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SarEl

Emmzi wrote: »

who cares? it's not like we have a debating trophy on offer.

We don't? Do you think we should publicise this? While we are on the subject - do we have a trophy for saying the same thing about the work programme on multiple threads. I think we should know.

scheming_gypsy

So why comment on it in the first place and start it all off?

jfh7gwa

Gordon_Hose wrote: »

It's because I make such a long commute that allows my partner to go back to work part-time and spend more time bringing up our son.
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I need to work to keep my family. There are no jobs in my field in my local area, and we can't afford to move to London and be closer to work.

Exactly!

This is what most working parents face, I'm in the exact same situation (it's just that my DH is the one who happens to have the more flexible employer, he takes probably 60 - 70% of emergency childcare when it's needed and he also happens to usually work a bit closer to home anyway, so easier on the logistics).

It's no better or worse whether it's the mum or dad having to spend so much time working outside the home - and most people would avoid it if they could.

But the reality is that we all do what we need to do to keep a roof over our heads (and not exactly in a life of luxury here, so not from a materialistic "working all hours to buy lots of things" angle). that's what a good parent does.

19lottie82

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

So why comment on it in the first place and start it all off?

Wait a minute, I thought there wasn't a debating trophy up for grabs here?

Emmzi

oh sod it, I will go and buy a trophy, but I expect to see somewhat better sportsmanship and proper references cited. No fictional studies from Loughborough, I will be able to tell.

Sambucus_Nigra

19lottie82 wrote: »

Exactly. All I'm saying is, at the end of the day no one has "proof" in this situation.

Actually - you can't prove it because you don't know anyone who does it. And you can't prove the lack of something.

I can, as I know people who do it. Many people. I often do it - depends on where I am working that day and the traffic on route. Other people have stated on here that they do it. I know several people who will travel back home up to 3 hours, and if more than that - stay over.

mildred1978

Until I had my son my commute was 2 and a half hours on a packed train, followed by 15 minutes on a local train that I could wait up to 40 minutes to catch. If I drove it, it would take 2.5 hours in the early hours of the morning/late at night or 4 hours at any other time. That was from South Wales to mid Wales.

FBaby

When my eldest child was 9 months old, I took a job 1:15 minutes away. I dropped her off at the childminder at 7:20 and picked her up at 6pm. When the childminder couldn't look after her any longer, I had no other choice but to take her wiith me as no other local childminder/nursery would take her at that time. It was tough, especially when stuck in traffic. When I fell pregnant again and had to go back to work at 5 months old, I really dreaded doing again with a baby even younger, but miraculously, a local job came about (I'd been looking for the previous 3 years), even more miraculously, I got offered the job (despite having no experience in that sector). It was great, dropped the kids at 8am at nursery, picking them up at 4:30-5pm.

Then they moved officed 1/2 hour away... by then the kids were at school and I was relying on the walking bus to give me that extra time without having to pay morning/after school clubs. This wasn't an option any longer and that moved cost me extra childcare costs. Amazingly, I met my now partner who happened to live 10 minutes walk from my new office. We agreed for me and the kids to move there, and everything was great....until my boss announced we were moving again to a new office. This is now 45 minutes/1 hour away drive from my new home.... only 15 minutes less to where I was in the first place.... grrrrrrr......

The thing is, that's how it is, nothing you can do... I am highly frustrated by it, but I don't believe it is unfair, just how the economy is. I am back to looking for local jobs, but nothing with the same prospects. It will come, I shall be patient...

System

In my office at the moment, I only travel an hour (to Shrewsbury). There are currently people travelling in daily from Rotherham, Nottingham, Lincoln, Leicester and Blackburn, so as far as my empirical evidence goes it is a common occurrence for people to travel for 2 hours or more to work.

SarEl

Emmzi wrote: »

oh sod it, I will go and buy a trophy, but I expect to see somewhat better sportsmanship and proper references cited. No fictional studies from Loughborough, I will be able to tell.

When I am in work (which as you know I am not at the moment), I have to commute all over the bloody country (England and Wales). Can I have a prize please? I have never cited case law from Loughborough, and my win rate is 97% - probably because I have never cited anything from Loughborough!