The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

cleggie

It's OK crazymum, i am much too stubborn to give up now!
Went upstairs and hoovered and rearranged the kids bedroom, polished, washed the dishes and did some dinner.
By the time i am teetotal, my house will be spotless!

So i have decided i will definitely be having an early night tonight, after reading a book in bed for a bit.

I have been trying to understand why i rely on alcohol to 'relax', and when it started. I know that i was never a big drinker before having the kids, and it got more frequent when i founf myself single. For a long long time, i was totally on my own with 2 kids and no support. I never went out to pubs/clubs/ anywhere, and i think that drinking was the last bit of being 'a rebel' that i had.
I have gievn up smoking, and then my drinking got worse, i think i just gave up one addiction to become more reliant on another (not that i think i am addicted to drinking, it just seems to feel lik eit sometimes)!

Anyhow, i am babbling again! Just wanted to say thanks for the support, and dont worry- i am a stubborn person, i wont give in!

crazymum_2

:T brilliant cleggie.... and on we walk.

Drink is just one of those things that lots of people just 'do' I guess, without thinking about it most of the time. My Mum only ever has a couple of glasses of wine - never gets drunk. Yet she can't do without her couple of glasses of wine an evening - habit I suppose.

Anyway, for me at least, life is much better without it and in a couple of months time we wont even think much about it - just find the mornings easier and feel much better.....and I'm going to hope that my house gets cleaner

cleggie

Thanks so much crazymum, i really appreciate you taking the time to post just then.x.

I have a headache from hell as well this evening, so drinking lots of water and just watching some TV.x.

fakeplastictwee

You should be feeling so proud of yourself crazymum, you have so much to gain and look forward to now.

On the subject of drinking being just a habit, I think that's what happened to me. My last boyfriend drank wine every night and when we spent the weekends togetherI'd join in and quite like it. Then when I was home alone in the week I'd have the odd glass to enjoy myself and it soon became a nightly habit. The more often I drank, the less it affected me so the greater quantity I drank. So it's that sort of habit that I'm trying to break, so that I actually appreciate it when I do have it.

Having said that, I'm having the first wobble of the year today. I've been helping a friend with a stressful situation and always seem to take others' problems on as my own so feel like I could do with a glass of wine. Trying to hold out.

cleggie

Fakeplastictwee- come and perch on the buddy bench with me and crazymum, everyone who is struggling is welcome.
Do you have any plans for this evening?

fakeplastictwee

Not really. I'm really rubbish at using my evenings, I feel like I'm just loitering around my own house :rotfl:

I'm up at 5am for work tomorrow though so I don't want to be feeling rubbish. Helping my mum move house tomorrow afternoon and I'm looking forward to going there so I'm looking forward to that and the weekend. Will be interesting to see how I fare with not drinking all weekend, although I have allowed myself one drinking day as a celebration. Not sure if it'll be Friday or Saturday though.

cleggie

Since you have no plans, do you think you may find it harder if not kept busy?
How about having a nice bath with candles,bubbles etc (if you are a bloke you may be laughing right now!!)?

fakeplastictwee

Haha, I'm definately female. I think by the time I've eaten, digested, got a bath and dried my hair etc, caught up with my boyfriend a bit, I'll be getting tired and wanting to go to bed. I've got a bookcase full of books I haven't read yet too so might find myself a quiet spot and do some reading too.

cleggie

I am off to clean up after dinner now, stay strong and i will be back later.

gardenanna

365days wrote: »

Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. If so do something about those things or at least recognise where the problem lies.

I'm going to type this up 365days and put it on the fridge door - oh and add Stressed, Worried, Upset etc cos I can do it (not drink I mean) when life is calm and plain sailing but when the s**t hits the fan I reach for a glass.