The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

graemecarter

warbonnet wrote: »

AF-12/31

Morning all, well done to everyone.


Last nights party went well, and I don't have to worry about people reminding me what I did or said because I remember everything- yay!!


It did feel strange being at a party and not drinking, but I want to get to a stage where I only drink when I go to a party or out with friends, and not most nights at home. To do that I need to totally abstain for some time, not sure how long that will be yet.


I still find myself eating a bit too much, but I'm not too worried about that at the moment, although it is the first biggest loser weigh in tomorrow morning at work.


Another thing about not drinking, I used to worry driving to work - what if I am over the drink/drive limit- not anymore

Have a good Sunday everyone
Julie

Good luck.

I always wanted to get to the stage where I could drink 'normally' and retain control of my drinking.
It took me a long time to realise that I will never be in control of alcohol. When I have one drink, then all bets are off as to when I will stop drinking.
I want that second drink more than the first, the seventh more than the sixth, etc.
It's the first drink that gets me drunk, as it invariably led to more drinks.

I now realise that I cannot drink ANY alcohol safely. Thus my limit today is zero. And I am happy with that.

Wanna_Bee_Free

Wow, loads of true and heartfelt posts over the weekend. Very inspiring to catch up on here. mackeroo, please can I come into the SNC for 3 nights this week, Mon - Wed. I have drunk a teensy bit less than my usual bottle plus of wine. Not moderate but not hungover or out of control and a small improvement on my usual weekend drinking. Have a good day everyone.

antonic

I am the same as you GC and thats why I went AF

graemecarter wrote: »

Good luck.

I always wanted to get to the stage where I could drink 'normally' and retain control of my drinking.
It took me a long time to realise that I will never be in control of alcohol. When I have one drink, then all bets are off as to when I will stop drinking.
I want that second drink more than the first, the seventh more than the sixth, etc.
It's the first drink that gets me drunk, as it invariably led to more drinks.

I now realise that I cannot drink ANY alcohol safely. Thus my limit today is zero. And I am happy with that.

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone, thanks for the posts, I love to read them better than any book. Always loved true stories anyhow. Hope that didn't sound offensive, didn't mean to be. Jak I know what you mean when you give something to someone it hurts when they give it away or sell it, but people are sometimes like that. I've been there and they are not worth wasting your feelings on, just think maybe even if its not true that she had a good reason for selling it for a tenner, maybe the other friend nagged her or made her feel guilty and your friend felt like she was helping her out and thought you wouldnt mind. On other had she is just an insensitive person and it didnt cross her mind that what she was doing was going to upset u. If she isnt thinking about it then absolve yourself from thinking too. Its called headwork and people love to do it to us. So let it go over your head, like they do. We are sensitive and because we feel deeply we get hurt, so time to put on the blinkers, I usually worry Ive done something wrong when I havent so now its time to grow a second skin to protect underneath. We are not on this earth for other people to make us feel bad or inadequate. We are equal, whether alcoholic, got a drink problem, or just want to cut down. I know its all too easy to judge and then find yourself in the same or worse situation. By the way I ve been bankrupt too and discharged october 2004 all my debt run up by paying for other people all 25k of it but its gone now and i will stay probably end up paying for others until i learn to love and respect myself. I need alcohol out of the way for me to do this. Hope this helps, I hope I have not offended or patronised you i look up to you jak you are really doing well and i want you to continue. I read your posts each day and you are helping so many others too.

jak

Hi 41. Thanks for your kind and very sensible words! I need to try and stop being quite so sensitive to things, I know. I think a lot of it is that im trying to cope with things i've drunk to forget in the past and things seem to stick in my head horribly. I'm tying to focus on the things I CAN change (god grant me the serenity, courage and wisdom!) like the house no longer looking like an alcoholic lives here! My focus is also to catch up on my bills, corespondance and paperwork so I no longer fall behind. Not drinking has enabled me to organise myself much more effectively but I've still got a long way to go to break the habits of a lifetime! I'm working on it though. I'm hoping to save enough money to get my hair done properly before my birthday in March. It's really long and I want to get it highlighted again as it's been about 6 months and is a right mess. In the meantime, i'm going to get it cut at one of those cheap places so it at least isnt virtually impossible to get a brush through!
I'm also working on losing some weight and getting fit and toned and im glad to say that i'm winning the battle there. I've lost 2lbs in the last week and I really wish i'd measered because i've definately lost quite a few inches! Not quite out of my fat jeans...but getting there. Thank goodness because ive only one pair of jeans that fit me right now and about 10 that are really nice and still dont! x

41_and_i_know_it

jak wrote: »

Hi 41. Thanks for your kind and very sensible words! I need to try and stop being quite so sensitive to things, I know. I think a lot of it is that im trying to cope with things i've drunk to forget in the past and things seem to stick in my head horribly. I'm tying to focus on the things I CAN change (god grant me the serenity, courage and wisdom!) like the house no longer looking like an alcoholic lives here! My focus is also to catch up on my bills, corespondance and paperwork so I no longer fall behind. Not drinking has enabled me to organise myself much more effectively but I've still got a long way to go to break the habits of a lifetime! I'm working on it though. I'm hoping to save enough money to get my hair done properly before my birthday in March. It's really long and I want to get it highlighted again as it's been about 6 months and is a right mess. In the meantime, i'm going to get it cut at one of those cheap places so it at least isnt virtually impossible to get a brush through!
I'm also working on losing some weight and getting fit and toned and im glad to say that i'm winning the battle there. I've lost 2lbs in the last week and I really wish i'd measered because i've definately lost quite a few inches! Not quite out of my fat jeans...but getting there. Thank goodness because ive only one pair of jeans that fit me right now and about 10 that are really nice and still dont! x

Kind and sensible, it doesn't sound like me!:rotfl:
It's like waking up from a bad dream when the full force of emotion hits you and everything has a hidden meaning, and you have to really face up to the person you always were but not pumped full of chemicals. I am aware of the AA prayer, I use it in all parts of my life, I think its called the prayer of St Francis but not sure. I am glad that you are doing the things which are in your control to improve your home life, I've been cleaning today and it sure does help to boost your self-esteem.
I think that you will feel great about yourself soon, this is the hardest part, and you called yourself an alcoholic which is a hard word to say, I can't say it, because I don't think I am but when will I ever know if I am. I know I have a problem when I am not allowed to drink and that frightens me enough to make myself stop as I myself cannot be trusted because I've got every excuse in the book, sob story etc and this is why I have drunk for so long, so I give up on the 2nd rate life I had full of illusions and delusions, here I am feeling it raw, hurting in order to heal, put through the fire to be forged into a diamond. Hope I can do this, I want to be in control of my feelings without needing a drink.

jak

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Kind and sensible, it doesn't sound like me!:rotfl:

Well maybe that's you now! You are doing so well and really helping me. Thank you x

gien

Another AFD here, so 1 for the SNC please Mackeroo and 11 in total

Barny1979

14 AFDs for me and 1 SNC too

*Mari*

Just popping in quickly 12/31 AF and 1 for SNC please, really busy so will try and catch up later!

Mari