MSE Pregnancy Club 24

RebekahR

clarissa62 wrote: »

Rebekah - love your list!! I need to do the same. Thats a great thing to do this morning. Although I know i have covered off most of the bits you have to do.

How cute baby has hiccups, belly is going crazy!! lol

I know it's mad LOL. Once that carpet is in next Wednesday I will be much happier! Most of the above is optional really tbh.

Week 37 appointment with midwife today at 1230. Hoping she will ring the hospital to get me up day assessment for this scan as I know little lady is still breech. If not I am going to demand she does for the sake of my hospital bags packing lol. Wanna reduce 4 bags to 3 lol.

Once you have wrote yours stick it on here ... Incase i've forgotten something

RebekahR

clarissa62 wrote: »

Mummies - I have a problem with my mum and need your advice!!!

At what point are you planning to have the first visitors when bubba is born? Is anyone going to have the grandparents waiting at the hospital while in labour?

It transpires my mum has it in her head that she was going to be in the hospital while im in labour and wants to be there the moment he is born (not in the room while he is popping out). I am however horrified by the thought of this! In my mind I was hoping we'd be at home before we start getting the first visitors. She's now misinterpretted this and thinks I dont want her around and she won't be involved in the baby which isnt true at all (this actually makes me quite upset that she could even think this). I'm just naturally private person and feel me and baby's dad should have this time together for bonding. It doesnt help that we are 5 hours away...

I've not heard this direct from her, but my brother who lives with her rang me yesterday just worried about her. Apparently she was really upset on monday about it so I have to broach the subject tonight.

Similar situ here. Hubbys parents live 4 horus away and his mum wants ot come down at 2 or 3 days past baby being born. If I have a caesarean (likely at mo) I will only be released on day 3 and don't wanna come home to her here!! And my mum lives in the same town and keeps on going on about wanting to be at the birth and when hubby has dropped me at the hospital to have baby will he come and pick her up!!:eek::rotfl:Is she stupid?! LOL. I said we aren't having visitors at the birth. But the after time ... I just dunno when and how I will feel so can't make my mind up. My sister got home from hospital and had my dad and nan round 2 hours later :eek: Deffo ain't doing that. I wanna get straight in bed and go to sleep lol.

Rups32

i knew i forgot something - rebekah wow!! your list is so super organised. i wouldnt know where to begin!! i still dont know where to begin. need to start by sorting my head out and having stupid thoughts about the baby not being ok.

RebekahR

savageHK wrote: »

Ah Sexymouse - try to cool down, the shower sounds like a good idea. Is your blood pressure usually low or high? If it's low, and you overheat, the pressure goes even lower as your body tries to cool down!

Ah that explain my weird feelings a few days ago like then. My bp is around 90/60 and feel weird when I get over heated. Thanks for that.

robyn297

Clarissa - I can sympathise, I'm having a home birth and depending on what day baby boy decides to arrive my mum might be here(she arrives on 21 July and is staying with us as she lives in South Africa), she's been fantastic throughout my pregnancy, she's also said that she knows how important the first few hours are and that she'll leave my DH, baby and I alone(even if that is in the next room). My problem comes in with my gran, she has asked that I phone her as soon as I go into labour as she "wants to be there in spirit supporting me", whilst I don't want to exclude her, she tends to worry about everything and she drives me crazy, she's also a very negative person and has a view of whatever can go wrong will go wrong. Last week there was a gas explosion in Oldham she convinced herself that DH and I had been in the explosion within 30 seconds of seeing it on TV, she phoned in an absolute panic and was crying. And with the way she is I know she'll be texting/phoning every half hour for an update and I'm pretty certain at some point I'l say something that I regret. I've been googling for the past few days and the general consensus on the internet is that its your labour, birth and first few hours(at least) you need to do what makes you comfortable, even if that offends. I also came across an article that said labour can be prolonged if people upset you. I know my gran will be hurt by me not telling her, but when she had my mum and uncles she was able to do so privately(even if it was due to a lack of mobile phones!) and I deserve the same.

AMC1979

clarissa62 wrote: »

AMC - I know how you feel about getting midwife appointments. I had to go this week as needed to get birthing centre assessment done (should have been done at wk 34 appoint but baby was suspected breech). When I went on Tuesday she has asked to see me in two weeks time so for us both 39+4 and also requested a 41+4 week appointment (hoping i'm not going to need that one). I think if your really concerned you need to speak direct to the midwife you've been dealing with. I did that after some panicked phone calls because I couldn't get in for this weeks and needed the assessment done.

I suppose it's my own fault because I should have started making appointments well in advance, but until recently it was every 3 weeks then I think the last 2 appointments were every 2 weeks. I didn't expect to not be able to get an appointment. Should I make an appointment for after 40 weeks do you think, just in case?

The problem is I've been seeing another midwife mostly (on Tuesdays) but she's rubbish, really unhelpful, the last one I saw (on a Thursday) is better although still wouldn't win Midwife of the Year or anything. I left the phone message on the Thursday midwife's phone but as I rang on a Monday she has it on voicemail all the time as she doesn't work apart from Thur–Fri.

Hope your baby is ok Clarissa, has he moved position yet?

As for problem mothers, I told mine early on that I only wanted my husband in the delivery room. As much as I love my mum, she isn't the most cool-headed in stressful situations and I just know that my husband would be calmer and therefore better for me just to have him there. As for visitors, I was assuming, like others, that I wouldn't be in the hospital long enough to have them. My grandparents aren't alive and mum, although the nearest, lives over 90 mins away so it's not a quick trip. If there are no complications I would like to get out of hospital quickly.

I would just be honest with your mum and explain to her what you would like and that she can see the baby plenty when you're out of hospital (as you don't expect to be there that long anyway) but you think it's best that she visits at home after baby is born. If you reassure her and make her feel loved she should understand. You don't want too many visitors anyway just after you've given birth, even at home. My mum is going to visit the second week after baby's born as my husband is planning to take the first week's paternity leave, then go back to work the second, then take another week after that. I haven't got any other visitors planned though as I want to wait til baby's older and I've recovered!

Rebekah it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one waking so frequently and tossing and turning from side to side. I will only get less sleep after baby's born so I shouldn't complain!

dizsiebubba

Rups32 wrote: »

i knew i forgot something - rebekah wow!! your list is so super organised. i wouldnt know where to begin!! i still dont know where to begin. need to start by sorting my head out and having stupid thoughts about the baby not being ok.

Rups everybody worries... it is natural so don't beat yourself up for caring! I had really bad cramps, back pain and delicate tummy yesterday and I thought it was gonna be game over...kept going to the loo to check for any blood etc...finally got to sleep at 2am and when I woke up this morning at 6am I went straight to the loo to check. I had a listen with my doppler after that and the heartbeat is fine and I haven't had the cramps/aches/tummy today so it must have just been a bad day but it doesn't stop you thinking the worst...even after 3 scans! x

RebekahR

Rups32 wrote: »

i knew i forgot something - rebekah wow!! your list is so super organised. i wouldnt know where to begin!! i still dont know where to begin. need to start by sorting my head out and having stupid thoughts about the baby not being ok.

I didn't even think about anything baby related until after 12 weeks scan.
Then I allowed myself to plan what I wanted in nursery - research furniture etc etc and make a list. Once 20 weeks was out the way and safe I started buying stuff bit by bit. During all this I picked up things I would like to do but don't have to do once I go on maternity like craft stuff reading etc. And I wrote my list based on whats urgent - what i would like to do nut doenst mattter if not done - lists i need to make like (what i need to buy, what to pack in hospital bags etc) - another list for house stuff like deep clean, cook meals for freezer. Again jobs i would like to do but arnt urgent. And jsut break it all up so essentially there are 2 lists have to do and the world wont end if i dont get round to it. The reason its so big is that I had planned to take mat leave from 29 weeks to allow all the time in the world for all this - decorating and having spare time. However work were tittties and wouldn't let me go til 32 weeks. And since then we got half way through the decorating and then both the dishwasher and the washing machine broke :eek::eek:So decorating got put on hold mostly for hubby to sort these our. Still waiting on parts for dishwasher - can live without that but the washing machine is mended thank goodness! Tbh I went into all this with a big I want to do everything and make it perfect head. And life isn't like that so its a big lesson for me about not being able to be a perfectionist!!

dizsiebubba

Is anybody else totally in love with their bump?

I don't mean the actual bump...I mean the baby to come that is inside the bump...I keep saying 'my son this' and 'my boy that' and i'm worried I will be a MIL from hell (like my own MIL!)

ikkle87

I talk to the baby all the time Diszi, OH makes me laugh cos he lays with his head on my belly and whispers stuff to the baby too.