Do You Wash your Hands After Using the Toilet?

tea_lover

sharrison778 wrote: »

Anyway I've noticed my boyfriend doesnt wash his hands when he uses the bathroom. Its not that he leaves the door open or I am watching (ew) but we have an ensuite and I can hear that the taps dont go on.

Its actually at the point where its a turn off. He goes to the bathroom then comes to bed and wants to get amorous and its not the nicest thought having his hands touch me.

Mine is just the same, it’s really getting on my nerves now. I’ve tried being subtle, and I’ve tried calling him a dirty minger and making it clear he’s not getting anywhere near me till he has a basic level of hygiene sorted. It works for a while but his default setting seems to be dirty beggar.

Person_one

sharrison778 wrote: »

Its actually at the point where its a turn off. He goes to the bathroom then comes to bed and wants to get amorous and its not the nicest thought having his hands touch me.

Ok, not quite sure how to put this.

You don't want his hands touching you because they've touched his penis, but you're about to have sex, you'll be having much more intimate contact with his penis than that!

scheming_gypsy

and she'll expect him to put his mouth near her front bum as well.

Person_one

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

and she'll expect him to put his mouth near her front bum as well.

You mean her vulva? Its not a dirty word!

scheming_gypsy

If i wanted to say her vulva I'd have said her vulva, but I said front bum because that's what I wanted to say.

Person_one

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

If i wanted to say her vulva I'd have said her vulva, but I said front bum because that's what I wanted to say.

Its hideously inaccurate.

C_Mababejive

sharrison778 wrote: »

I'm a bit embarassed to admit this has been on my mind a bit lately.

I always wash my hands and I have that handwash gel on my desk at work. So I think my hygiene standards are pretty good.

My boyfriend moved in with me about 6 months ago and gee its been... enlightening. Amazing how men can be so well behaved when they are trying to impress and then once they think they have you standards slide....

Anyway I've noticed my boyfriend doesnt wash his hands when he uses the bathroom. Its not that he leaves the door open or I am watching (ew) but we have an ensuite and I can hear that the taps dont go on.

Its actually at the point where its a turn off. He goes to the bathroom then comes to bed and wants to get amorous and its not the nicest thought having his hands touch me.

Am I being OTT?

Any tips on how to say something without embarassing him?

This could be a whole new subject though i think there are a few things at play here..

1) Ensuites are so passe...the bedroom is no place for a loo
2)Is he your lodger..? i.e does he have a financial stake in your property?

3) I'd tell him..and see how it pans out.

scheming_gypsy

Person_one wrote: »

Its hideously inaccurate.

Do people invite you to parties when they want everybody to leave?

Lotus-eater

These days we are saying "special bottom" on this board.

easy

Person_one wrote: »

Its hideously inaccurate.

but a far more amusing phrase !