EBAY - Item sold and unable to supply!!

angelcake

Blacksheep1979 wrote:

Yes family should come first but the coddling and letting children get away with whatever they want is (I believe) at least partly responsible for the state this country is in. I mean in regards to chav/scally kids hanging arround taunting people giving lip to cops carrying knives robbing etc.

If you want your child to grow up with respect and a decent outlook on life they have to realise the consequences of their actions wether for good or for bad and stick to these original agreements. If a child sees their parents trying to wriggle out of agreements wether legally or morally binding they will see this as ok and follow that lead.

OMG someone has taken it completely the wrong way!!!!!! Its not that serious!

OP - I am sure if you don't sell this your daughter is not going to go out armed with a knife and big hoop earrings....... :rolleyes:

FloFlo

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A_LANCASHIRE_LAD_2

ginstar wrote:

Please, please help. I have sold an unwanted item on ebay for approx £170 which belonged to my daughter. She has since changed her mind and I dont have the heart to part with it now. To replace this item new would cost me in excess of £500. I have no idea what to do and am finding the whole situation really stressfull, what shall I do??? what is the best way of cancelling this now sold item - I have not accepted to payment but need to get this situation resolved. Thanks

Go through with the sale id teach her a lesson that she cannot change her mind ! harsh yes but thats me

mrbrightside842

Blacksheep1979 wrote:

It all starts somewhere and if you're willing to break one of societies rules then its a short step to breaking another.

I reckon it's a fairly BIG step from not completing an ebay sale to carrying a knife around. There's a difference between breaking ettiquette and breaking the law.

mrbrightside842

A_LANCASHIRE_LAD wrote:

Go through with the sale id teach her a lesson that she cannot change her mind ! harsh yes but thats me

Ok we get your point. People are all for teaching their kids lessons in a harsh way, I reckon parenting has more to do with how people's kids turn out, not failing to comply to the rules of ebay. And all these people who are saying 'teach your kid a lesson', how many of you have kids?

Beate

Well I am sorry but I agree. Wether an ebay auction is legally binding or not, it should at least be morally binding. You have promised to sell it and promises should not be broken. All this tosh about how families come first has got nothing to do with the fact that a promise is a promise. Why should ebay rules be broken just because a spoilt child suddenly changes her mind? And some of you just pat her on the back and say, that's okay, just LIE to the buyer??? How would you feel if you had bid on that item and were fobbed off with an excuse? Tell you what, I would report you to ebay and no way would I agree to a deal in which you get your listing fees back as well!

FloFlo

FGS just email the buyer the truth be apologetic and hope for the best. I've had many buyers let me down with feeble excuses and have never resorted to reporting them. I have also made mistakes where I have not been able to post an item due to damage, fortunately the buyer was more understanding than some of you. I would personally now avoid this thread and cheer up my daughter.

angelcake

I think the op is avoiding the thread now!! I bloomin would!!!!

why do people over react about things?

Blacksheep1979

angelcake wrote:

OMG someone has taken it completely the wrong way!!!!!! Its not that serious!

OP - I am sure if you don't sell this your daughter is not going to go out armed with a knife and big hoop earrings....... :rolleyes:

I never said it was an instant transformation, but if the kid see's that its ok to go back on deals, lie about it to get their own way its not a very good example and one that the kid will quite possibly imitate.

When I was a kid the threat of being taken home by the cops or the school calling my parents was a very real worry - my parents wouldn't make excuses for me or give grief to the cop/school but that is whats happening more and more these days and rubs off on the children.

Now if the parent is willing to bend to poor little kiddies will on this what happens when she gets taken home by the cops for shoplifting? She says she really wanted it? 'Oh thats ok deary'. Or she didn't do it - she's been framed etc etc.

Its the softly softly approach - parents overly backing up kids for fear of hurting their feelings, giving into their every whim, not believing that their children are causing trouble - 'as look at how they helped out their gran, they are so sweet'. Its about time you held your hand up as bad kids are pretty much 100% a result of bad parenting.

And why would you or the op avoid this thread? Its not like someone is breaking your legs - or could it be the fact that they know its wrong not to sell the item?

Just because you don't agree with a certain opinion doesn't make it any less valid and certainly doesn't make it an overreaction. Its my view on why the op should stick to her original agreement - I have backed it up with an argument, its what rational people do, you are asked something you say what you would do and why.

susplum

Blacksheep1979 wrote:

I never said it was an instant transformation, but if the kid see's that its ok to go back on deals, lie about it to get their own way its not a very good example and one that the kid will quite possibly imitate.

When I was a kid the threat of being taken home by the cops or the school calling my parents was a very real worry - my parents wouldn't make excuses for me or give grief to the cop/school but that is whats happening more and more these days and rubs off on the children.

Now if the parent is willing to bend to poor little kiddies will on this what happens when she gets taken home by the cops for shoplifting? She says she really wanted it? 'Oh thats ok deary'. Or she didn't do it - she's been framed etc etc.

Its the softly softly approach - parents overly backing up kids for fear of hurting their feelings, giving into their every whim, not believing that their children are causing trouble - 'as look at how they helped out their gran, they are so sweet'. Its about time you held your hand up as bad kids are pretty much 100% a result of bad parenting.

And why would you or the op avoid this thread? Its not like someone is breaking your legs - or could it be the fact that they know its wrong not to sell the item?

Just because you don't agree with a certain opinion doesn't make it any less valid and certainly doesn't make it an overreaction. Its my view on why the op should stick to her original agreement - I have backed it up with an argument, its what rational people do, you are asked something you say what you would do and why.

Whether or not anyone agrees with your POV is irrelevant, you are using this thread as a social commentary and that is not what this is intended for, I think that is why the OP is avoiding the thread.

And as for your comment Just because you don't agree with a certain opinion doesn't make it any less valid... what are you doing???? You are on here criticising the opinion of others.