The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

cleggie

Argh, the 'I'll only have 1 drink" thoughts have already started

crazymum_2

Cleggie - just focus on the lovely pamper evening ahead and remember how good the mornings feel

I'm looking forward to relaxing in front of the tv, book in hand and I might even go the whole hog and have a cuppa hot chocolate

maman

cleggie wrote: »

Argh, the 'I'll only have 1 drink" thoughts have already started

Tell yourself (out loud if you have to) 'I'm not having a drink tonight!!', as each hour passes it will get easier as you won't want to waste an AFD so late in the day. Focus on how great you'll feel in the morning as opposed to how rubbish if you give in. Make yourself a coffee and find something else to do!

We're all rooting for you (and anyone else finding it hard:)).

cleggie

The kids have just left with their dad and i am REALLY struggling. Why is it so hard?

365days

Cleggie- I can't say why it is so hard for you because i don't know but I can tell you why it was so hard for me.

It was hard for me because I was addicted to alcohol, just like many many other people are. My addiction meant that I craved a drink even though I wanted to stop. Alcohol was so powerful to me that it twisted my thoughts. It told me that I could have one, in fact I deserved one. It told me that I didn't have a problem, that drinking was even better than not drinking. It made me believe that I had been mistaken in my belief that I wanted to stop drinking.

I tried 'just one' a few times......it never worked. It may for you, it may not. Even now I sometimes think maybe one won't hurt...frankly I'm not prepared to take the risk in finding out. John Coats says in his book...remember your last drunk,,,,,no typo.....because for people with alcohol problems it was never your last drink it was your last drunk. I'm talking about me, not you, but I hope it goes some way to explain why you may be finding it so hard. If it was easy it wouldn't be a problem would it?

Run that bath!!!!! x

Flat_Eric

clean sweep for me Bearacus on the SNC and 5/5 Shaggy :j

Feeling tempted tonight - first week back at work and all that but will resist for the moment.

cleggie

:j:j:j:j VERY pleased with myself right now!!:o

Thanks so much 365days.
Well, i did what i normally do when the kids are away, i went to tesco.
Now, normally i go to tesco to buy a bottle of wine....but i have just returned with:

Pizza (pepparoni, the kids hate it)
Galazy Chocolate (the kids normay eat it all)
'Posh crisps' (kettle chip type ones)
A new DVD (was only £3. Its called 'Bucket List')
Lemonade
Apple cordial.


I didnt buy any alcohol at all!!!! and as i was walking out of tesco, i was grinning to myself as i knew i had done the right thing!

So i am on my 6th AF night!!Yes, i know its big, but i am proud

crazymum_2

well done Cleggie

:j:j:j:j:j:j we like that

365days - you always have exactly the right things to say

365days

Ah bucket list.....fancy that myself. Let us know how it was.

cleggie

Thanks GUys, i really appreciate it.

How are you both doing tonight? Pampering yourself yet crazymum?
I certainly will let you know 365days, i have been meaning to watch it for ages and i LOVE Morgan Freeman, so should be good