The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

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jo1972 wrote: »

Good morning all. The wanderer returns

Been sat here this morning thinking about how much input I gave to this board over the last couple of years and how many days I have wasted with a hangover. My life used to be a mess, I was unhappy in my marriage and I drank daily to blot it all out then spent the next day busy recovering from the night before to do it all again.

I am now no longer in that marriage, life has moved on, I have a supportive partner whom I live with and I no longer have any of the reasons I had to drink. So why do I?

Suppose I better say it 'out loud'. I am currently drinking 6 cans of stella minimum daily. I have no effect from these, neither do I get drunk or do I have ill effects the following morning.

This has now got to stop. Have no idea where I'm going to get the strength from? Have to see what happens when the beer bell goes later.

Time is limited at the moment and so I haven't had a chance to read back but I hope that all is well with everybody? Notice a couple of oldies still about

I'll try and pop back later when the bells are clanging.


xx

Hi Jo.

It has taken me a long time to stop questioning why I drank like I did. There was nothing I could pinpoint in my childhood, life, relationships, etc where I could say "That's why I drank alcoholically"

I just did. And that's that.
All I know about me is that I am an alcoholic. And for me that means two things.
1 - when I put alcohol in my body, all bets are off regarding when I stop drinking. I sometimes stopped after 2-3 drinks, but sometimes wouldn't stop until many hours later. I never could tell.
2 - Even knowing the above, I couldn't NOT pick up that first drink. I'd be in trouble at home and work, but then I would sometimes have that first drink. Or I'd promise myself that I wouldn't drink for a week, but a few days later, I'd have a drink.

Why am I an alcoholic? I don't know. I just am.
So I needed to get help to live my life in a way that I wouldn't have the desire to have that first drink.
The why doesn't matter for me now - what matters is that I do what I need to do so I don't drink.
My drinking damages the life and everyone around me, especially me. I owe it to myself to get help and continue to receive help for my drinking

This is regarding my drinking alone. By no means everyone is like this.

Good luck with whatever you do

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD for the SNC please Bearacus.



Have a Happy One!

Shaggyx

shaggydoo

tracy_36 wrote: »

Hi Shaggy, am not sure what I need to be
I want to stop completely for a month, and haven't had a drink since Sat....

I'll put you down for the remainder of Feb. That'll look like 3/11 - that means there are 8 days left in Feb and you've already completed 3. You can sign up for as many days as you lke in March - if you wanted to complete a calendar month, that would be another 19.

I hope that's ok

shaggydoo

Jo wheeling out the MSE Welcome (back) Wagon for you

shaggydoo

February :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 29 days AF

:j = target achieved


Bearacus 21/TF

Beck7 7/18

Bigdrinker /25

Bretts77 /22

Caramelcaron 4/TF

Cheezypeas 13/23

Chloris 14/24

Cleggie 12/15
Crazymum 21/29

dprovan /27

Evilsquid 9/20

Fakeplastictwee /12

Foreverhopeful 8/TF

Gardenanna 15/TF

Glasgowgirl 9/TF

Lizzyb 13/29

Mackeroo 10/16

Maman 10/10 :j

Mari 5/TF

May 5/18

Miss P 16/20

Molly-72 1/20

Mrs Vimes /20

Nettttie 7/20

Shaggy 20/17 :j

Peterbunny 6/21

Plumjam /16

Pricey SOS 14/22

Tracy_36 3/11

Rachel 1/TF

WBF 2/15




PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all!

Quickly popping on this morning.

Jo - hope you got through last night ok?

Shaggy - 17 please!

tracy_36 - well done on getting through a situation where you would normally drink. Its breaking little habits like that which make all the difference.:T

Miss P
xx

gardenanna

Hi everyone. Great to "meet" you jo, chillired and tracy and WOW WOW WOW crazymum what can I say.

I'll declare tomorrow when I hope to get my luv bug. I had my first drinks in 23 days this week - 2 beers in the pub with mates. I haven't drunk any wine at home :j and that feels like such a freedom with the bells now much fainter and not every day. I'm still undecided if I want/need to stop or if, like maman, I'm in a destructive habit that I can get on top off and drink sensibly. Anyway I enjoyed the beer very much, had no problem going onto coke after 2 halves BUT was quite low and depressed the next day:( so the jury's still out. Back to AF now. Have a good day everyone

jo1972

Morning all :wave:

No didn't manage to turn the bells off last night, but putting plan in place.

GC, thanks, as always :A xx plus thanks for your message a few weeks ago, youll probably realise why I didn't answer

missrlr

I think this thread has anti-bell properties. Cantered home to make pancakes last night before DH went to work, then did some odd jobs before hitting the gym, came home looked at the half bottle of wine on the side, logged on here for some inspirational reading, decided it was cooking only stuff and went to bed with a big glass of squash and the evilbay app on my phone (which is chewing the battery at an alarming rate!). Managed to sleep really well until the phone beeped about 5am as the battery had died (see ebay app) and although i still didn't want to get up in the morning as am tired.
The bells seemed to shush at the reading of this thread. No little whisperings of "it's just a half bottle of wine" following my ascent to bed
So AF here last night

maman

As planned, had a single glass out with a meal last night. It was an early (after work) meal so I was home before 9. And did I carry on drinking? No!!:j A mug of tea really hit the spot.

Same sort of day planned today but it's lunch this time!!

Have a good day all!