MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_sewing

lingojingo wrote: »

Hope it went well in court today, was thinking of you.

Thanks everso much.

Court has been adjourned until the 24th April as the court want to make more effort to contact the father and serve papers on him. So the SS have to contact him (they have his phone number now), and get his address. He has to submit his address to the courts by the 23rd March. If not they will contact the DWP to find out his address if possible. then the papers are to be served inviting him to the court on the 24th April. If he doesnt turn up, they may well then grant the SGO on the 24th if he doesnt appear in court.

I am now worried that he will want to go for contact with DGD. So then we will have all the hassle of that to go through.
For someone who didnt want to know when he had the chance, and who hospitalised my daughter at the time, I dont think he deserves any contact. But thats another story.

So we wait now until the 24th April.
Maybe it will be sorted by the time we have our holiday in May.

I am rather disappointed and worried now. Obstacles just seem to be put infront of us all the time.

Molly41

Sorry court was stressful. Hopefully it will all get sorted in Aprilx

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Sorry court was stressful. Hopefully it will all get sorted in Aprilx

It wasnt really stressful, just disappointing, leaving things open to new possibilities that worry me thats all.
Tired tonight. It will be an early night for me.
Next door are moving tomorrow, so we have parked our cars a little bit more awkwardly to stop the doctors surgery filling in the gaps. I have promised to leave my car there until the removal van comes, so I may be late taking DGD to Nursery. But after all that they have done for me, I dont mind. Its the least we can do.
I have been given so much from them over the last few months. As they have parred thier things down. I have been a very lucky lady.

think of all the positives.
At least I have a month to re visit the benefits and make sure I know where I will be better now that there is doubt about the interpretations of the laws!.
So far its been very contradictory. In some councils they take the SGA into consideration, in others they dont!.
I need the most up to date information for our local council as I do not want to be doing anything illegally, or fraudulantly.

DGD is a little clingy as she knew we were at court today. I have told her that its fine, and that its just an official way of making her stay with me forever permanant. She gave me a huge hug, and made it clear that she wanted to stay with her granny forever. Bless her.

My parents were talking to me today about thier plans for thier holiday to France this summer. Off again in May. They plan to suss out a campsite not far from my sisters,- about and hour and a half drive. They said that we can plan to fly out then the following year and meet up. So thats something for me to look forward to, and to save my pennies for. (Those ones that the kids have drained me off-but no more-remember!!ahem).
So I have a few things to look forward to.
I paid the rest of the caravan/Sun holiday yesterday. So all DGD and I will need is what food we want, and what entertainment we want. Oh and of course the extra petrol to drive there and back. But we have until May.

Tomorrow its my councilling day. I cannot believe that a week has gone by already. Where is the time going.?

Savvy_sewing

Evening, where is the time going?
DGD is not really very good, she has a temperature again, and has a very tickly cough. So I dont think I will be sending her to Nursery tomorrow.
I had a busy day, visiting Biggest of Mooloo, and collecting DS and twin2 to go to town. He had to sign on, and she has her councilling before I had mine.
My councillor was surprised that I had decided to break with BF, and asked me how/why I had come to that, and wether or not it was final etc. Of course I said you cannot say never, but at the moment, I cannot see the changes happening that would make it worth while reversing my decission.
I feel more in control, I feel as if I am "lighter", and that I am now moving forward into my new phase, dispite the courts putting a hold on the application, that in a way I am now a "single mother" and its now my duty to make sure that the pair of us get on, and that we put our lives before the rest really. Which as you all know with my lot is not an easy possibility.
The councillor mentioned that I seem to be coming to better terms with the situation that i am in, and that I seem more positive, and that I am also beginning to say that I have to step back etc etc.
When I first went to see him, I said that I really couldnt let go.
So its amazing how I feel differently a few short months later.

Savvy_sewing

Not sure if I mentioned that I contact the Adult Social Services the other day and asked them to re consider thier opinions and offer help to twin1. I have had an email in reply to say that they will be in contact soon.
Twin1 knows that I have done this referral. I hope that she will be helped but who knows.?
Twin2 seems to have a young girl now living at hers, who was in a foster family, and she had a row and was thrown out.?!!!! so the Social worker is due to go and visit them on Friday. What next?
The friend of DS who came to help paint was also thrown out by his family, and I have found out, that they were his adoptive parents.
This of course worries me about the future of my boys.
I miss seeing them, but I know that we were at a stage where we had to stop seeing them, but it doesnt stop the thoughts, and worries etc.
DGD has been rough today, and her temperature is irratic still. She seems happy enough, but is definitely not her self, and this afternoon while she was being looked after, she fell asleep for a good hour.
(While I was taking a sleep too), so the carer had an easy afternoon.!
DGD has had her bath early, and is drinking some orange juice. She ate some cupcakes that Molly sent over, but is not really interested in her food today.
My ex husband has been by today. He is worried that he now has to go to see the heart specialist in the JR hospital, and will have to stay over. They are going to give him an MRI scan, and then decide about whether or not they have to fit an electronic gadget, not a pacemaker, but something that will shock the heart if necessary. However if he has that fitted, he will not be able to drive for 6 months. This has hit him hard as his job is a driver on the bins. A very physical job, in and out of the trucks loading etc.
I said that I would go to the hospital with him if he wanted me to. He seems to have been intouch load since his heart attack or what ever it was a few weeks ago. Asking me questions and wanting to work out things about his work situation, pay related options, and the future, so he is very worried.
I worry for him as he doesnt know anything other then his little world. Its been the same for years. Even when we were together, his routine hardly changed. You could set your watch by where he is on a given day, especially the weekends. Not sure what I can do, explain things etc to him and try and stop him from worrying. But I did tell him that he needs to consider the worst case scenario, so that he can face things if they happen, but hopefully they wont. But it is easier to cope with reality if you have visited it in your mind first.
I had an email from an estate agents in Portugal about the various prices etc of houses over there. Feel guilty now that they think I may be a prospective purchaser. I was just looking at the cost of things and then building my Dream. It was part of my homework from the councillor a few weeks ago.
My homework this week is to go out and do something different, go to the theatre, or something with friends that I havent seen in a while. Try to contact my old friends and see where things are before we loose touch. Something that was/did happen when I was with BF, especially as BF didnt understand or like my contact with anyone else.
(Remember a few years back the problems I had on holiday etc etc).
Anyway I havent done that, but I am going to go out to a Pamper night for the nursery fundraising tomorrow night. So maybe that will count.

Today I sold a set of my hearts on strings, and when the purchaser was leaving two people went by that she knew and she showed them, and told them about the bunting etc I had made for her in the past. So there are new people who are potential customers. One of the ladies I have nodded too, when getting DGD into the car etc, when she has walked by, but I dont know them.

I have uploaded some of my pictures onto my Moo Loo status on facebook, and will see if I can get to grips with these other forms of selling/advertising my work. folksy has only had one sale. Mind you I probably need to keep adding to the shop contents to have the shop more in the forefront of the site.
I wish I had a partner that was able to do the advertising and promoting side of my sewing, so I could just sew when i wanted to and not have to spend ages trying to update the internet!.

Savvy_sewing

Dispite going up to bed reasonably early, couldnt sleep and ended up scribbling in the diary. Still was up and down about 4 times and woke at 5.45. No point in going back to bed as we are off to look after my other granddaughter today. This evening I am off to the pamper evening in the nursery. Could be a laugh.

Littlesportscar

Enjoy your day looking after your granddaughters and have a fab pamper evening!!

minimoneysaver

Pamper evening sounds like it will be great fun! Enjoy it :-)

Savvy_sewing

Well the morning was filled with toys and smiles, and the dog tryng to get in on the act. Alas also slightly intrusive was the exBF texting me, and me trying to explain my decisions etc by text once more. So 3 hours of tooing and frooing, but of course we are at stale mate.
So a waste of time. I want different things to him, and he is not able to provide, join me, or dream with me.
I want to give DGD the very best chances in life I can, and if I do not show by example then who will? I want to have dreams. I shall have dreams.
I have a picture of an apartment in Portugal, printed off on my computer, and I am going to frame it and keep it in my work room. To inspire me to reach for those dreams.
I may have nothing, but that doesnt mean to say I cannot have something one day. so I am a slow starter.
I started writing that book today. You know, the one that they say is inside of everyone.
We will see. I seem to be able to write this thread easily enough, so will a book be in me? There is certainly enough material in my life, but several hundred of you follow me, and so I might be onto something.

my daughter said that if everyone who read my thread was to purchase one thing from my sewing, then I would be rich, and use up my stash of clothes and fabrics quite quickly. I said it would probably take me years to achieve that!. But its a thought. Maybe each would want to read a book.

Right, enough dreaming. Time to go out and I am still in my dressing gown after my sleep this afternoon.
I must go to the bank for some money, well the hole in the wall.
Catch up tomorrow probably.

silvercar

my daughter said that if everyone who read my thread was to purchase one thing from my sewing, then I would be rich, and use up my stash of clothes and fabrics quite quickly. I said it would probably take me years to achieve that!. But its a thought. Maybe each would want to read a book.

Hints on where and how we find your stuff needed.