MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_sewing

Well the day didnt pan out exactly as I wanted, but I had another day of blitzing at twin1.s. Oh dear oh dear, the bedroom was a state, it took me 3 hours, with twin1 being also told, do this, do that. There was so much stuff on the floor, that I was bent over picking things up trying to establish if they were clean or dirty. We ended up with about 6 bags full of dirty washing. Baring in mind the two wash baskets and a pillowcase were filled yesterday.
We also removed 2 black sacks of rubbish, and I put several empty holdalls etc into empty suitcases, and stacked them. We also put clean sheets etc on the bed, and managed to sweep and hoover. There was just a pile of paperwork on the desk that I didnt get around to dealing with. I paid the price though, there isnt a piece of me that isnt in serious, serious pain.
But at least its done. The place looked really good when i left.
Had to stay around for an hour waiting for someone that came to interview DS about doing a online collegue course, doing something with computers. I sat in the back of the room, listened and asked questions etc.
Of course the problem with it is that its a course that costs money, its not a government funded one, so guess who DS wants to help him pay for it. Although he is looking for part time work still, so far he doesnt have any and the course will cost £100 deposit and £25 a week. For up to two years!!!!
I am not sure I could raise that extra in my budget. Certainly not if I want to stay within my means, and have a holiday with DGD etc. And we are the important ones.
I left just before the end as I had to come home to take over the care of DGD as it was time for molly's daughter to go to her other job.
DGD has been a horrible child today. She woke up being horrible and was horrible to and for molly's daughter today as well. So I think an early bath and bed as soon as possible.
then I will be needed to lay down on my heated blanket as soon as possible. I was hoping for a bath, but I dont think that I would be able to get out of it again.
Such is life.
Tonight will be an early night.
I have an order for some Anniversary bunting with the couples name on. So thats 3 so far to do, and 2 requests in the pipeline.
Also a request for a few of my bags that I have previously made.
I also need to see if I can morph a couple of sheets into a kingsize for twin1's bed.
Thats all I have to report today. Nothing new with the social etc etc. No news I hope is good news.

whiteguineapig

cost £100 deposit and £25 a week. For up to two years!!!!

you had better get the calculator out and add that up before you commit!

minimoneysaver

Is his dad able to help pay for that? Mind you, given DS's past experiences with courses etc, do you really think that he will stick at it? He'd be better off getting into an appreticeship again, so he can start earning and contributing right away.

Savvy_sewing

think you are both right. I cannot afford to pay it. I have just been trying to do some sums, bearing in mind that my money will change after the guardianship is settled next month. I will have to have a discussion with all the family, and see if we feel he is able to do this.
I would prefer he did an apprenticeship in some way, but i also see the opportunity for him to kick start a career, if he does the course. Its a double edged sword really.! Oh well I cannot think about it tonight I am shattered!. Just waiting for DGD to settle down,

Savvy_sewing

If he is classed as a student, wonder if he could get a student loan.?? Oh I dont know. I really cannot think straigth, but £2,700 odd is a massive amount to fork out.
Oh why do I always feel compelled to help them and then have to struggle to adjust my budget so that we stay afloat? Just stopped paying out lots of money for the twins, and here I go, started spending again.! I really am a mug!

SDG31000

Hello Mooloo

DH is a computer service engineer and has a computer science degree and he couldn't get a job for a couple of years after it. So I would be wary about this course being a sure fire way for your DS to get a job. There are a lot of courses out there that aren't worth the paper they are written on and a lot of highly qualified IT people out of work at the moment. I suggest doing some serious research into the course and make sure it is on the up and up before committing to anything.
Please don't feel guilty about saying no. You have and still do so much for your children and you have given your DS lots of help. He is the one that has made the mistakes and hasn't stuck to anything. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, but you and your DGD have to come first now. If your DS wants to do the course then he needs to find a job to fund it.
Also he has to find out how it would affect his job seekers money and what extras the course entails. Does he need a certain spec of computer? Does he need unlimited fast broadband? etc. £25 a week might only be the start of the costs involved.
I know how difficult it is for you and hope I haven't said anything out of turn.
Take care of yourself and here's hoping your DGD sleeps well and wakes up happier.
(((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))

Savvy_sewing

no thats fine, I was thinking of doing a google on them, but left the leaflet behind with DS as I came home just before the man had left.
Anyway, I will be careful, and I will not intend to pay the money without DS giving it back.
Still not got her up to bed. Monkey.
now to top it all, I just found out that she has worms again! So now its clear out everything all over again, and get the tablets tomorrow for her. All we need. Right time to sign out for the night. Exhausted.

Brighton_belle

Just popping out of lurkdom mooloo, to say that in my experience, online courses take a huge amount of self dicipline to do. I know personally I am not of the nature to stick to something like that - I need a course where I have to go in and be part of a group and then have deadlines and a real person to hand work into and ask questions of etc.
I appreciate how hard it must be as a parent to want to encourage any flicker of self improvement, but I am not sure your son has shown any evidence of stickability to do distance learning? And it is very large sum of money.

supermezzo

Thousand of years ago when I was nannying, toddler had recurrent worms for months, as did all her peers at play group. Turned out, someone had made play dough rather than using shop bought stuff and the one child who had worms had been playing with it and they were living and breeding in that. No wonder all the kids were permanantly itching!

Molly41

I'm convinced she is getting them from play group too x