Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

Nikkster

misskool wrote: »

Sorry, no offence but they are only huge and unstructured if you've not been properly supervised for it.

A piece of research is very rigid (science/english/social work) and you are specifically confined to your question. You need to be brought back to it when you start wandering around at more interesting things :rotfl: , which is where a good supervisor is worth their weight in gold.

One of the major points of writing up the d.a.m.n.e.d. thing is to be able to present a piece of coherent work.

I still hate writing up , much prefer the researching bit

Agree about the structured/ unstructured bit. Am trying to focus on the smaller parts and hope that before I know it they have joined together to form something lovely and cohesive and sufficiently long

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

Easter gifts? Other than eggs?

Posh alert for PN!

My friends little boy who i take care of a couple of times a week (dflbwitco?) is getting two colouring books and a sticker book. He's just getting chatty and enjoys 'scibbing booby'. (scribbling for lir) and his granny gives him enough chocolate. I was trying to find a picolo for dh, and might have tracked one down to collect later, they are calling me back, but he will in any case be getting The joy of a long weekend, so he might get a 'jerry can' of petrol for the strimmer

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

Oh dear. Sounds rough. Hope your parents are looking after you.

Only those of us who have suffered through a thesis really get how burdensome they are. I remember telling someone that I felt as though mine was a process of wading through treacle of inexorably increasing viscosity, and I wasn't sure if I would be able to get to the end of it before it hardened completely and I came to a complete halt. But I finished in the end, and I passed, and now I'm Dr J, so there is hope for you too.



Ooops. I should have read it properly instead of just the first paragraph or so because I was in a hurry. Yes, you're right. :rotfl:

My undergrad thesis suffered from foot and mouth problems. Two years of work (i started early cause i was enthusiastic, and it was to be the first part of the project i followed through in post grad work) missing its penultimate and final test results. I wept and wept, and had to tirn in An unfinished experiement and very good review on literature already produced. On the day of my viva i got my first episode of bells palsy, right in the middle of the stupid thing. I was not terribly stressed by the work, but the feeling of my face dropping and starting to dribble was alarming, and my lecturers thought i was having a stroke. Everyone was horrified i did not sit exams with retakers instead of ploughing on with them, but once knew what it was it was ok. If only we had known it might be an indication of a greater brain defect then!

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

Sorry, no offence but they are only huge and unstructured if you've not been properly supervised for it.

A piece of research is very rigid (science/english/social work) and you are specifically confined to your question. You need to be brought back to it when you start wandering around at more interesting things :rotfl: , which is where a good supervisor is worth their weight in gold.

One of the major points of writing up the d.a.m.n.e.d. thing is to be able to present a piece of coherent work.

I still hate writing up , much prefer the researching bit

I used to like writing up, and Enjoyed editing frioends stuff too, because you learned about what they were doing. I had a reputation as a decimator of word counts, so wafflers and space fillers never asked me to read theirs with a red pen. Ironic that i am now a huge waffler!

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

I should really have left where I was living and the person I was living with about 3 years ago, and certainly should have moved back up here over a year earlier. But I'm here now, and am definitely feeling looked after.

I'm sure I've used the 'wading' analogy many times before, and I certainly have been through a prolonged standstill period from being tired of trying to keep moving. I'm giving myself this week off (I have a vast amount of [STRIKE]junk [/STRIKE] vitally important stuff to assimilate into the belongings that have lived at my parents' for the last however many years whilst I have not, and then I will be re-acquainting myself with what feels like my previous life! (and not just spending my time aimlessly on the internet...)

I think you sound as if being terribly brave. Huge life changes often go hand in hand with other huge lifechanges, but it makes them no easier.


Enjoy your week off.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

I think you sound as if being terribly brave. Huge life changes often go hand in hand with other huge lifechanges, but it makes them no easier.


Enjoy your week off.

Thanks lir

Not sure about the terribly brave bit, things have been dragging on in the same unhappy rut for way too long - then was coming to the end of my contract at work (could have renewed, but was too much work, too much of a stressful environment), hated where I was living (sharing a studio flat, at least three hours a day commuting, area not esp nice) and needed to get out of relationship (where to start with that one?!).

I couldn't think of which one to start with first (and there was the unfinished thesis lurking in the background too) so decided in Nov last year that it seemed like a good plan to do it all at once :rotfl:.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

If someone offered me a breathe mint I would take it as a sign that I needed to concentrate on my oral hygiene rather than that I was Gods gift...

..I associate this 'thinking that one is specail' with a public school education, controversial for NP thread I know and we have done that debate so don't need to again.

I am like Viva, 5'11 (and a half) but only a 31 inside leg. I find I have to buy shirts in sizes that drown me so that they stay tucked in. Funnily enough I also find there is not enough leg room on planes and theatres - may be it is only below the knee that I am a dwarf?!

If someone offered me a breath mint they already had a packet of i would assume they were sharing, being polite.

Re public school...i really think thats potentially your bias speaking....in fact, i would say boarding etc can have the absolute opposite result, but the parenting of some children going to those schools (and any school) is where the difference can come from.

I haven't watch towie but a friend told me its full of people who think they are special but are ordinary but attractive? Dunno, as i say, haven't seen it. A guilty pleasue is the weird housewife thing on itv2 in the afternoon....and that is weird...groups of women (rich and spoilt) who really think they are absolutely the bees knees, Needless to say they argue A LOT.

I also do not think there is much correlation between thinking you are special and being pretty extraordinary, apart from one can lead to the other simply by the power of positive thinking, but inversely can make one rather ordinary striving to be different. iMO the only satisfaction to be gained is in trying to be yourself....and whether that ends up like lots of peoplle or a bit of a freak, if it makes you happy thats what is important.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Thanks lir

Not sure about the terribly brave bit, things have been dragging on in the same unhappy rut for way too long - then was coming to the end of my contract at work (could have renewed, but was too much work, too much of a stressful environment), hated where I was living (sharing a studio flat, at least three hours a day commuting, area not esp nice) and needed to get out of relationship (where to start with that one?!).

I couldn't think of which one to start with first (and there was the unfinished thesis lurking in the background too) so decided in Nov last year that it seemed like a good plan to do it all at once :rotfl:.

Bot my siblings in law have been sitting on theirs, but for visa purposes, Rather depressing stance for them to take imo.

misskool

lostinrates wrote: »

Bot my siblings in law have been sitting on theirs, but for visa purposes, Rather depressing stance for them to take imo.

relationships for visas?

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

relationships for visas?

Not relationships...both are going out with europeans also in states. But once the get their PhDs they have to get jobs or get out. Both have been aplying somewhat unsuccessfuly for proper jobs (they are both working in universities but doing not green card worthy jobs, i think they are teaching modern languages but not sure, might be teaching literature too, but on short term roles). They both want to stay, not least now their dad is resident and its their family base as a result. Not really sure the ins and outs of what is happening with them, i know they saw an immigration lawyer over their recently. I think for one there is a hope that having the baby over there might be the solution.