Claiming DLA and Esa

bestpud

mazza111 wrote: »

They won't be able to claim until seeing a doctor. That's why she came here for advice.

I seriously believe claiming disability benefits will hold this young couple back years.

bestpud

colpol1 wrote: »

A lot of it is done online but not all of it, he does go in and ask, hand out CVS ect..and he has done plenty of voluntary.

I'm not sure 'plenty' is what he should be aiming for.

His time would be better served finding a voluntary role with a worthwhile charity, or company, and sticking it out long term.

He seems to have done lots of this and plenty of that and the danger is he looks like a flitter who is just doing all the little bits and piece he needs to do to keep his benefit. It hasn't worked in three years so he needs to change.

I really do not believe that anyone who really wants a job can be unemployed for three years.

FBaby

If someone brake their back and are temporary paralysed, they don't suddenly manage to run a 100 yards away through sitting on their bed and hoping some miracle drug is going to cure them or that time on its own will make them better. As those who have experienced it will testify, it takes pushing their boundaries, the pain, accepting little rewards for a lot of efforts, and an iron will to finally get back to where they were, or somewhere there.

Depression is not much different. To get out of it, you have to accept that you're going to have to go against what your mind is telling you to do, that is to stay safe and stress-free. OP, at your age, you should definitely focus on your recovery rather than on how much money you can get out of benefits. You have a life ahead of you, and all your dreams to make true. You feel that you can't accomplish what others take for granted, you can, it just feel insurmontable at the moment, because depression is making you feel you can't do things you are actually perfectly capable of doing. Instead of seeking help with getting DLA, use the little energy you have to push yourself to do the things you will need to get through to get better.

Don't plan on contacting CAB for advice, instead, make it a mission to be able to go to them, starting by getting to the end of the road etc... You are not a victim because you can get out of your prison, but you need to dig the hole to do it. Do go and see your GP for help, but in the end, you need to make yourself better, you need to start thinking what you can do, however little it is, and stop focussing on the 'I can't'.

I've been there, deep depression, I know what it is like, but having experienced it myself only reinforced how clear it is that the only way to bit depression is to fight it head on yourself, however long the battle takes...

JillyJolly_2

colpol1 wrote: »

Thank you so much! After everyone giving out to me was nice to hear someone offer some good advice

My intentions where always good! As said go see doc and get help! Lots of help out there.

This is an Internet forum and there allot of "cyber bullies" they especially harder to newer forum members. Ignore these childish cyber bullies and just take the useful posts to heart.

colpol1

JillyJolly wrote: »

My intentions where always good! As said go see doc and get help! Lots of help out there.

This is an Internet forum and there allot of "cyber bullies" they especially harder to newer forum members. Ignore these childish cyber bullies and just take the useful posts to heart.

I know your intentions were always good, its just for a few pages just seemed to have people giving out to me so it was nice to see a good post which helped..

I think this thread needs to die down cos I can see its getting a lot of people worked up and they keep acting as if they know everything about me and my OH.

I promise I will post back once I have got in touch with someone about benefits

I thank you all for your help ( Well, you know who you are! )

mazza111

Think we are all agreed that the OP needs medical help. I think the first step is acknowledging this as she's done.

Maybe this is her taking her head out of the sand.


The rest can follow, whether it be ESA, JSA, further education etc.

Even baby steps are steps, good luck with the GP.

bestpud

colpol1 wrote: »

I know your intentions were always good, its just for a few pages just seemed to have people giving out to me so it was nice to see a good post which helped..

I think this thread needs to die down cos I can see its getting a lot of people worked up and they keep acting as if they know everything about me and my OH.

I promise I will post back once I have got in touch with someone about benefits

I thank you all for your help ( Well, you know who you are! )

I think you have it all mapped out anyway but good luck to you.

Metranil_Vavin

we wait with baited breath...

sunnyone

FBaby wrote: »

If someone brake their back and are temporary paralysed, they don't suddenly manage to run a 100 yards away through sitting on their bed and hoping some miracle drug is going to cure them or that time on its own will make them better. As those who have experienced it will testify, it takes pushing their boundaries, the pain, accepting little rewards for a lot of efforts, and an iron will to finally get back to where they were, or somewhere there.

I think you mean "someone that broke their back" like me , in many places.

Spinal damage/spinal shock are provable and they can not be willed to be better and their is no miracle drug apart from time, therapy and physio.

When you body is fluffed you cant push the boundaries, I try all day and every day but nothing can ever make we walk again

Helen42

I have skim read a lot of this thread, I was diagnosed by my old gp 4 years ago with anxiety and depression he put me on fluoxetine.

I have not been back to a doctor for my problems in about 2 years because....

The GP i had prescribed fluoxetine it didnt agree with me i.e. gave me terrible nightmares what ever time of day i took them gp told me there wasnt anything else and i had to take them the nightmares made my days harder so i stopped taking it

another gp in the practice sent me for cbt assessment the person i saw agreed they could help me but when it came to it my usual gp blocked it cause of funding (i kepts the letter from the cbt person saying this)

gp made me feel like i was wasting his time

since then in the last two years my dad died my son quit a private college course he wokred hard to save and pay for for a girl wont go into detail but i hardly ever see my son anymoe and i have a dsabled husband who has degenertatvie spinal condition his life is morpine patch based which make him real moody. my mum since my dad died has lost all interest in life. oh and my landlord sold our house after we lived in it for 10 years and made us move yup this all really helped with my problems

ok no sypmathies i dont deserve them or want them but dont judge me either please what i want to say is though i have depression i hate admitting i have it i hate the depression i hate my life and i wan tot change it but when oyu have no confience in gps and the government put more and more pressure on to you with medicals and all t hese complicated changes how is all the pressure with no medical help going to help me get better.

Until becane ill I I worked and paid taxes ni etc from the age of 16 i am now 45 my husband who will be 60 this year joined the youth navy at 15 stayed in till he was in his mid 20's and he too has worked and paid taxes all his adult life until a year ago when because of his arthritis and spinal problems had to stop work and yet now because we are on benfits due to our health we are now consdiered the lowest of the low.

SOrry didnt mean to go on just want to say that I would give almost anything not too feel like I do to take the feeling in the pit of my stomach away to not think about suicide every day to just be an everyday person going to work shopping etc.. And I really hope the young op turns his.her life around and gets the help and is offered the help needed. not sure i have said what i mean to say but i hope someone gets it