The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

cheezypeas

365days wrote: »

Cheezy - I know I;m not drinking now, but I would like to share my thoughts about AA. During my time of ...want to call it enlightenment (bit Naff) or my realisation...bit poncy...that time where I knew in my heart of hearts I should stop drinking all togetehr but couldn't quite get my head around it. I considered going to AA. What stopped me was fear, fear of admitting I was THAT bad, and fear of being recognised. I too looked up local ones, but never went. In October 2 years after I stopped I went to my first one. (In the hometown of a friend) still paranoid of being 'seen' I was incredibly scared. I was welcomed with a smile and offered a cup of tea. There were about 8 people there sat around a table, all with a cup of tea/coffee. A few housekeeping things were read out, hall rent etc....then one member told their story. Of how they had fought with the decision, why they had stopped, how their life had changed. It was very similar to a face to face version of this thread. There was one person there who clearly was still drinking but that person didnt speak and no one gave any pressure to. I left with a renewed enthusiasm ( I had been having a ...I've done 2 years surely I can have a drink now wobble) I would go back, but don't feel the need to rush back. I suppose what i'm trying to say is, I think you can stop without the AA but it would be worth looking at it before you deciede to do it without them or not. Most local areas have drug and alcohol advisory services which could be another alternative to AA.

I too would love to be a safe social drinker but I can't.

Good luck whatever you deciede.

Thanks 365..........wise words as ever

CPx

crazymum_2

Cleggie you are doing it properly - and you have been such a massive help to so many people (me - very much so.....still have your Friday night pamper list and things firmly in my head).

Before I came on here I fell down so many times I cannot tell you, sometimes you learn your strengths from your weeknesses and learn where it is you want to go.

Cutting down / giving up drinking is such a difficult one.....walk with us.......we need you

(((((Hugs))))) ....must now get a small girl to school

bearacus

Morning all,

Welcome all the new comers :wave:
CrazymumMonday to Thursday are SNC nights x well done on you afness:T
Cleggiethis thread is for both cutting down/giving up and you sound like you have made great giant leaps towards your goals:T be proud of you achievements x

Bearacus x

nettttie

cleggie wrote: »

I feel like a bit of a let down and think its probably best if i dont come on this thread again until i can sort myself out and do it 'properly'.

you are doing it properly, there are no limits set by anyone but yourself - cutting down is fab, big up to you.

I once left this thread as I felt similar, being told I could never give up the demon drink but in all honestly I didn't and don't want to give it I just wanted to cut down and I have; during the week, am still an alkie troll at the weekend :rotfl::rotfl:

just take the bits of the thread that you need, everyone is behind you, don't commit to any numbers just be glad you can make the bottle last longer and you're getting up and sorting the kids in the morning :T

evilsquid1603

yesterday was another AFD for me!

idristhedragon

Cleggie it's up to you what you do Hun! I am really pleased at cutting down as I have but that by no means means that come my birthday/ anyone's birthday/ any excuse I won't be in the pub stuck on a stool warbling a medley of Lloyd webber musicals, falling off my flip flops and doing my best dancing! However I am happy with that as I am succeeding in my SNC and feel 100% more in control.

Another AFD For me yesterday

beckseven

Hi everyone-just caught up on the thread after being in Budapest for a few days-not af then! Was af yesterday so that's 6 afds please shaggy and 1 for the SNC please Bearacus, Won't be drinking tonight but don't like to call it until the next day! Really enjoying reading the thread. Cleggie don't worry about not visiting the thread until you can do it 'properly'. I've been on the thread for over a year now and I struggle from time to time with the decision whether I need to stop drinking altogether or just cut down. All I can do is try at the moment and I know that I have really cut down thanks to the thread and it's support.

maman

cleggie wrote: »

I feel like a bit of a let down and think its probably best if i dont come on this thread again until i can sort myself out and do it 'properly'.

I'm reading your post and saying 'Don't be so ridiculous!!!' out loud to the screen at the same time.

When I first came on the thread I had to be really determined that I wanted to cut down (not give up). There were a few posters who seemed to want everyone to admit they had a drink problem. I stuck to my guns (with the aid of the ignore button for one particular poster) and I'm still here happily cutting down, back in control, habit broken which is where I wanted to be.

Pleeese don't leave the thread over two glasses. Only you can decide whether it's essential you give up completely. Either way I'm sure the thread can help.

gardenanna

Please don't go Cleggie - you're one of us now

cleggie

Hi guys.
I am just feeling poorly, sorry for myself and grumpy, forgive me.
I am going to have ANOTHER early night and hopefully i wil feel better in the morning.
Thanks you guys.