The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

365days

Insomnia- Are you drinking coffee/tea/cola instead of booze? If so may want to invest in some decaff varieties. Warm baths, lavender oil on the pillow and umm, er, a good er, um orgasm usually does the trick!

cleggie

Thanks 365days, i will try those suggestions (yes, ALL of them )

I am off to have a bath and try and get some sleep now. I had to get up stupidly early this morning, and i am also not feeling very well.
I hope you are al doing well this evening and remaining AF.
Chat tomorrow!

Wanna_Bee_Free

Wow, I'm glad I got the energy up to come and catch up on here. I'm also in the exhausted, emotional insomniac category and feel like I am coming down with a lurgy but suddenly feel like I'm in good company with all of you on here.

Sometime last Autumn I was awake and found a thread on here that might be worth a read. I can't remember much as I was exhausted when I read it! My first attempt to do this so hope it works...
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3588373

I also have a book called Overcoming Insomnia and Sleep Problems by Colin A Espie. Quite funny actually as I bought it at 3am one night, off Ama*zon and completely forgot so was really surprised when it turned up a few days later.

It doesn't seem to have any quick fixes, in fact the foreword said don't skip ahead to part 2 , 'especially if you are the kind of person who likes to get on with it' so of course I haven't actually read any of it but have owned it for weeks!
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Insomnia-Sleep-Problems-Behavioral/dp/1845290704/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325706612&sr=8-1

In the interests of sharing I will try and start it tonight. Will keep you all posted.

I suspect not drinking for a while will do more for my insomnia than anything though.

Off to read in the bath! I have a lavender scented candle so will light that too!

Edit - have realised that this book was recommended in that thread, wonder what other good advice there was!

legsand

Evening to you all,

Just to say am thinking of you crazymum.

Guess what AF DAY FOR ME TODAY PLEASE SHAGGY.

Hope you all have a good evening

legs xxx

mackeroo

3 please Shaggy

evilsquid1603

1 more AFD for me please Shaggy

cleggie wrote: »

Yeah, i am having a bit of insomnia as well nettttie.

Anyone got any ideas on how to sleep better?

i got sent to a councillor when i was depressed and not sleeping and she took me through a big thing on "sleep hygiene":

• go to bed and get up at the same time every single day. even if you couldn't sleep the night before, do not lie in.
• try and do without naps so you are genuinely tired at bedtime.
• cut out caffeine and alcohol after lunchtime if you can.
• make sure your room is dark enough and quiet enough.
• have a routine like having a hot chocolate, a warm bath, reading for a while before bed so your body knows that its getting ready to go to sleep.
• banish technology from your bedroom and only use it for sleep and sex.
• only go in there when it is bedtime, don't spend all day in there.
• have a technology wind down and turn the tv/computer off an hour or two before bed so you don't have your mind constantly stimulated.

rachelww1

2AFDs please Shaggy. Fancied a little drink earlier but did an inventory of the freezer instead. What a fab life I lead :rotfl:

Wanna_Bee_Free

rachelww1 wrote: »

2AFDs please Shaggy. Fancied a little drink earlier but did an inventory of the freezer instead. What a fab life I lead :rotfl:

That made me smile Rachel, me too. I wanted a drink so I cleaned the kitchen - rock 'n roll here too. Should be spilling wine on the sofa at this time usually.


After two pages of the introduction I haven't got anything like as many ideas as Evil squid - thanks very much!


Sleep well everyone.

Doh, forgot the reason for posting! That's 3 for me on both the SNC and Jan challenge. 'g'night all.

crazymum_2

thankyou legs strangely enough I wanted to send you a hug this morning.... just because you keep coming on, saying hello, not AF....makes me smile and think of myself - is that strange?
Maybe I'm just tired. Seem to be just vacantly getting through the evenings at the moment, unable to do much except not drink. I am reading which is really nice.

Mornings are great, early daytime good, afternoons and I start to dip.

Insomnia - I drink loads of coffee now in the evenings and hadn't even thought about decaffinated - will definately be stocking up on some now - thankyou.

I think I'm feeling that I'm losing a bit of my identity, I have some friends who are my special idiot drinking friends, I like people who are never able to give up drinking - because then they can fail with me, I suppose 365 days, in your story you said that you dreamt of finding the perfect boyfriend who drank the same as you.....I did. He fails every time he tries to give up - I always knew he would and would be secretly very pleased because we could go back to our old ways.

And now.....now I really do want to give up forever. I worry about it, about how people will perceive me - about how I will perceive me. I don't know, I don't know if you would understand what I mean.
I'm hoping the book 365days recommended comes soon and will give me the answers to it all :cool:

And now I've brought a down note to this wonderfully uplifting and positive thread.

Go to bed......and feel fabulous in the morning.....lesson learnt

This morning I said to myself - do not wobble at tea time....and I think I made it through ok. Tomorrow I will try to be more positive. Friday I shall chop my arms off and tape up my mouth so that I am not physically able to drink....I'm going to need help for Friday

fakeplastictwee

crazymum wrote: »

I worry about it, about how people will perceive me - about how I will perceive me. I don't know, I don't know if you would understand what I mean.

I think you're going on a bit of a "journey" (sorry sounds cheesy!) but I guess you're finding out who you are again. Like I said last night I think alcohol clouds your mind and emotions and when drank in excess also controls your every move. To look at it positively, you're breaking away from those chains and taking control again, and allowing yourself to try and be you again. You might just have to feel around in the dark for a little bit while you find out though I hope you don't think I'm going on. I may be totally wrong, but when I'm feeling depressed from drinking too much, these are the sorts of things that pass through my mind. I get to the end of the weekend and think... I could have gone anywhere, done anything, but my body feeling crap from hangovers, and my totally lack of imagination through being cloudy headed, have made me stay in and do nothing. Then when I stop drinking I feel a bit lost. But I guess there's so much potential there...

Oh dear I see to have waffled on a lot over the last few nights. I'm just feeling very enthusiastic for everyone.

4 for me please shaggy and 3 for the SNC bearacus

Hope everyone sleeps well tonight.

xx