MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

tazzyb

Morocha do what is best for you. When I discussed it with my HV she made the excellent point of it was more important that my son had a happy mam than wether he was breast or bottle fed.

We put so much pressure in ourselves. I know I have. After changing my mind 100 times I have decided to slowly introduce formula, I am also stock piling breast milk in the freezer. Finley currently gets one bottle if formula a day given in the morning by my OH. Next week I am going to introduce one at around 7 pm. In an ideal world I would like to keep one or two feeds a day breast but not sure if I will be able to. My stock pile will be used for a bottle a day when we are mostly bottle feeding. The thought that by doing so I can extend the length of time he gets breast milk is helping me not feel so bad even though I know deep down I really have nothing to feel bad about.

Do what us best for you Hun

Elelyn

Morocha I also switched to bottle feeding as bf just wasn't working out for us (we had various issues including Theo having a tongue tie). I broke my heart over it as I really, really, really wanted to breast feed but it wasn't doing either me or the baby any good struggling on and making myself unhappy. I still have the odd moment of guilt over it (especially when I read about all the amazing ladies on here who have managed to carry on and make it work) but ultimately it was the right decision for us. Theo loves his bottles!

fluffnutter

morocha wrote: »

did anybody started off bf then switched to bottle feeding? how did u do it?
Im at my ends here, all day with my boob out and shes still hungry, nap times and night times are the worst, she wants to sleep with my njipple in her mouth and if i take it off she wakes up and cry, do i need to say why my nipples are killing me ? they had no rest for almost a month now. it is killing me not to have any time for my 5 yo also. im pro bf but in this case it is not working for me, i feel a bit guilty and need re assurance, i will ask oh what he thinks a;though i know deep down i really do not want to continue, i do not think it is a big deal, i was myself bottle feed and survived fine.

There's your answer there, sweetheart. It's your body and your baby will be perfectly happy and healthy on formula.

There's just too much pressure. Who'd be a mother these days? Honestly, we're public bloody property aren't we?

turtlemoose

Morocha the message I'm getting isn't that BFing is the problem, it's a baby that screams every time they are put down and constantly wants to eat. I'm concerned that this will still be the case regardless of whether you breastfeed or formula feed.

I think, whether you decide to bf or ff, whichever, please don't be fobbed off by your GP, if you think something is wrong, keep pushing for an answer.

morocha

thank you so much for the responses.
My oh said to do what i think it is best for me, that i have given her the best start.
we were up every hs last night, maybe a growth spurt? I do not think baby has reflux now i think she has colic and wants to be with me all the time, . i will still ask the hv tomorrow to be seen by the paedritician as i want to make sure J is fine.
i am giving her a bottle at night because i am taking pnd pills and the dr told me i can not bf for 3 hs after taking it.
baby can now and then sit in the bouncer and it is more alert,just a bit demanding.

Cake4brains

Hi again, not been on in absolutely ages, not even finding time to read anymore! I just don't know where time goes.

Amelia and Mollie are 16wks today :eek:, and are perfect in every way . They're full of cold at the mo so having some sleepless nights. Weigh-in day today too so will be interesting to see how much they've put on.

Just thought I'd log on to say to Morocha, don't feel you have to keep BF if you don't want to. Everyone rams it into our heads that we should, but its whatevers best for your family that matters.

I was so determined I would solely BF that when I was told I needed to give formula top-ups I was very upset. Mollie was a small, skinny baby and they both struggled putting on weight for the first 8 weeks or so, even with top-ups. I changed formula to Staydown as Mollie is a very pukey baby,and would cry all day unless attached to my boob, and started giving a few bottles through the day. To say they have thrived is an understatement! Mollie is now heavier than her sister and even has a double chin :rotfl:.

I know this doesn't relate to what you are going through, but just want to say, formula really changed my babies, they are so much happier and healthier. So now I feel guilty for not doing it sooner :cool:.

fluffnutter

Anyone thinking we should create a new thread (part 2)? This one's pretty big now

Shall I do the honours?

Gillyx

Il speak to Kira and see what she says xx

Edit, messaged just waiting on a reply

martafdz

Morocha, I had to stop breastfeeding as I am one of those odd cases with not enough milk, and I felt awful, very guilty. I now feel angry when I read or hear about why you must breastfeed. For some people it might be a choice, but for some people it really isn't, or the choice would mean that either baby or mum are stressed and unhappy. I think there is not enough information regarding how difficult it is breastfeeding and all the things that can go wrong. I felt very alone when I was told I had to change to formula and I could not stop crying for weeks every time I thought about it. My midwife sympathized and kept telling me that I had given her the colostrum, which is the most important bit, and that now what she needed was food and a loving environment. If I was stressed out and crying all day, my baby would feel it and it was not good for her. You also have another daughter than needs you, so if it will make you happier, go ahead. Your LO will put on weight with formula and you will be able to share the feeding with your DH or any other person, even your daughter. You could try combination feeding first and see how you all react to it?

Cotbeds, I need advice. I think I should be starting to look for one of these. I am not sure how I will fit it in my bedroom, though. I will have take some furniture out! I am not buying a set, I will buy a cotbed and a mattress and we will use that until she outgrows it. I expect that by then I will have saved some money and I could buy her a proper room to last, plus I will know I'll need bunkbeds or not! Lol Anyway, I was looking online and I saw that some cotbeds have a drop side. What is this for? To take baby out easier, or to put the cotbed next to your bed, as if you were co-sleeping? What is the advantage of it? What else should I be looking for?

Gillyx

Kira said she'll make a new thread tonight if you like she's at work ATM.

Marta ours has a drop side but it only drops so far so it's just easier to get baby out, I think you can get some where the side comes right off and those are for cosleeping. A loves the cotbed, we got a sprung mattress and he seems so much comfier in there than he ever did in his carrycot and crib