Weight Loss the Old Style Way! Part 8. Please read posts 1 and 2 before posting.

Caterina

Hello all,

Long time no report back. Am very sorry to report that I am heavier than when I started the challenge, at 83.4 Kg.

I had a dreadful time in Italy, ok at first, even swam in the sea, lovely weather, but in the end I left having had a major fallout with my mother and now I have estranged myself from all of them and will never see them again. I know the writing was on the wall but it has left me in a bit of an emotional state.

I haven't paid much attention to dieting and have fallen into bad eating patterns again. Then a friend of mine, whose bootcamp class I attend, offered me to give me a few personal training sessions at a very good rate, also part offset by some babysitting I do for her.

The workouts are fine, but she asked me to follow her food plan, and it is making me miserable. She has studied nutrition and is very anti low-carb, which is the ONLY eating way that has worked for me. Her plan is all about eating "good" carbs, whole grains etc and I am always hungry, so I cheat. So I am back hitting the cakes and the sweet rubbish.

Yesterday I went to a friend's birthday, she has done ever so well on the 5:2, lost lots of weight. I tried the 5:2 but was left so shaky on 500 calories that I was really not functioning. I asked her how she does it and she smiled and said "just eating less food" which is right and sacrosanct truth but I felt it was a bit smug. Surely if it was this easy we could all "just eat less food" and the diet industry would collapse! I am truly glad for her, she looks great and am delighted for her success, and hand on heart not envious or anything, but feel I cannot talk diet or weight issues with someone who can so easily dismiss how hard it is for some of us. I hope I was never smug about my weight loss when I did lose it.

So, in conclusion, only 2 days to Christmas and I feel like the perfect failure.

Not sure if I should start something today or wait till after Christmas Day, or just give up and let myself go again and stop this absolute madness of self hatred.

ellie99

Caterina sorry you're having such a hard time of it.

I don't really have any advice, but do know from experience that I've had to be in the right frame of mind to lose weight...I have to really want to change myself before I can do it. Only you will know if you're at that stage, or whether you just need to take a step back and be gentle with yourself, and take the pressure off for a while.

Your workout friend has asked you to follow her diet plan...if it's not working it's up to you to find a plan that does work, talk it over with her if you want...but it's your responsibility to decide what you eat, not hers, she's only giving you advice.

Also, I think maybe your 5:2 friend didn't mean to sound smug...saying "just eating less food" covers multitudes! Who knows, maybe she found it really hard. Most of what I've done myself has been eating less food, and a little bit more of the "right" food, and it's been hard, to put it mildly! Constantly refusing the biscuit, or the cake, or having smaller portions than I really want.

You're right...eating less is the whole crux of weight loss, and if we all did that, the dieting industry may well collapse, and that would not be a bad thing...they don't want us to lose weight permanently, or they would be out of business anyway.

You're not a failure, you're a person coping with some difficult stuff.
Be kind to yourself, you may decide to diet after the holidays, or you may decide to put it on the back burner until later...whatever you decide, realise that you're a valuable human being, and get rid of the self hatred...we always think worse of ourselves than we would anyone else (what I mean is, you wouldn't come on here and ridicule anyone else for being overweight, so don't do it to yourself )

Caterina

Ellie thank you for your kind and sensible words, you are so right, probably yesterday I was seeing everything in a negative way and felt smugness where there was none. Also re. my pt friend, I told her at the beginning and 2 weeks later that I was always hungry, sha asked me to give it a bit longer and I did, but after Christmas I revert to lower carb. Being hungry and counting calories just does not work for me and you are 100% right it is my responsibility.

Just had pea and potato fritters and 2 clementines for breakfast, so still on the carbs but I am giving myself a break, can't start anything challenging while I feel so down.

Thank you again and happy Christmas!

Knit_Witch

Hugs Caterina - I am sorry you have had such a bad time of it at th moment.

I 2nd Ellie's suggestion of talking with your friend and sorting out a diet plan that suits you and that you feel less inclined to cheat on (if I do low carb I get dizzy, and fall over and when you can't get back up again without a LOT of help that is NOT good :eek:), your other friend that did the 5:2 probably filled up on the low cal days with lots of veggie soups, beggar all calories but quite filling!

The current challenge is now over (hold it, I heard that cheer from that back ... who was that then? :rotfl:) and the new one starts on the 4th January, so if you want back in Caterina that gives you are starting point

Knit_Witch

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Caterina

Thank you knitwitch I am in for the next challenge, still aiming for sub-80 Kg, whenever it will happen, as an interim step towards a healthier weight.

ellie99

Knit_Witch wrote: »

The current challenge is now over (hold it, I heard that cheer from that back ... who was that then? :rotfl:)

Knit Witch as soon as I read that I had a couple of mince pies to celebrate :rotfl:
I overdid it a bit yesterday, my jeans were really loose, and today they're tight, hope it's just bloating

Preparing to go out in the storms again...it should be a rule that twice as many calories are used up walking in the wind :rotfl:

I want to lose about 20 more pounds, so can you put me down for 10lbs for the next challenge please Knit Witch. I have a few birthdays coming up, so don't want to be too ambitious. Thank you for continuing to keep track of us all

A very happy christmas to you all, hope you enjoy it

ellie99

I thought I had a cunning plan ...DS1 was going to a friends get-together last night, with the instructions to " bring all your left-overs"...so off he went with all the xmas cake and mince pies and shortbread...and I was really pleased because the temptation had been removed...

He brought it all home again :mad:, they ate pizzas instead...can't even give it away :rotfl:

Molly41

Please put me down for 1 stone again x

WantToBeSE

Knit_Witch wrote: »

The current challenge is now over...and the new one starts on the 4th January

Please put me down for 13lbs, KW. I feel determined and 1lb a week can't be THAT hard..can it?? Famous last words