MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Errata

I think POA for both twins would be sensible they have never done anything other than lurch from crisis to crisis. Is this something that Biggest could do? You seem to have enough to contend with; ever deteriorating health, only able to care for DGD with outside help, trying to keep DS on a fairly even keel.
It seems to me that whilst you're to be admired for trying to do it all, the plain fact is that it's always seemed that you can't and things get get missed, forgotten about, left out.
Good to see that you and DGD had a refreshing holiday.

Savvy_sewing

Overall you are probably right Errata. Although my health has been improving, and the help with DGD is reducing, especially with her going to be at school everyday, within two weeks. Molly's Daughter will be back at college, and so the help will be reduced there as she has work commitments as well. However, I agree that without her help I would probably have not been able to improve my health, and my sanity may have been rather worse the wear if not!.
I think we will have to see what happens at the meeting with the family. I do not want Biggest of Mooloo to have much more strain at the moment. She is now a single Mum, and working too. So she has a lot to deal with on her own.
I dont want her to take on something that she cannot continue to do. I will talk with the Social Worker for both the girls and see what the options will be there.?
I will just hope that I can keep a better eye on things, and see if I can keep better records etc. I am not the best at getting organised it is obvious!.
Hopefully I will not be lurching from one crisis to the next and will have some stability from now on. Leaving me free to concentrate better. With less stress then I hope it will be. I really do.
I must admit that I didnt want to come back from Portugal at all. But of course I had too. Maybe one day I will be able to go for longer. Well I can dream cant I???

Eager_Elephant

I am surprised that SS have not mentioned appointeeship.

There are 2 main organisations that have appointee(ship) -

People who receive state benefits can have an appointee who has their benefit money paid to them and they pay the bills and hand out money as they see fit - this is administered via the DWP and someone (doctor/social worker) has to sign the paperwork to confirm they are unable to deal with their finances.

The 2nd one is via SS - I have a client who suffered financial abuse from her family (she had a very good income on state benefits) so I got SS involved and they set up an appointeeship.
SS have all her money paid to them and they pay her bills as they fall due and allow her so much to live on each week. The money has to be collected either daily or weekly from a central office which can be a down side but the positives are that the bills are all paid because they have to live on what they are given.

I think the 2nd option is the best as then it does not take up any family members time and hopefully they will not rely on you to keep bailing them out.
The issue with option 1 is that if you tell them the money has all gone because you have put some away for future bills they would go on and on so much you might give in and give them money.

Having a POA does not mean they will manage their money any better and in fact they can cancel the POA as they see fit so any financial institutions that contact you/biggest could be told it is cancelled and they would take the Twins word for it and no longer deal with you and then you would need to get another one drawn up.

Obviously none of these options empowers the Twins but by the sounds of the learning disabilities they are not in a position to learn better money management anyway.

If you want any more info give me a shout

Savvy_sewing

Thanks EE.
I will have a chat with the SS and see what we can sort out.
I will give the girls an updated chart of things that have to be done, with bills, getting from A to B etc over the next few days. Then I will try my hardest to get the SS doing the jobs that they are supposed to be doing with the girls. That was supposed to be what they were planning to do anyway.
I ended up driving twin1 to sign on today. Twin2 came along for the ride! So I did mention that they had to work things out a bit better so that they are in harmony with the payment schedules they have. But it probably all went over thier heads.

The school teacher is coming tomorrow to meet DGD and probably be nosey in the bargain to see where/how she lives with in the family unit I suppose. But to make her feel more at ease on going to school on Wednesday.

DS has been on the phone, bit upset his girlfriend has blown him out again. (Shes gone back to Scotland to college). So emotions are a bit high with him. I just hope he doesnt go off of the rails. Especially as he works in the pub at times.
Time to go. Still got pescy name tapes to finish.

minimoneysaver

Has he thought of moving up to Scotland? Are their feelings strong for each other? Also, what happened to his computer course?

Molly41

Mooloo wrote: »

Thanks EE.
I will have a chat with the SS and see what we can sort out.
I will give the girls an updated chart of things that have to be done, with bills, getting from A to B etc over the next few days. Then I will try my hardest to get the SS doing the jobs that they are supposed to be doing with the girls. That was supposed to be what they were planning to do anyway.
I ended up driving twin1 to sign on today. Twin2 came along for the ride! So I did mention that they had to work things out a bit better so that they are in harmony with the payment schedules they have. But it probably all went over thier heads.

The school teacher is coming tomorrow to meet DGD and probably be nosey in the bargain to see where/how she lives with in the family unit I suppose. But to make her feel more at ease on going to school on Wednesday.

DS has been on the phone, bit upset his girlfriend has blown him out again. (Shes gone back to Scotland to college). So emotions are a bit high with him. I just hope he doesnt go off of the rails. Especially as he works in the pub at times.
Time to go. Still got pescy name tapes to finish.

Hope the meeting went well. They do the visits for all the children as I remember well them when my four started at the school x

Savvy_sewing

Meeting went well with the teacher. she is very young. Brought a Nursery Nurse/class helper with her. Who is older and has been at the school for 15 years. She remembers you Molly!
DGD is very naughty today. She has broken her scooter in a temper tantrum while out with Molly's daughter. She is being "obstoperous" as my mum would say. I think its the excitement of school etc.
I finally finished sewing on the name tapes. Knickers and socks done. Well the new ones have been done. I havent done the old ones. But no doubt I will need to eventually. But I didnt buy masses of labels and I only have about 20 left. Socks take up a lot!
I havent spoken to DS today. But before he called yesterday, he was planning on moving up to be with his girlfriend, as soon as we could save the money. (I say we, becuase I am trying to help him sort his debts out- with his own money). But I think its all a pipe dream, and I suppose if he had gone up there, and they had split he would have been on his own completely. Which would not have been good.
He didnt get a reply to his job application with his Dad's firm, so it doesnt look very good. Which was his hope of getting him working and out of the clutches of those who persuade him to go off the rails. etc.
Tomorrow I am taking my Mum to the hairdressers in the afternoon, so DGD will go to be with her Mum while I do that. So after school, she will be able to tell her Mum all about it. She is only there until 12 noon. I gave the teacher the forms back for the school meals, so DGD will have hot meals at school when she starts full time.
That will save me a lot of money on Snacky stuff, and help me to eat more healthily as well. I will aim to make more soups for myself and have those at lunchtimes.
There is a meeting at the school on Thursday evening, so luckily I will be able to go as Mum will be here anyway, ready for taking DGD to school on Friday.
Twin1 (Mum) said that her carer is coming on Wednesday afternoon to see her/meet her. Lets hope that gets off of the ground without me shouting from the roof tops about it all.
This afternoon I am free to potter now. I see the sun is still trying to shine, so I can finish the washing and get it on the line. Maybe I will do a bit of weeding in the front garden. It is so overgrown its unreal, and its embarrassing to be honest.

Savvy_sewing

p.s. he still does the computer course, its a slow business though, and its costing him most of his JSA - when he gets that. He is inconsistent with that, as when I do not take him, he doesnt always get there. As it seems while I was away, he missed out on a payment, so it will take him a lot longer to clear off his debts if he doesnt help himself!.

Savvy_sewing

Morning, DGD is in school. She was up early, and ready an hour before needed. She looked so grown up. But I wasnt one of the mums standing at the gate and crying. I was more in the mood to high 5!.
DS came home last night, so this morning I need to get him back to be ready to sign on. I cannot take him all the way/bring him back as the time clashes with collecting DGD.
This afternoon its the hairdressers. Taking my Mum. Think Biggest of Mooloo is probably going to be there as well, just to help her friend who is the hairdresser, and of course the chinwag as today is her day off work.
DGD is going to her Mum while we go there.
The funds seem to be getting sorted out, thank goodness. The pressure is finally off of me. But now its try and get the savings back. I intend to put 15% of my income into the account every time I get a payment. Hopefully I will be able to rebuild the savings quite quickly.
Time to try and get some gardening done.

Savvy_sewing

First day at Big school seems to have gone down well.
I didnt get much done for myself today, except the hairdressers when I went with my Mum, but thats fine.
Done a chicken stirfry tonight, quick and simple using the left over chicken from the other day.
Tired out and hope I sleep better tonight. I also hope DGD will not be waking up quite so early!
Hoping to see Molly tomorrow. We have lots to catch up on really.
Pudding time and then bath and bed for her ladyship.