MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

minimoneysaver

Awww congratulations Mooloo!!! That must be a massive weight off your shoulders.

Just as others, I have many concerns re DS moving back in, but I'm sure that you'll lay down some very strict rules and not let him take you for granted. If he moves in, it must be to make your life more simple...not bring his complications into your life.

Today is the day for a fresh start with you and DGD....a little team!

gizmo111

Finally......... well done.

Savvy_sewing

Thanks Everyone. I am relieved.
I rang the Tax Credits and told them that I was no longer working as of yesterday. They told me that in my situation, ending work, they continue to pay Tax credits for 4 weeks. So thats a huge fear reduced. I was worried that it would stop, then the 3 weeks that it was going to take to sort out the other benefits would be 3 weeks with no income, except the Guardianship funds.
So I can breathe a sigh or great relief.
I will continue to get Tax credits until the 22nd May. The Child tax credit decission should be made by the 15th May.
The Child Benefit papers I requested still havent arrived. So I will have to sort out my printer and down load them so that I can fill them in and get them sent off.
I have councilling today.
I was supposed to do some homework, working out a plan of action for clearing my sewing stuff etc out of my bedroom and into the other room. Obviously I cannot do that now, so DS is going to have to be part of the new plan to help me sort the boxes, and get what I want to keep accessible, but possibly in the loft.
I have decided that I will have to let go of some of the old/antique sewing machines. I just dont have the space for sentimentality. They are not of financial worth, so it really is silly to keep them and stumble around the bedroom cos they are in the way.
I will have DS to help me move boxes, get to the bottom of them, and rehome the contents. He can do the lifting, and that sort of thing for me.
He will get to Earn his lodgings. While we tackle his debts with his money, its now going into my bank account.
I have heard word that there could be a job going locally for him, only 10 hours a week, but that would still nett him more than the JSA. And he would be able to walk to work. Lets hope that it can be phesable (spelling?), and give him the new start he is seeking.
I think that he has learnt his lesson, and learnt it hard. I do not expect miracles from him, as he is still only a young man, but he has two choices. My way, or the high way.!
Time for my shower. Just.

whiteguineapig

this is a very good ground rule
it has worked well in our house , and my boys are older than your son but they still are here

ANYONE WHO DOESN'T LIVE HERE
DOESN'T EAT HERE OR SLEEP HERE

it probably sounds harsh but it has worked

minimoneysaver

I think that is a good rule to go by whiteguineapig. Not ambiguous and not up for discussion.

Littlesportscar

Really pleased for you and DGD - it has been a long time coming :T

Good luck to your DS, hopefully he has learnt from his mistakes and can now move forward

whiteguineapig

whiteguineapig wrote: »

this is a very good ground rule
it has worked well in our house , and my boys are older than your son but they still are here

ANYONE WHO DOESN'T LIVE HERE
DOESN'T EAT HERE OR SLEEP HERE

it probably sounds harsh but it has worked

yes it works, i can't afford to feed other people and our house is quite small, i object to coming down to the loo in the night when other people are here

Savvy_sewing

whiteguineapig wrote: »

yes it works, i can't afford to feed other people and our house is quite small, i object to coming down to the loo in the night when other people are here

yes my loo is downstairs too.

I will be as focused and positive as I can, I am not planning on mothering him. He is an adult, and he will be expected to do his own washing, and keep to some basic house rules. I want him to be helping me, and being of use, not giving me any more extra work.
Broke the news to BF last night, and he said that I had to make sure that I wasnt his bank or his taxi driver!.fair enough.!

Went to councilling today, after the usual dashing around that was not on the cards originally.
DGD2 was ill all night, so I did a bit of shopping for Biggest of Mooloo after I had dropped DGD to nursery. Then I had forgotten I was to take DS to sign on, so I was on a tighter schedule then I should have been.
Before I knew it the day is nearly over.
DGD is asking for Dinner already!. I missed out on my lunch, but as I had had extra toast this morning and then a muffin you would have thought that I would be fine. But I am really hungry! So dinner will be on soon!.
The Child benefit form arrived so save me printing it out. :T All filled in and will post it and the eSA form tomorrow morning when I drop DGD at nursery.

Shalva

Well done Mooloo......great result with DGD........

I think whiteguineapig's rule sounds great....needs to be printed out and displayed! Wishing you well with ds.......

Savvy_sewing

Morning, been sitting up in bed reading my Self Help book since 5.50 this morning. Time to get us on the move though.
I am not going to say what the days plans are- it never pans out that way afterall!.
Got the washing machine on, and the breakfast is over. Tidied up before bed last night, and it wasn't as painful as I thought it was going to be! I had stood there and looked at the chaos and my heart had sunk. Normally I would say, leave it till the morning, come down in the morning and be rather depressed with it all.
Instead I set too. Got it reasonably sorted, and came down this morning feeling much better.
Catch up later.