Please can you take your shoes off

thatgirlsam

I think its too familiar to, I actually feel quite uncomfortable if someone comes in and takes their shoes off!

Especially when they have minging feet and that has happened before

I don't mind at all taking my shoes off in someone elses house, I have clean feet, clean socks with no holes etc

But one particular person I know asks for shoes off (even has a sign on the door!).. and their house stinks of cat litter trays!
I think the floor is quite clean and at least the smell hides the stench of stinky feet but I just find it funny that someone is so particular about their carpet not being marked but has a house that stinks of kitty poo!!

Plans_all_plans

I hardly ever remove my shoes in my house, in fact the only time I do is when I know I'm not leaving the house again that day. I've got better things to do than worry about my carpet!

HOWEVER, if I went to someone else's home and they took their shoes off at the door, I would take mine off also. I would consider it bad manners to do otherwise. Likewise, if people come to my house and start taking their shoes off, I tell them not to bother!

My husband was from a "no shoes indoors" house though and I think my attitude might wind him up at times, so I suppose it depends how you were brought up to some extent.

Errata

"Shoes off in my house please, and please pay no attention to the litter tray full of cat's leavings in the kitchen or the fact that the cat walks all over the worktops" :rotfl:

lostinrates

bylromarha wrote: »

Isn't this all about the people you have visiting though? If we had a no shoes rule, then the regular visitors would know this, I would know if removing shoes would cause pain or not and they could choose to bring slippers or whatever. Despite not having a no shoes rule, lots of regular friends bring their slippers with them as THEY have a no shoes rule.

If a stranger came into my house I would never expect them to remove their shoes, even if we did have a no shoes rule. Feet in socks is a bit familiar I think. If people ask when they come in, then fair enough (as has happened with kids home visits from teachers, sales reps etc) but would never ask a stranger to slipper up!

No, most of my drop in and chat neighbours and not see very often, or newer friends...less than five years, and e en some of my family I have never discussed my condition with. I wouldn't expect them to know. On bad days no one sees me because I don't go out and cancel plans. On days I could go out I often don't because of many things, but the shoes would rank as a detterant for me on such a day. A lot of people who know me would describe me as lazy and flakey and unreliable rather than i,l enough to find doing shoes hard.

WelshBluebird

For those who do have such a rule, if you are having a large item delivered, would you make the delivery person take off their shoes before bringing the item into the house??

lostinrates

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

My husband was from a "no shoes indoors" house though and I think my attitude might wind him up at times, so I suppose it depends how you were brought up to some extent.

And how you live. If your house is primarily a family nest, it would be very different from how we live. We have like having friends to stay, and in the morning in summer the doors downstairs are open and people wander from house to garden and garden to house. Our home is not about family/children as we don't have them, but is about gardening and entertaining and cooking and laughing and doing stuff that gets floors dirty sometimes. My husband did once allow one of the horses into the utility room and the room that backs onto the garden (the horses were cutting the back lawn for us:o). My friends son comes here a lot and he toddles in and out, playing with the dogs, checking out the flowers in the garden with me, in winter with shoes on, in summer I at least am barefoot.

Neither is right or wrong, just different IMO.

thatgirlsam

lostinrates wrote: »

And how you live. If your house is primarily a family nest, it would be very different from how we live. We have like having friends to stay, and in the morning in summer the doors downstairs are open and people wander from house to garden and garden to house. Our home is not about family/children as we don't have them, but is about gardening and entertaining and cooking and laughing and doing stuff that gets floors dirty sometimes. My husband did once allow one of the horses into the utility room and the room that backs onto the garden (the horses were cutting the back lawn for us:o). My friends son comes here a lot and he toddles in and out, playing with the dogs, checking out the flowers in the garden with me, in winter with shoes on, in summer I at least am barefoot.

Neither is right or wrong, just different IMO.

That sounds like my kinda house

We have french doors off the living room so my children and their friends and my family and friends all wander in and out during the summer

If I insisted on shoes I would be saying every 5 minutes and it would be seriously inconvenient for guests if they had to take shoes off every time they had to pop indoors for something

But thats why we have wooden floors, each mark or scuff adds to the beauty of the wood and its so easy to clean

globalds

No shoes in my house but if you were a guest who wasn't a regular than it would not bother me either way.

I did grow up in a shoes on house but then lived for a few years in Japan and it just seems the more logical thing to not wear outside shoes when inside.
I think a warmer climate probably helps ...Or a warmer house. If my feet were cold all the time I would want to wrap them up in something more.

victory

Talking about shoes house to garden,garden to house, we used to visit a house that had a tiny mat at the entrance so we had to take our shoes off hovering either at the front door before we got in or on the tiny mat, hold them in our hand, walk through to the back of the house where the kitchen was and a 'shoe area' then if we wanted to go out to the garden we had to go back to the kitchen,pickthe shoes up, carry them to the mat at the back door, put them on, be in the garden and then the whole process again what a palava:rotfl::rotfl:

flippin36

EndlessStruggle wrote: »

At a friends house they have a cute little vintage style sign asking for people to take shoes off, seems to do the trick. Maybe get in a few pairs of cheap slippers for those who don't like being without something on their feet.

My auntie went from everyone must take their shoes off OUTSIDE the house (she didn't even want peoples shoes on her mat) to insisting we wear slippers when we visit, she has them lined up in the hallway. The thought of wearing slippers other than my own makes me heave tbh . I took my own once and she didn't like that because she didn't know where they had been. To be fair they had seen better days but on the whole its a mine field.

I also know another parent from school who invited me for a coffee. She was quite snooty about me taking my shoes off (as though she was talking to the kids) which did get my back up. But what amazed me is that her carpets were completely thread bare and incredibly dirty. Her whole house smelled greasy and there were grease marks up the wall. The kitchen carpet was covered in crumbs and muck where the kids had been glueing and sticking. I'm completely convinced its about control rather than protecting her carpets (she's a very bossy, uptight person). Bizarre. I consider my house to be nicely furnished and I frequently get new rugs and have spent a lot of money refurbishing it - she never once has taken her shoes off in my house and neither did her kids when they came to visit. I asked the kids but I didn't have the nerve to ask her.