MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

moneypenny21

Sorry about the moist bogey talk!! they were not moist nor bothering her so I left them and they are now not there!!

As for temp - socks mittens you name it nothing warmps up her feet and hands. I guess she is ok of her body is ok as you say !


Nutella she is three weeks & weighs 10lb 4(!) - is that enough for a sleeping bag? Can they have them in Moses baskets? I did wonder if her basket was cold when she went back down my mum suggested putting a hot water bottle in it while she is out of it having her feed, great idea on principle with my third pair of hands!! !

Aida_2

Hi everyone,

Thank you for the warm welcome.So many familiar names here :j.

Today I had an emotional meltdown .I realised that in 5 months time I need to go back to work and my beautiful baby will have to go to nursery.Plus not sure how that will work as money will be so tight .Both me and my OH can buy childcare vouchers but I don't understand how much we will save by doing that. I just want to stay home and rise my baby...

Never ever imagined that I will fall in love so fast and so deep with my baby. I just want to spend my whole time watching her sleep and also I have this desperate urge to protect her. It's just insane but it is exactly what I feel...Crazy hormonal mummy that I am

Aida_2

martafdz wrote: »

I'll be willing to try a bedtime routine too in a few weeks , at the moment I'm not sure how, though. She eats-sleeps-eats-sleeps... She's in sleepsuits the whole day and she's either in the travel cot (living room) or moses (bedroom), so I'm not sure how to do the bath pjs feed bed routine, as the only thing that would b different from the rest of the day is the bath time, is that enough? When do they start to spend more time awake? When do they start to play? We talk to her, give her some tummy time, do massage and bicycles, but it seems to me like little else can be done atm because she sleeps (or screams) when she's not feeding. Sometimes she stares into space but I think it's when she's got wind because she just has this face of "waiting for something to happen" and would not do anything else. She's 4 weeks tomorrow.

^^ I could've wrote that as I experience the same thing as Marta. My little one just sleeps,eats and screams.No much interaction just yet.Today we noticed that baby was following daddy's face and also she smiled at him twice because he was making funny faces.Perhaps was just wind but we like to think that she smiled deliberately.

As for having a routine I will give Content Little baby routine a go. does anyone tried that? At the moment I feel that she is not ready for that but perhaps in the next 2-3 weeks she might stay awake longer.

Aida_2

Oh and I have some questions for all the ladies who successfully BF their babies

1. Do you have or did you had a special diet to produce a good supply of milk?

2. Did you expressed milk to encourage your milk.supply.If so, how many times per day and for how long.

3. How do I make sure my baby drinks a good amount of hind milk?My baby fell asleep 10-15 minutes after she starts sucking. My understanding is that the more fatty milk she has the more she can last between feeds. At the.moment she will eat at 22:00 at 1 or 2 am and again at 4-5am and at 8 again.Is that normal for a 3 weeks+ baby?

Aimless

There are foods you can eat that increase your supply, but really, the main thing is to remember to eat as properly as you can, and drink plenty.

I never bothered expressing, your supply should adjust, as long as you let baby feed as often as they want, to match their needs. Unless you seriously think you have a problem, I'd leave nature to work it out.

I'm sure someone else can give the proper advice about which sides to use when and so on, but what I tend to do is just look at the previous feed, and if it was a short one, go back to the same side again. But I don't tend to offer both sides at a feed, which I believe you are meant to do? Basically, you'll know if they're getting too much foremilk by what comes out the other end! If it's green and foamy, you need to adjust.

Aimless

fluffnutter wrote: »

IMO, you can't start singing to them early enough. Repeated little rhymes are nice because they latch onto repitition. My favourite thing to do is sing about what I'm doing. I've got songs for dressing, songs for bathing, songs for when booby's on its way, songs for soothing, songs for my chores, songs for when daddy's coming home. You name it, I sing about it. Freddie loves it. That's unconditional love for you. Poor sod can't help it

Lol, for some reason the tune to the Apprentice always used to be the one to pop into my head whenever I was singing nonsense.

Aimless

*Nutella* wrote: »

We still don't have any teeth, but she does have a toothbrush to chew on so that she's getting used to it - I think my approach will be similar to yours! I went to the dentist earlier this week and whilst there asked him about babies' teeth, as I'd read so much conflicting advice. He said to not use any toothpaste at all until they're at least a year and a half, as they'll just think it's food and swallow it - and once they're used to swallowing it, it's difficult to get them to stop. He also said to not bother bringing her to the dentist until she's two and a half/three years old and old enough to understand what's happening (unless of course there's a problem before then). I found that reassuring - I once read somewhere that you should start taking your LO to the dentist as soon as their first tooth appears, which sounded rather extreme! :eek:

Where we are there's no flouride in the water, so they handed out extra flouride toothpaste at his 9 month check. My dentist said to just keep bringing him to every appointment we have, to get him used to it all.

missbunbury

Hi all, had our six week check today and it didn't go so well so I've come for a rant...

They checked me and all fine, and no medical dildo like I'd feared! So that was good. Then the HV weighed the baby. She'd only gained 2.5 ounces in a week and the HV plotted this on her graph in the red book and started saying Alice's growth has "plateaued" and she would prefer her to gain 4-5oz per week (the previous weigh-in last week she had only gained .5oz so that's only 3oz in 2 weeks, although it has been a different set of scales each time. HV suggested I attend a Milk Mates group locally, although I haven't been aware of any issues with the feeding and I am pretty clued up in that area I thought. HV then surprised me massively by suggesting I ought to start expressing my milk and giving it in a bottle every other feed so I can tell how much I am giving her. This is something I had been under the impression was not ideal as it could cause her to go off the breast. Anyway, I was a bit freaked to hear HV say baby might not be doing well so I just noded along and then she said doctor would check the baby as standard and I should ask him about the weight.

So off I go to see the doctor, head spinning thinking I had no idea there was a problem, is it even a problem etc. It all got worse from there. The doctor checked her over and said all reflexes etc good but when he looked at her red book and list of weights he said he was concerned she is underweight and not gaining properly and announced he suspects I am not making enough milk. This has really upset me to be honest and I've spent most of the rest of the day in tears. She was 6lb15oz at brith, went down to 6lb8oz and is now 7lb11oz at 6 weeks five days. The HV and the doctor both kept telling me about the previous baby at the clinic today who was born ten pounds and is now 15 pounds at 6 weeks and I just kept thinking but how can you compare two such different babies?

I've been talking myself down all night and have pretty much decided it's too soon to start messing with bottles. I am concerned that bottles could be a hygiene risk even with breastmilk in them (or certainly that risk would be a another thing for me to worry about even if it's not that big a thing) and I am really worried it would put her off the boob which I don't want. I'm going back next week to hve her weighed again but I don't want to get over-obsessed with where she is on a graph, I keep telling myself that she is happy and alert and generally seems fine, she feeds regularly and wets lots of nappies and all this counts for much more than whether she has gained 2.5oz or 4. So I am trying my very best to stay cool and not spin out about this.

Except now every time I feed her I am worrying I'm doing it wrong and every time she cries I'm frightened she might be trying to tell me she is starving slowly I thought low milk supply was very rare, but what if I am the one in a thousand and Alice is suffering because I am too militant about breastfeeding?

martafdz

I totally understand your frustration and pain. I was told I didn't produce enough and had to switch to bottle. In my case, however, it was true, as apparently the anti-inflammatories I take might have affected the production of milk. Stick to your guns in not giving up, but do what's best for your baby. The advice I was given to increase supply was pump every time after a feed, or at least 6 times a.day (Medela hires pumps if you want an electric one but don't want to buy one), drink plenty (specially drinks with barley), ask for Domperidone (increases supply), relax (stress affects production) and keep feeding, keep feeding, keep feeding. Also lots of skin to skin, it also tells your boobs to produce milk. If you have to use a bottle, try Medela calma it's designed for breastmilk and breastfeeding, I had two and never got to use them because I had to use formula. Maybe Medela hires them too with the pump, idk, they are expensive to buy, £10-14 the single bottle but if mandatory to pump between feeds, I'd buy one and give it a go before using other bottles. Or you can use the feeding cups, check Amazon, although not sure if they are suitable for that age, as they need quite a lot.

But above all, do not feel like it's your fault, put all your energy into increasing that supply if that is what you want. I hate that I didn't get a proper chance to give BF a go, and had no good information /advice /support before the need to put her on formula. I cried to no end. But you must remember you can do it!! Pump when your lo finishes and is sleeping, keep it and give it to baby on the following feed with your breast, or make a full feed by putting together several bits. If you do that, know that you can add new breastmilk to previous expressed breastmilk as long as they are from the same 24h period and at the same temperature, you will have one stored n the fridge, so you put the second one too in the fridge and when it's also cooled, you can put them in the same container.

Domperidone increased the milk pretty quickly, it's something they give for nausea and sickness, but a side effect of it is that it can make people produce milk, even men!! So if you are producing milk, it increases your supply.

It can be done!! *hugs*

*Ro*

Missbunbury - ((hugs)) I ended up combo feeding after my baby lost too much after the first week, so I understand the worth about feeding !!! But your baby is gaining not losing, ok not as fast as the graph but try and hold that thought, so try not to panic. I wish looking back that I did not get so upset over feeding as it ruined the first few weeks so.
Read back for tips on upping supply, I would get the local help they suggested and I can't really comment about the bottle thing I did the bottle and boob thing as I had no choice. (what i mean is its up to You but i followed medical advice) There are breastfeeding support websites/phone lines so maybe worth having a chat. The main thing is how your baby is so do what you need to do to and try not to agonise over it. X