The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

shaggydoo

missrlr wrote: »

Right - I am ashamed to say I cannot count, or rather keep count.

Oh thank God Thought it was me for a minute lol:p

I'll update your score...

shaggydoo

trainingdad wrote: »

Well, I'm going to try again and this marks 1 day AF. I can do 1 day. I can do 2 days. 3 days will be my first real achievement.

Do you want to join the September challenge?

trainingdad wrote: »

Wish me luck!

shaggydoo

August :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved



Bearacus /TF


Bigdrinker 5/TF

Chocolate Cupcake 9/20


Delamo /30


Gien 8/24

Mackeroo 10/16

Maman 11/10


Mari 6/10


Miss P 3/21

Miss rlr 18/21


OlderButNotWiser 2/10

Pippi 9/21

Pixiegirl 10/TF

Shaggy 18/17

Pricey SOS 9/TF


ThirdTimeLucky /16


Tracy 8/TF



PLEASE PUT YOUR AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

shaggydoo

September 2012

SET YOUR

Everyone Welcome.

shaggydoo

January :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

:j = target achieved


Bigdrinker

Chocolate Cupcake

Gien

Mackeroo

Maman /10

Mari

Miss P

Miss rlr /11

OlderButNotWiser

Pippi

Pixiegirl

Shaggy /17

Pricey SOS

Tracy




PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

mrsrainman

I don't know if it's the weather affecting me but I feel totally fed up today.
Fed up with struggling with debt, wondering how much I can spend on food, not going places so I don't have to put petrol in the car, etc, etc ,etc. Just Fed Up!!!!
And all the while I sit a watch MrR selfishly drink away £200 a month. Not stopping to think about how it affects everyone around him, seeming not to care about the damage he is doing to his health. I know it's a drug and I know he's addicted, but sometimes my patience and sympaty wears a bit thin.
Sorry for the moan, just had to get it out of my head before I go mad!

MrsR xx

mrsrainman

trainingdad wrote: »

Hi everyone, I stumbled across this thread earlier in the year and knew I would be back sometime. Interestingly, I came across a post by crazymum and new it must be my Sister. There was just something about the tone. She is an amazing lady and a quite incredible Mother.

I know she is trying so very hard to overcome here alcoholism and sings the praises of the support she, and all of you, get on this thread.

Here I am, to join in. To admit (again - and again and again and again) that I do have a problem with alcohol.

I did give up, about 10 years ago, for 4 years. 4 years! Not a drop passed my lips. It was a fight; sometimes easier sometime harder. I recall one evening trying to get drunk on Caliber lager. You can get bloated, but that's about it! But I figured that if I could pour so much energy into my drinking, fully aware of the destruction it was causing on my life, then I was actually a very strong person. I just had to take that strength and point it in a different direction.

I went cold turkey - from being to tipsy drunk every single day from lunchtime to gone bedtime to nothing. I just stopped.

Yes, I had headaches and rubbish sleeps for about a month but things did then get better. And better and better.

Wonderful sleeps. No trouble at all being woken up at 5am on a Saturday by my beautiful daughter asking to be taken fishing. So much energy for other things.

And then it crept back, after my marriage broke down. One glass at a time (I didn't need much more at first to feel drunk again). And here I am today, fighting the same old battles again on most days. As crazymum says, it's boring and I do want to stop.

Well, I'm going to try again and this marks 1 day AF. I can do 1 day. I can do 2 days. 3 days will be my first real achievement.

Wish me luck!

And craymum - you're the best sister a bro could ever wish for. An inspiration (don't fall of that pedestal now) x

Good Luck trainingdad!!!!!!! Just take one day at a time And what a wonderful thing to say about your sister. :A

MrsR xx

maman

mrsrainman wrote: »

I don't know if it's the weather affecting me but I feel totally fed up today.
Fed up with struggling with debt, wondering how much I can spend on food, not going places so I don't have to put petrol in the car, etc, etc ,etc. Just Fed Up!!!!
And all the while I sit a watch MrR selfishly drink away £200 a month. Not stopping to think about how it affects everyone around him, seeming not to care about the damage he is doing to his health. I know it's a drug and I know he's addicted, but sometimes my patience and sympaty wears a bit thin.
Sorry for the moan, just had to get it out of my head before I go mad!

MrsR xx

I know it sounds very simplistic to say so MrsR but I think the miserable weather this summer has made a difference to how we're all feeling. It's like we're used to coping with life's tribulations (of which you have more than your fair share) and then the weather just makes it one more thing. Especially as it's the one thing we can't control.

I know you've tried talking to MrR about his problems but is he fully aware of how much his drinking affects the family budget? Does it affect him the same (does he have to go without to buy his booze)? If he had a reduced budget for the booze would he just go into debt? Any outcome from his talk with sister? Any parts of book read?

Sorry to bombard you with questions.:o I'm just interested and sympathetic but just ignore if you don't want to discuss. Hope the sun comes out to try and cheer you up a little.:A

Welcome td, good to have you on board. Good luck with yor AF day and onwards!

Good to see you posting markman, you have been missed!! Post often.

I've not got any more AF days to report. I know I'm probably over the suggested units but nothing excessive. Had wine with a meal out yesterday and then a mug of tea when I got home. I know in the past I'd have engineered wine with lunch out as well yesterday (ended up with baguette and bottle of water sitting in the sunshine). So the stop button is definitely in my reach. What I don't want to do is go back to daily drinking, albeit a smaller amount. Aiming to be AF tonight.

tracy_36

Welcome trainingdad - keep posting on here, it really does make a difference

Well, to cheer you all up, as you all sound like you need it

My date went really well, and I stuck to lemonade all night, yahhhh:j:j:j

So 9AF for me

I did think about having one, then thought what is the point if I am trying to be good to get my AF day count up, so thanks to this board :beer:

tracy_36

And welcome back MarkMan :wave: