of emptying it/the tumble/washing up 5 times a day.

DS has been up most nights for the last week teething, I have had a nasty infection in my tooth that finally was removed last week after 4 abscesses, a lot of pain, 3 courses of anti-biotics and 5 different dentists (i now have 'dry socket' where it was removed and that hurts more than the original problem) so I have not been sleeping much either.

I lost the plot yesterday, started shreiking, screaming and throwing things, OH decided then that he would go as I overstepped the line by throwing things.............. After trying to explain that I was tired, jealous of his attitude to the house, in constant pain and just needed a bit of help sometimes he said he would give me a lie-in as I have not had one for a while....

Yeah of course he did, he claimed I kept him up all night snoring (I actually slept very little) he shouted at me when i nudged him to get ds up and fed, he put ds back down for a nap and hour later!!! and came back to bed because he was 'poorly', left the telly on full blast and didnt bring me up a cup of tea like he said he would.

Que another big argument at his refusal to try just for once to help me and he just started saying how he does it to wind me up on purpose, he doesn't want the baby and I should be lucky he stays with me.

I actually want to kill him! I knew he had a mean and selfish streak but that just knocked me sideways

snoopytweety

AmySquash wrote: »

Good Afternoon Ladies

Well its official - I also have gestational diabetes (boohoo) - Went to see the dietician today and have got to see a diabetes specialist next week. I dont think I have it as severly as Snoopytweety, as my blood sugar levels are generally within range, just the odd few high ones, so am hoping to manage it with diet only. Hats off to you Snoopytweety!! I can just about cope with diet changes - the thought of medication or insulin scares me!! Was also shocked to hear that 50% of women with gestational diabetes go on to get diabetes later in life, I thought it was alot less than that and am now fretting!!!

I also had a growth scan on Monday - Babys abdominal size was measuring on 97th centile and weighing about 4.6lb (am only 31weeks), and if it is still large at my next scan in 3 weeks, then I may be having a caesarian due to previous shoulder dystocia with my first baby (9lb 12oz) - second baby was smaller and delivered normally (8lb 14oz) however I am convinced this one is bigger. Still not sure how I feel about potential caesarian, one the one hand a caesarian is a big op and recovery will be alot harder, but on the other hand, i am worried that if growth scan is wrong and baby is big, if it gets stuck again, god knows what might happen. To be honest the thought of being cut and having intervention such a vontouse or forceps seems scarier than having a planned caesarian.

I am also wondering whether the diabetes will affect my consulants decision about whether to have a c-sect or not!

Sorry for the rambling ladies, just so much going round in my head, and no one to discuss it with!!

Oh Amy - I am sorry, I had my fingers crossed for you.

I was (as you know) so so worried when I first found out - but the team at the hospital have been so brilliant that I feel much more positive about it now.

The tablets are ok - they have a few weird side effects, smelly trumps, slight appetite surpressants etc. But generally they are easy to take and not a problem. Not had to start the insulin just yet, so can't say anything there.

I am finding the daily blood !!!!! tests a chore, but getting on with it - do alternate fingers, as I must admit, mine are getting tender now.

I am 31 weeks too - and I thought I had a big baby at 3lb 14oz, but you actually beat me. One upside is we get to meet our babies earlier than planned - I am looking at week 37 at the moment. I too had babies abdomen measuring on the 97th, so don't worry too much about that - I really hope that you are able to control it with the diet though.

PM me if you like and we can maybe exchange email addresses and then chat if there is anything either of us want to discuss!

I have to say the whole thing felt worse to begin with than it does now, as I have my head round it, and know I just need to get on with it. Big hugs x x x

snoopytweety

Ravenlady wrote: »

OH walked out on us today. I am in total shock about it all.
Yesterday I got the the end of my tether with following 4 people around picking up all their bits of crap and rubbish they leave lying around, sick of OH lounging around in bed till lunchtime and just generally not lifting a finger to help, sick of finding mouldy cups over on his side of the bed, sick of being greeted by an empty fridge most mornings after OH has had a midnight snack, sick of being the only person with enough braincells to figure out how to pay a bloody bill or sort out any problems, sick of doing 3+ loads of laundry a day and being capable of emptying it/the tumble/washing up 5 times a day.

DS has been up most nights for the last week teething, I have had a nasty infection in my tooth that finally was removed last week after 4 abscesses, a lot of pain, 3 courses of anti-biotics and 5 different dentists (i now have 'dry socket' where it was removed and that hurts more than the original problem) so I have not been sleeping much either.

I lost the plot yesterday, started shreiking, screaming and throwing things, OH decided then that he would go as I overstepped the line by throwing things.............. After trying to explain that I was tired, jealous of his attitude to the house, in constant pain and just needed a bit of help sometimes he said he would give me a lie-in as I have not had one for a while....

Yeah of course he did, he claimed I kept him up all night snoring (I actually slept very little) he shouted at me when i nudged him to get ds up and fed, he put ds back down for a nap and hour later!!! and came back to bed because he was 'poorly', left the telly on full blast and didnt bring me up a cup of tea like he said he would.

Que another big argument at his refusal to try just for once to help me and he just started saying how he does it to wind me up on purpose, he doesn't want the baby and I should be lucky he stays with me.

I actually want to kill him! I knew he had a mean and selfish streak but that just knocked me sideways

Oh Raven - I am so sorry, this is the last thing you need.

I don't want to offer any advice because, well because I am not sure I would be helpful, but we are all here if you need to talk, vent, swear - whatever is necessary.

Sending big hugs, and love x x x

happydays77_2

Amy - sorry for the diabetes. My little man was just under 4lb at 30 weeks and got another scan tomorrow at 32 weeks to see how much the little tike has grown. I am also worried about having a section but have decided there is nothing I can do if that's what they decide and he's got to come out one way or another. Doesn't stop the panic though does it!
Raven - I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Like snoopy says it's good to vent and we are all hear to listen.
xxx

ginvzt

Ravenlady - so sorry about your news.... Hugs, and if you need to scream, please scream here as much as you want! Complain, share, anything! We are here for you.

ginvzt

Amymo wrote: »

I would happily give up work for Lent today, still no word on our funding, so can't take on maternity cover, and I know it's not my responsibility but I'm too darned conscientious, there's only one of me and the stress is ramping up!

I would like to give up work as well!!!!! I am getting more and more fed up with it all, and I am too tired to fight to get things sorted. I am fed up with my boss attitude that everything is going to be fine (and work gets delivered to the client months after the deadline). I feel embarrassed to see the client, as I am the one who is seeing him in person most on a different project.

Sammie_03

Ravenlady - big hugs, as others have said feel free to rant away on here. Hope you and kiddies are ok. Xxx

kelda_shelton

(((((Raven)))))

Gopppers

Big hugs ravenlady. And hugs to Amysquash too for the diabetes. Hopefully you will never have it again after this pregnancy xx

Asfor me, 33 weeks tomorrow, only 7 weeks to go

Ppl are also saying to me that I'm still quite small but the midwife has reassured me that I'm measuring fine. Plus I still only put on about 6 pounds in weight, expecting it to be more bit I suppose I still got time! I just seem to be hovering around the 10 stone mark for some reason even though I've been eating ok

Hugs to anyone else who need them. I've just got back from work and in bed relaxing!
Gops x