What would you think?

kazmc

How long have you been together??

tbh I would be more concerned why he didnt answer my calls on the Sunday, where was he??

I would be feeling exactly like you, and I do believe you should always listen to your gut instincts.... but there again I have been so hurt by previous partners that I'm a hard nosed so and so now

peachyprice

brokenlily wrote: »

But I found those calls, and it looks for all the world like he got in a taxi and tried to call someone with the intention of going to see them or something like that.

You're assuming he was home when he made the calls but you don't know where he was when he called the taxi. Could it not have been to get him home?

As for calling his ex, could it have been that in his extremely peed state he was trying to call you?

Sunday, I woudn't take too much notice of, if he'd had that much of a skin full the night before he was probably in bed all day, especially as you weren't around.

I would delete her numbers from his phone and wait to see if he ever says anything.

HomeMum_2

minnie123 wrote: »

I'm not saying he has done anything but I do think noyou should trust your instincts. How do you know she didn't answer the phone? He may have deleted texts but forgot to delete the call history. I would def do some more investigating :-(

Im afraid i completely agree with above post. INSTINCTS scream out at us, but few are brave enough, or trust ourselves enough, to listen to them. As above poster pointed out, he may well have cleared the text history, forgetting to clear the call log. The fact that you felt uneasy whilst away makes me feel you really should look into this. Where did the taxi take him??! Me, being a sly mare, would call the taxi company as they keep paper records of every trip, and ask where your OH was picked up from, and taken to. Not everyone will agree with this underhand mistrustful way of thinking, but each to their own. Personally, my own piece of mind is WAYYYYY more important than whether I upset him. But then im still bitter about DH's affair, so maybe shouldnt be the best one to listern to.........;)

doodoot

I'm with peachyprice...grab his phone and delete the numbers, but write them down somewhere because you may want them for reference in the future.

Rather than looking at it in a sinister way, how about thinking outside the box?

You were away and he got drunk.

If he has only said bad things about this ex then that means the relationship was a bad one - obviously!

When people call a bad ex up at 2am whilst drunk it's usually to have a rant.

Perhaps your BF was feeling low because you weren't there, the booze didn't help and he had a moment where he wanted to have a go at her?

Errata

doodoot wrote: »

I'm with peachyprice...grab his phone and delete the numbers, but write them down somewhere because you may want them for reference in the future.

Good grief, and then what? Boil his bunny?

doodoot

Errata wrote: »

Good grief, and then what? Boil his bunny?

Yes.

With carrots. :rotfl:

What I meant to put - but got distracted - is to delete the numbers but keep a record of them.

Then if OP thinks he's up to something with this ex then she can check the written down numbers against his phone records.

Personally though I'd fess up to checking his phone and ask him what the bluddy hell he was playing at.

Errata

What you meant is that your advice is to damage someone else's property. Not nice, not kind and certainly not sensible.

minnie123

Who said anything about damaging property? have I missed something??

I have had a similar feeling before with an ex no reason but something just felt wrong - I then found out he had slept with someone else.

I'm not saying you BF has done that but just saying instincts are normally spot on (for me anyway).

I also don't agree with whoever said you normally ring an ex when drunk to have a rant - I would say the reason for ringing an ex when drunk is naughty reasons. I would probably call the taxi firm and question them and then question him. So what if you looked at his phone, he didn't answer you had a bad feeling and you did actually find something so you deserve an explanation.

rachbc

Normally I would sya trust your instincts - BUT when you are anxious its tricky to tell what is genuine instict and what is the anxiety talking.

the only evidence yo have is that he called her - it doesn't look like the spoke let alone any more than...

Treed

I agree, i would be more worried as to why he wasnt replying to you or speaking to you.

I know when im drunk and in a state i usually call my OH, not ex's.

Maybe hes innocent, maybe you could of checked to see if his inbox had been cleared recently though?

Dont let it play on your mind too much. If he did do something do you trust he would tell you? If you let it play on your mind then you will start looking for any reason or signs, reading too much into things.

Hope he hasnt done anything. Although it does need clearing up. Thats the problem when you look through someone phone. Maybe say you used his phone to ring yours as you couldnt find it and in his recent calls was her?