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Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it
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PasturesNew wrote: »Is this common knowledge, or did I miss something?
I thought everybody had a big house here (except me).
Nah, my house, although 3 bedrooms is of the small 3 bedroom variety.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Oh nikkster.
I really hated approaching my thirtieth. I felt grim, and although different circumstances i was back home too. I reckon its an increasing situation in 'our' generation.
There is actually no need to make a duss, some of the nice people wished me happy birthday and we kept it low key...as we tend to tbh. Bank holidays on the other hand, they are worth celebrating.
But i thik you have stuff to be happy about, you made a big adult decision before a big birthday and that has made the world your oyster again.
If i don't remember at the weekend please know right now i am wishing you the best year yet in your life.
Brilliantly put, lir. All the best, Nikkster! Hope it's not as bad as you fear.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.
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lostinrates wrote: »If i don't remember at the weekend please know right now i am wishing you the best year yet in your life.
Thanks lir. Despite moaning, I am sure that I've made the right move - I certainly couldn't have stuck it out where I was living/ working any longer (it had been way too long as it was). And I'm more than aware that I'm incredibly lucky to have had somewhere to move to/ the support of my parents etc. I've never particularly made a big fuss over my birthday (although I'm happy to do so for others). I think that I'm just coming to terms with some of the things that have happened in the past few years, how far away I am from where I thought I would be etc. All of my peers seem to be married, having children, with great jobs etc and none of that seems anywhere near the horizon. I know I need to focus on moving myself forwards, but its easier said than done!0 -
Brilliantly put, lir. All the best, Nikkster! Hope it's not as bad as you fear.
It'll be fine. As I said I'm not into making a big fuss over birthdays anyway - the past couple of years I've been at work on the day itself and generally gone for a walk by myself in the evening as I'd had an argument with my now ex-OH!
And just in case my previous post sounded otherwise, I'm quite happy being single. I think its the change of pace moving back up here too - if I'd moved elsewhere (even out of London but not back to my parents) I would be more than happy doing things/ going places on my own. Its just that feeling that I should have achieved x,y,z by now and I clearly haven't!0 -
I have two exits from my house to the outside world, a front door and a back door.....could be more if I could squeeze out of a window though (been there, done it and got the T shirt and scratches to prove it!)
The band my middle son is in has got their first proper gig on Saturday, a charity gig, 20 minute slot, so it is going to be fun and games with transporting a bleddy great drum kit to the venue, so glad I opted for an estate car!We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
I think the "I thought I'd have had kids by now" thing is a big part of what makes turning 30 difficult for a lot of women. It certainly was for me.
It was 7 weeks after we'd moved to a new place, and we hardly knew anybody, and I wasn't very happy to be 30, and I didn't want to celebrate it, so we didn't organise anything. And then on the day before, or maybe the day itself, I suddenly realised that actually I did want to celebrate it, but by then it was too late to sort anything out.
30 feels a very very long time ago now, though.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I have two exits from my house to the outside world, a front door and a back door.....could be more if I could squeeze out of a window though (been there, done it and got the T shirt and scratches to prove it!)
The band my middle son is in has got their first proper gig on Saturday, a charity gig, 20 minute slot, so it is going to be fun and games with transporting a bleddy great drum kit to the venue, so glad I opted for an estate car!
Referring to my previous 'home', I think there was only one real exit to the outside world - via the front door. We were on the first floor so although it would have been possible to exit via the window I would only have done so if I really really had no other options!
That's exciting about the gig - hope it all goes well for them. And for you on roadie duty!0 -
My mother said about birthdays is fun as you get older. She did say though that 'older' date keeps getting pushed back, as life used to begin and forty, now its sixty, and with raising retirement ages must be seventy mow. She says once peple start admitting 'life begins again now' like when kids have grown up etc, and you are allowed wrnkles its all more fun and you want it acknowledged again. I did notice she had several 70ths though.
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I think the "I thought I'd have had kids by now" thing is a big part of what makes turning 30 difficult for a lot of women. It certainly was for me.
It was 7 weeks after we'd moved to a new place, and we hardly knew anybody, and I wasn't very happy to be 30, and I didn't want to celebrate it, so we didn't organise anything. And then on the day before, or maybe the day itself, I suddenly realised that actually I did want to celebrate it, but by then it was too late to sort anything out.
30 feels a very very long time ago now, though.
Well if I change my mind and want more of a fuss I don't have many people to invite - and they all live miles away - so it won't change much!
One of my ex-colleagues (aged 31) told us that she had been to the GP for a repeat prescription. All was going fine until the GP looked at her date of birth and he asked her if she was in a relationship. She replied that she was (its a complicated one though and not married/ engaged etc) to which the GP said that she should really think about starting to try for a child as she wasn't getting any younger :eek: I have no idea how I would have reacted to that!0 -
lostinrates wrote: »My mother said about birthdays is fun as you get older. She did say though that 'older' date keeps getting pushed back, as life used to begin and forty, now its sixty, and with raising retirement ages must be seventy mow. She says once peple start admitting 'life begins again now' like when kids have grown up etc, and you are allowed wrnkles its all more fun and you want it acknowledged again. I did notice she had several 70ths though.
Well I've never heard anyone say life begins at 30 - so I guess I'm allowed to still be not doing very much with it! I do already have some lines/ wrinkles. And I have dark brown hair so the grey definitely shows up... (Michaels!)0
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