Please can you take your shoes off

TITEASCRAMP

Torry_Quine wrote: »

By when did this come in I mean until very recently I'd never heard of this, far less come across it and just wondered what the reason was, also wondered if some areas are more shoes on or shoes off.

I'm in the minority where I live and the people I know I can only think of me and 1 other person who requests this.

lostinrates

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

Totally understand and in this case it would be different. But I have never had any visit my home who had a problem pysically taking them off or walking without them on.

The point is you might not know. Someone with a bad back, perhaps a severe chronic fatigue where any movement is labour some, for me it's a neurological condition, some days I can run, others I cannot move, most I'm just aches and moving hurts. There are a plethora of things you won't necessarily know a visitor has and that they prefer not to share:o

DUKE

I used to ask people to take their shoes off when I first moved into my new place & I had all new stuff, some family members actually looked at me like I'd gone barmy :eek: People should respect your property, cheeky devils! Although my Polish neighbour & my Jamaican neighbour always take their shoes off when they pop round, & I never ask them to.

BlondeHeadOn

lostinrates wrote: »

The point is you might not know. Someone with a bad back, perhaps a severe chronic fatigue where any movement is labour some, for me it's a neurological condition, some days I can run, others I cannot move, most I'm just aches and moving hurts. There are a plethora of things you won't necessarily know a visitor has and that they prefer not to share:o

Quite!

A lot of people might find it difficult just taking there shoes off, if they are not very flexible or have good balance. Or have pain doing so.

TBH I don't like the "no shoes" policy at all - I think it's sometimes quite thoughtless.

TITEASCRAMP

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

Quite!

A lot of people might find it difficult just taking there shoes off, if they are not very flexible or have good balance. Or have pain doing so.

TBH I don't like the "no shoes" policy at all - I think it's sometimes quite thoughtless.

I dont mean to be thoughtless. The only people I have round are family and friends and I know they are all fine pysically.
If you have a look at post 69 you can see the reasons I ask

seven-day-weekend

TITEASCRAMP wrote: »

I am so confused with your view. For me the thought of out door shoes inside the house is disgusting.
Our house is very clean and warm and comfortable. I walk around in socks or bare footed. The thought of what are on the pavements (a place where dogs have pee'd and poo'd) being them trambled into my home is gross. I have to walk on these floors as does my small child have to play. Plus once I go to bed my feet are then on my bed sheets.
I know I am probably a bit ott with cleaning, but also I paid a lot of money for my carpets and don't want to have to replace them in the near future.

My intention was never to offend anyone by asking them to remove their shoes.
I must admit I do like hearing from people who find it strange or awkward. It gives me an insite to why I seem to be upsetting people.

I do not mind removing my shoes (although you would have to ask me, I'd never think to do it ), but the thought of recycled slippers, which some people have mentioned, makes me cringe. Although once I went somewhere and had to remove my shoes, I had no socks on and they had tiled floors, ny feet were b100dy freezing!

RadoJo

I've never asked anyone to take their shoes off in my house and would probably feel a little uncomfortable if someone asked me to at their house - I often don't wear socks and would prefer not to have to be barefoot in someone else's house. Forewarned is forearmed in this case, and if I knew in advance I would be happy to take my slippers with me, but I think that might be the best way to avoid offence as I would not like to wear 'guest slippers' or even have my own socks at someone else's house because synthetic fabrics make my feet smell and I would be really embarrassed to leave them there. My husband might find it more difficult as, like an earlier poster, he wears insoles which fit into his shoes and has times when it's painful not to be wearing these. Depending on how well we knew someone, he might prefer not to have to share his medical details in order to be welcomed into their house, which I can see being an issue for some people.

seven-day-weekend

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I was sure I wrote a reply but it's gone. :mad:

When did this taking off your shoes come in and also is it more prevalent in certain parts otf the country?

I can only remember ever being asked once to remove my shoes and felt very awkward and uncomfortable not least because I ended up sitting on the floor to take them off. It would never have occurred to me to ask someone to take off their shoes, if the carpet gets dirty then it will clean.

I do wear slippers at home but wait until I'm properly in before changing as I'm not about to sit in the hallway.

Yes, same here, the floor will clean, it's no big deal to me . I'd much rather people felt welcome in my house, whatever they were wearing. And some of the people I've had in my house, I'd much rather they kept their shoes firmly on!:rotfl:

BlondeHeadOn

There was a thread in the 'house buying and selling' forum a while back from someone who had their house up for sale - and was insisting that anyone who came to view the house had to take their shoes off before being allowed to look round!

She was quite surprised when some potential viewers left without bothering to view.....

Errata

I've also never been asked to remove my shoes and I certainly haven't asked any visitor to remove theirs. I can imagine the look on the face of my doctor or any of the nurses or paramedics or police if I asked them to :rotfl:
Perhaps it is a regional thing.