MSE Pregnancy Club 24

elj2287

Candycane wrote: »

Worse is my inlaws - they live 600 miles away and have talked about hiring a van to bring "all the stuff" :eek: and the horrible bity dog. I have told OH if that animal turns up it will be staying in the car or the garden. I mean who turns up to someone else's house to stay with a huge dog without specifically asking, especially when there is a new baby?

Oh my! What did your OH say? How long will they stay?!

Rups32

thanks ladies. i hate those feelings so much. DH has booked us a holiday to Italy next month and its after the scan and then as i wasawake, i was thinking, what if something happens? we have a holiday booked. I think (i know everyone has prob said this or heard this before) but i might rest more after the 20 week scan! knowing me, who knws? i just want to know that it ok. if i could i would scan myself everyday! lol

so funny about men and b00bs. what is it with them. yes i get that honk sound too and its irriating esp when sore. this morning i got groped by DH on the escalator and that is when i said what about my belly? lol. silly.

Candycane_2

elj2287 wrote: »

Oh my! What did your OH say? How long will they stay?!

Oh he's so laid back he thinks it will all work out fine. Its one of the reasons I love him but sometimes it drives me mad, especially as he will be right. He agrees about the dog and we have agreed if they bring all baby stuff they ever owned from 30 years ago we will make a selection and offer the rest back or take a trip to the tip. They seriously have a loft full of stuff, never thrown anything away since they got married 40 years ago.

elj2287

Wow, we have had a lot of things that the in laws have saved - many of which have been returned - bless them. They even saved a baby towel from 30 years ago which was slightly see through!! (The offer of that was declined in case you were wondering hehe)

LittleMissGiggle

hello ladies, I am sat here today trying to distract myself from my own thoughts, so thought i'd come see if anyone here has any advice..... I'm 12 days overdue and induction is booked for tomorrow. Have to ring the hospital at lunch time to see what time they want me to go in. LO is showing absolutely no signs of coming of its own accord so it seems induction tomorrow is inevitable.

I have just about got my head around the induction part, really hoping pessaries will be enough as my birth plan was detailing minimal monotoring and a water birth which will be a definate no if they have to use the IV drip to start me off. I've even almost got my head around the possibility that OH will have to go homeovernight if nothings happening, but what I cant get my head around is the possibility of a c-section. I am absolutely petrified of the thought of one, I can't bear it. I'm trying not to get stressed about it as it can trigger my asthma but it's there lurking in my mind and if i think about it i get close to tears, and I dont do tears!!!

Anyone have any advice to reassure me its not worth being scared of the possibility of csection???

Hope you are all well and thanks once again for being there even tho i dont post regularly!

sexymouse

LittleMissGiggle, I know it's easier said than done to not worry, as I worry about the slightest things, but having spoken to other teachers etc in staffrooms who've experienced both caesareans and vaginal deliveries, they all said that they recovered a lot quicker from the caesareans than they had done from the vaginal births. Having never had either myself, I can't comment from experience, but this certainly reassured me that if it had to come to a caesarean that hopefully it won't be too bad. Which part of the c-section is the bit that scares you the most? If it's the sounds you hear, you could try plugging yourself into an i-pod or similar - it may be an idea to do this anyway as I know you can get relaxation things to play on these that will help you in a similar way to hypnobirthing.

LittleMissGiggle

Hey SexyMouse, thanks for taking the time to reply! I had my appendix removed by key hole surgery a couple of years ago and my recovery from that was tough, so i think its that that worries me the most. I dont want to stay in hospital, i just want to get my baby and come home with my OH. The thought of being poorly and recovering from major surgery when all i want to do is look after my little one just gets me so wound up! I know it will only be done as a last resort for me or baby's health but it just feel like its looming over me!

Ah well I think i just have stay positive- the more positive i am the less likely it is to happen and we all get home quickly and without drama.

I just wish my body would do it naturally of its own accord without induction being required, but obviously not!

Anyway SM I hope you and little one are keeping well, can't believe this weekend it will all be over and i *should* be holding my baby!

savageHK

LittleMissGiggle, I read something fairly early on which has stuck with me (and I find it reassuring anyway!). You are going in to have a baby. The only goal is to have the baby, however it happens.
(It was written a bit better than that, but that's the idea!).
Hope it helps

Rups32

hugs littlemissgiggles. xxx i can understand your concern. try some meditation and also like you said, be positive and think of the time you will be home as soon as you are done with your baby.

this stupid new girl at work just scared the hell out of me. we are moving buildings in 2 weeks time so we had a meeting and we were in the lift, she jumped in and scared me. i am so jumpy. sometimes i wonder if that will harm my bubba as my heart starts racing so fast! idiot

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Morning all, well afternoon now I guess!

Well I'm 30 weeks today :j sounds very far along :eek: we're hopefully having our 4d scan tonight if bubba behaves himself this time
I'm quite tired today and achy so am gonna chill out with Me Ben and Mr Jerry

Emsbet I know you'll have a fun day out, hope you get your brownies
Ikkle welcome to the third trimester the countdown begins.
SM hope you're feeling better today, glad you got some nighties etc.
Rebekah you sound all organised! I'm hoping for perfection too, but I know m replying on others to do stuff and it's frustrating cos they take too long :-(
Clarissa I think all you can do is to say we just want it to be us there and we'll call you. Maybe she's just worried lots of others will see the baby before her?
My mum lives 300 miles away and is coming in November (baby due September) lol. Unless invited I doubt OH's parents will come to the hospital or indeed to the house until asked over. My sister on the other hand would love to be in the birthing room and I can imagine her marching the corridors until baby arrives. We'd like it to just be us in the room and she understands that. I was her birthing partner for her ds so I think she'd love to return the favour. I'm hoping to get home and a bit settled in before lots of visitors arrive on the doorstep. But i can't see that happening, hoping not to stay in hospital too long, but we'll see.
One thing I've seen happen though, it where mum wants her mum/dad and not the OH's and the OH gets all upset cos he wants his parents to be there too and not be left out.....cue major row.
Robyn you have to tell who you want, I'm sure everyone would love regular updates, but you'll be concentratin on you and baby. My understanding is if people know you're in labour then you will get lots of messages/calls asking for updates! It's your special time, gran has had hers.
Talking to bump I think I talk to him a lot, but sometimes I realise I'm not saying anything out loud. I talk to him in my head. OH is really lovely talking to him, not very indepth conversation tho! The fav question him and my sister is "are you still in there bubba?" Er I don't think he's escaped I might have noticed! OH also likes to blow raspberries lol.
Elj happy due date for tomorrow
Littlemissgiggles I've no past experience to share. I'm also scared that I might end up with a c section. I don't think I've met anyone that has has complications from one, only the normal pain etc after. I think you've just got to tell yourself that as long as baby is here and you are both safe that is the main goal. I know you have your birth plan, but try not to focus on that too much once you're there, prepare to be flexible. I say this but I know what I want and won't be happy if it doesn't go to MY plan. they won't be taking for a c section unless they think it's necessary. Just try and enjoy each moment as it happens. I think SM suggested good things, like music etc. induction can take a while so maybe try take some entertainment books, magazines etc. you might find you're on a ward with some lovely ladies who might be a good distraction. Good luck, and look forward to hearing your baby news
Good luck to those having appointments/scans today.
wow it's taken so long to type my post!
Think it could well be ice cream time now hehe!
hope you all have a good day xx