The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

shaggydoo

September 2012

SET YOUR

Everyone Welcome.

shaggydoo

September :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

:j = target achieved


Bigdrinker

Chocolate Cupcake /16

CheesedOffwithDebt /20

Gien /25

Mackeroo

Maman /10

Mari

Miss P

Miss rlr /11

OlderButNotWiser

Pippi

Pixiegirl /12

Shaggy /17

Pricey SOS

Tracy

TrainingDad /15




PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

MarkMan

Hi everyone. Slept half-decently last night so feel quite refreshed this morning. Sun is shining and it's Friday! Actually, the "Friday feeling" got me wondering.... is it because there's no work for two days or is it because there are two nights of "guilt-free" drinking to have??? Would the Friday feeling be the same for me if there wasn't the drinking? My last AF Friday night was probably 13+ years ago:o:o

Thanks greamecarter, I can't see any way I could give up without completely changing my life, especially my job, so I'm under no illusions that one day I'll just cut out the alcohol and carry on as usual.

Thanks Maman, and good advice about evening distractions. That is certainly the worst time for me but in the last six months the "evening" starts earlier in the day which is really worrying.

Anyway, got to go now, so good luck to everyone for today and well done to those AF yesterday. I'll be trying to push the evening start time back tonight and bring bedtime forward.:D

Oh, and thanks charley4 - sorry I missed your post yesterday.

missmucksmum

maman wrote: »

Thanks so much for your post Markman. I hadn't thought of it as MrR having his nose rubbed in it more telling him he really needed to try and sort it as it was getting to a more serious pitch than perhaps he realised and the family wanted to help.

missmucksmum, is your DH mostly an evening drinker? I'm not comparing myself with him as I'm just a cutter-down who needed to break an ingrained habit but I've always found that evening is the hardest time as it's when most people have downtime to relax and start drinking. I think the soft drinks are a good idea as I found I needed something in my hand to replace the alcohol. Lately, I've moved on to hot drinks as I have to sip those which helps me. Other displacement activities are things like exercise to get you out of the house (walks?gym?), restful baths and early nights.

Lovely, supportive posts on here today. This is a good thread.:A

Ironically, chocolatecupcake, I was mostly motivated to cut down because of the calories. I cut down the booze first, then added in healthy eating and lost 3.5 stone which I've kept off for a year!:j Having come in at my lightest weight this morning I was tempted to 'celebrate' knowing I could afford the calories. I got as far as putting a bottle in the fridge but it's still there unopened!:D

So 13 AFDs for August, please.

I don't think I'll be clocking up any more but I'm pleased with that. It represents 13 completely AF days plus several where I've had a single glass with a meal out.

Thanks for the scoring Shaggy and may I have my usual
target of 10 for September please?

Hi yes he was a solely evening drinker straight from work to the pub to 'chill' and weekends in the pub from dinner time and never used to drink in the house. Then things seemed to slip about 3 yrs ago he fell out with his boss (also his brother) quit his well paying job and then I was the main bread winner and he started nipping to the pub at lunch time or to play snooker etc. So this year we had our own business and it got to the point where he wanted to drink constantly and would go to the pub when we were most busy and leave me on my own, but would tell me at a later date when he was drunk how guilty he felt sat in that pub knowing I was on my own. I have always kept the extent of his drinking mostly a secret as it is not acceptable to normal people especially not my family even know they knew he was a heavy drinker, but I made out it didnt affect our lives as much as it was and everything was just peachy. I dont know if it was just my imagination but I think my husband knowing this this took advantage and knew I would do nothing and tell noone as not to break my little facade. He has been very selfish and still can be its just something I will learn about in family therapy at the rehab centre x

missrlr

I made it I made it I have the 21 days this month!
It's Friday and I can turn off my work alarm I am off on hols. I also am trying not to poke an irritating smirking "I think I know it all" type in the eye for being a moron.

bluebiro

graemecarter wrote: »

There came a point where I couldn't live with it, but couldn't live without it. That was a painful place to be.

Just stopping drinking did not work for me, as when I was on the wagon I often wanted to a drink, and that would build up and up until I had a drink.
I could stop drinking, but I couldn't stay stopped.

Stopping drinking wasn't enough for me as it was the sober me that picked up the first drink. Thus my problem is two fold - physical in that when I have one drink, I have a huge desire to have another, then another. And mental, in terms of knowing that alcohol was damaging my life, but still having that first drink regardless.

Thus I had to change if I was to be alcohol free successfully.
If I didn't change, nothing would

Good luck

That was the point I got to where I couldn't live with it and couldn't live without it. Life was a living hell with everything revolving around alcohol and illness associated with it.
Yet I was still terrified about having to live life sober. I found just doing it one day at a time has helped everything and now I am 991 days alcohol free and loving every minute of it.
There are still times that are hard but I can now cope with life and a drink would be the worst thing I could do.
Also with the money saved I am going to USA this week :rotfl:

ChocolateCupcake

Just reporting in.......I succumbed to the post shopping glass of wine (or 3) last night and had a nice glass of pink with my diet dinner tonight, so no more AF days to add to my August total of 11.
But I'm happy that it is an improvement, and works out at 2-3 AFD each week.

PriceySOS

19 AFDs this month, please, Shaggy thanks. Not great, could do better, but hey ho, been on holiday too.

Target for September: 24 AFDs

mackeroo

Hi Everyone
Sorry been awol for a while but been really busy and also not trying very hard to be AF so didnt feel like i had anything exciting to report it. So Aug remains 10 AF please Shaggy. As we are away on hols at the end of Sept i was initially thinking of going for TF in Sept but thought that would give me a licence to drink as much as i wanted. I really want Sept to be about refocussing for me, so 12 AF please for Sept Shaggy. And thanks again for keeping the scores on the doors:T:T:T

Im not Af this eve but only had 1 glass (Large) of wine and then made cup of tea which is progress. Tmro wont be Af as out celebrating with friend but my plan is to have the first AF Sun in a long time. I have really noticed the impact of drinking more on my purse and weight so having a late holiday in Sept is good incentive for me.
Have a good weekend x

penelopedee_2

Hi All, need to come back, if you don't mind.

Lots of reasons to be here but also lots of stupid reasons to not be here. Was going to say 'can't make alot of promises today...' but instantly realises what that means.

Will be joining the September challenge shortly.

Hope everyone is well xxx