Please can you take your shoes off

coolcait

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

Why would you have dirty socks?

From having spent the day visiting friends who insist that I walk around their homes in my stockinged feet - picking up any dirt they have on their floors?

From sweating - especially inside boots or trainers, or on warm days?

TITEASCRAMP

JodyBPM wrote: »

With all due respect then, I definitely don't want to take my shoes off in your house - 10 year old carpets that have never been cleaned :eek: - I'd rather not put my bare feet on them! Especially if you have cats or dogs who's bottoms are regularly sat on the floor!:eek:

Well I dont have cats and dogs. And the proof is in the fact that if you wear white socks around my house they stay white.

TITEASCRAMP

Person_one wrote: »

Are you being treated at all for your OCD?

no I'm not.

TITEASCRAMP

coolcait wrote: »

From having spent the day visiting friends who insist that I walk around their homes in my stockinged feet - picking up any dirt they have on their floors?

From sweating - especially inside boots or trainers, or on warm days?

You would be fine here. Your socks would stay clean.

coolcait

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

Everyone who knows me knows I have ocd's and that I can't help it. I have bought her slippers (just for her). My house is boiling everyone tells me it too hot.

What have you tried doing to help you deal with/manage your OCD? Seriously.

If you're trying to manage it by making everyone else follow 'rules', then that's not dealing with the problem. It's not going to help you manage or overcome your OCD.

And it may lead to you losing friends and family.

While you may the kindest, friendliest person who ever lived, it sounds as if visiting your home could become a nightmare.

How does anyone relax in the face of your fear that they are bringing in germs? How can they be sure that they are not breaking some known or unknown rule, or that they are causing you some kind of trauma by inadvertently creating dirt? How do they cope with the discomfort of being in a house that is 'boiling', and which everyone tells you is 'too hot'?

How do you manage with visiting other people's homes, especially ones where there isn't a 'shoes off' rule? If you cant/don't visit other people because of your OCD, that's another sign that you probably have to tackle it.

Fascinating though this thread has been, I think you have posted for advice on how to deal with a symptom, rather than addressing the underlying problem.

I hope you find a way to work it out.

TITEASCRAMP

coolcait wrote: »

What have you tried doing to help you deal with/manage your OCD? Seriously.
Im fine with it.
If you're trying to manage it by making everyone else follow 'rules', then that's not dealing with the problem. It's not going to help you manage or overcome your OCD.
I'm only asking please can you take your shoes off. I dont see it as a big deal.

And it may lead to you losing friends and family.
If they would fall out with me because I ask them to remove their shoes, they weren't worth having.

While you may the kindest, friendliest person who ever lived, it sounds as if visiting your home could become a nightmare.
Why I've only asked you please can you remove your shoes.
How does anyone relax in the face of your fear that they are bringing in germs? How can they be sure that they are not breaking some known or unknown rule, or that they are causing you some kind of trauma by inadvertently creating dirt? How do they cope with the discomfort of being in a house that is 'boiling', and which everyone tells you is 'too hot'?
I dont have any other rules. Yes our house is hot. In Summer its boiling. Thats why we have installed air con.
How do you manage with visiting other people's homes, especially ones where there isn't a 'shoes off' rule? If you cant/don't visit other people because of your OCD, that's another sign that you probably have to tackle it.
I dont have a problem visiting other peoples houses at all.
Fascinating though this thread has been, I think you have posted for advice on how to deal with a symptom, rather than addressing the underlying problem.
I wanted to know the nicest way to ask without causing offence. Clearly I will always upset someone. But thats life.
I hope you find a way to work it out.

Thankyou

peaceandfreedom

splishsplash wrote: »

I have a Bissel pro-heat something or other. It's like a vacuum cleaner, you just add warm water and a bit of carpet shampoo, and run it round instead of vacuuming. It takes me about 20 - 30 minutes to do upstairs, that includes all the faffing about filling and emptying it and rinsing it out afterwards. It's got tools for awkward and hard to reach places. Leaves the carpets smelling lovely and they dry in a couple of hours. A sound investment for anyone with animals.

I see, Thanks (and thanks to Jody as well). We don't have animals and we also don't have carpets - there are a couple of rugs which I get cleaned occasionally but that's it. It always seems such a palaver, I couldn't imagine doing it every week. But what you and Jody have described sounds like a good idea actually, one of the rugs is quite big and well-used so it could do with more frequent washing. Still 100% confident I wouldn't clean them once a week though.

coolcait

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

Thankyou

Thank you for that comprehensive confirmation of your status.

luxor4t

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DH would wreck them inside two days - that was his record for the last palish carpet we bought. Coffee mug on the floor (because he wouldn't put it on the coaster on the table) sudden foot movement and ... an indelible stain. Maybe the Vax wasn't as efficient in those dats, but it didn't shift the stain .

Person_one

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

no I'm not.

Have you considered it? I'm afraid it's not at all usual for a ten year old carpet to look brand new in a house where people actually live. Keeping your home clean to such a level must have taken a lot of your time and mental energy over the years, would you not prefer it if you could relax just once in a while?