Keeping up appearances.......

Honey_Bear

• Money. Spent £19 at Tessies but no crap bought. Cat and dog food and fruit & vegetables only. Stupid YNAB still won't balance so I must have mixed something up in the holiday spending chaos. Tomorrow I need to sort it.

The good thing about figures is that it's there somewhere on the page so to speak, so you will spot the mistake when you have time to look through the entries.

• Healthy eating/drinking. Good excuse coming up! First the good news - I have eaten my 5 x F & V. BUT tonight was the start of the new Celebrity Big Brother. I know it's junk TV but it's my guilty pleasure - and Little Miss Happy's. We have a tradition that on launch night we have a mini feast while we watch it. We call it our Big Bruffet.... (groan!)!!! Tonight's Big Bruffet consisted of several vege samosas, onion bhajis, veg pakoras, two glasses of wine, a large slice of chocolate cake and a Cadbury's crème egg. Traditions are important!

I'm going to ignore the dreadful punning and move straight on to the chocolate *tsk* *tsk* and then of course - traditions. Well, yes, understandable, that. I have a Fiddler on the Roof song as an earworm now, thanks to you. I'm also a fan of allowing ourselves to revel in some serious trash occasionally.

• Daily Admin - nothing in the post

Now I understand yesterday's comment, which I misunderstood as an excuse. Sorry Happy.

• Admin catch up - been at work all day and feasting all night, so it's bookmarked for tomorrow.

Will you have time to do two things tomorrow? If not I think you should allow yourself the occasional day off if nothing's super urgent.

• Ring parents - they rang me to sort out some solicitor stuff and all is well

How about rewording that one to 'Contact with parents' so that if they contact you it still counts?

• Keep house tidy. Mr H hasn't been working today so he has done it and I like that very much

Yay for OH's who pull their weight.

Honey_Bear

1. Wash make up off every night... I am terrible at the moment leaving it on Done! Well done!
2. Start cycling to work again Done Yay!
3. Log calories again (best way I find of keeping me on track. Not started logging yet but not had junk although had pie for dinner But you are aware of what you're eating and that's half the battle.
4. Exercise 3 days a week cycled in and did yoga at lunch but only counting exercise as weights or energetic cycling... which it was not so still on 1/3 Cycling to work and yoga would defo count as exercise in my book!
5. Stick to my new budget so far so good! Yay!
6. Work on learning Afrikaans at least once a week not yet
7. Do more fun things and stop obsessing about friendships gone wrong the reason this is in here is recently been really struggling with anger at the friend who I basically walked away from earlier in the year. Our 'group' of friends is still close with her and it makes me angry as I feel she has never had to answer for how she acted... I realise the anger is only hurting me but not sure how to stop it. A joint friend is getting married this year so maybe its knowing will have to see her at hen do and wedding... hmmmm hate feeling this way!

Ah, yes, friends who turn out to be ... not. We've all had that experience. Can you look at what happened as an early warning that the person is not quite who you thought and let it go that way? A bit like someone on these forums who has the signature 'If you lent a friend £10 and they didn't pay it back you got off lightly?'

Honey_Bear

• Five fruit and veg a day: Grapefruit, raisins, veggie curry with cucumber raita, spinach again.
  
• Lights out by 11.30pm Tick.
  
• Make 100 sales cold calls by 31.1.17 Must do the research for this, although it's too early to be making the calls themselves *phew*
• One random act of kindness or public service a day Picked a carrier bag's worth of rubbish up on one of our dog walks.
  
• Record something lovely that happens every day so that at the end of the year when I empty the jar I'll remember all the good things that happened Struggling with this, but I did have an unexpected text from OH so I think that will be a good thing to remember.
• After 7th January cut out sugar until 1st February. Sticking to 12 Days of Christmas rather well.

HappyNow

jvr wrote: »

1. Wash make up off every night... I am terrible at the moment leaving it on Done! Thanks for the inspiration - I've just gone for a bit of a scrub myself.
2. Start cycling to work again Done. Well done. Is it far? And flat?
3. Log calories again (best way I find of keeping me on track. Not started logging yet but not had junk although had pie for dinner
4. Exercise 3 days a week cycled in and did yoga at lunch but only counting exercise as weights or energetic cycling... which it was not so still on 1/3. You're very disciplined, those are both definitely exercise!
5. Stick to my new budget so far so good!
6. Work on learning Afrikaans at least once a week not yet
7. Do more fun things and stop obsessing about friendships gone wrong the reason this is in here is recently been really struggling with anger at the friend who I basically walked away from earlier in the year. Our 'group' of friends is still close with her and it makes me angry as I feel she has never had to answer for how she acted... I realise the anger is only hurting me but not sure how to stop it. A joint friend is getting married this year so maybe its knowing will have to see her at hen do and wedding... hmmmm hate feeling this way! That's a shame if you used to be close - is it beyond repair? At least enough to stop it upsetting you (because presumably you're feeling it more than her) and get you through the wedding bashes? Feel free to expand if you want second opinions.....

Well done jvr

HappyNow

Honey_Bear wrote: »

• Money. Stupid YNAB still won't balance so I must have mixed something up in the holiday spending chaos. The good thing about figures is that it's there somewhere on the page so to speak, so you will spot the mistake when you have time to look through the entries. Found it today. I must have had an attack of the holiday stupids and entered two credits as debits, both random numbers.

• Healthy eating/drinking. BUT tonight was the start of the new Celebrity Big Brother. We have a tradition that on launch night we have a mini feast while we watch it. We call it our Big Bruffet.... (groan!)!!! Tonight's Big Bruffet consisted of several vege samosas, onion bhajis, veg pakoras, two glasses of wine, a large slice of chocolate cake and a Cadbury's crème egg. Traditions are important!

I'm going to ignore the dreadful punning and move straight on to the chocolate *tsk* *tsk* and then of course - traditions. Well, yes, understandable, that. I have a Fiddler on the Roof song as an earworm now, thanks to you.
That's not even the worst of our dreadful punning. Each year when the Australian jungle reality programme launches, we have our 'I'm A Celebruffet'....!

• Daily Admin - nothing in the post

Now I understand yesterday's comment, which I misunderstood as an excuse. Sorry Happy. Ha, I hadn't spotted that.

• Admin catch up - been at work all day and feasting all night, so it's bookmarked for tomorrow.

Will you have time to do two things tomorrow? If not I think you should allow yourself the occasional day off if nothing's super urgent. Kept it to a bit of light filing, but the pile has definitely gone down

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• Keep house tidy. Mr H hasn't been working today so he has done it and I like that very much

Yay for OH's who pull their weight. Indeed.

Honey_Bear wrote: »

• Five fruit and veg a day: Grapefruit, raisins, veggie curry with cucumber raita, spinach again.
  
• Lights out by 11.30pm Tick.
  
• Make 100 sales cold calls by 31.1.17 Must do the research for this, although it's too early to be making the calls themselves *phew*
• One random act of kindness or public service a day Picked a carrier bag's worth of rubbish up on one of our dog walks. I can remember as a teenager, maybe 13 or 14, hanging round with some kids who thought it was 'cool' to drop their litter in the street. I dropped mine too, to fit in, but hated doing it and made silent promises that one day I would pick up lots more than I had ever dropped. I haven't done it yet but you've made me remember the promise, so thanks
  
• Record something lovely that happens every day so that at the end of the year when I empty the jar I'll remember all the good things that happened Struggling with this, but I did have an unexpected text from OH so I think that will be a good thing to remember.
• After 7th January cut out sugar until 1st February. Sticking to 12 Days of Christmas rather well. Not long now

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HappyNow

Todays efforts:

• Healthy eating/drinking: Finally got round to making the veg casserole, chucked some lentils in with all the bendy stuff - must have been 2 portions in there. Also a banana, baked beans and orange juice. Finished the chocolate cake for 'sweet treat' and had one glass of white wine. Somewhat better today!
• Money: Worked from home so zero spends. YNAB balanced.
• Daily Admin: Wrote a cheque for the coal bill, need to post it tomorrow.
• Admin catch-up: A bit of filing, not enough really.
• Contact with parents: Twice today, passing messages to their solicitor and back
• Keep house tidy: Meh

jvr

1. Wash make up off every night... I am terrible at the moment leaving it on Done! and facemask
2. Start cycling to work again Done on way to work, driving lesson on way home
3. Log calories again (best way I find of keeping me on track. Not started logging yet but not had junk although very large glass of wine last night
4. Exercise 3 days a week cycled in but nothing else as was still sore
5. Stick to my new budget added some slightly unnecessary items to basket in Tesco and spend a lot in superdru* but mainly as I ran out of everything!
6. Work on learning Afrikaans at least once a week not yet
7. Do more fun things and stop obsessing about friendships gone wrong - in summary my best friend who was also my sisters best friend got pregnant at beginning of last year at same time as my sister. Sadly my sister miscarried and my friend was amazing. Then my sister miscarried again (found out at 12 week scan) and this girl was no where to be seen.. we had holiday to Barcelona booked and she said it wouldn't be a good idea to come as would be too hard on my sister to see her pregnant. This was not how my sister felt and it became clear that she seemed to want to avoid my sis like the plague as if her miscarriages were catching! she told everyone that we were trying to stop her being happy about her pregnancy bla bla which was not the case at all! But the day after my sisters miscarriage she started posting constant bump pictures which to be honest the timing felt hurtful. Then her sister sent me nasty messages about my sister saying she was a bad person and not invited to the baby shower. Eventually I told this friend I was walking away, she was my closest friend but she saw no problem in how she or her sister acted and I basically was told to shut up and accept it. I couldn't as I felt it had become bullying and isolating my sister who was very vulnerable after everything she went through... this girl then moved house abandoning her cat (wth) and we have had no contact since. There were a lot of other nasty things in that time but I can hand on heart say I never did or said anything except I don't want a friendship with you.
I think what fills me with anger is all our joint friends acted like this was a little spat... 'were gonna be friends with you both' and nobody looked at it and admitted that this girl had bullied someone at lowest point in her life. So she keeps all her friends and is never confronted about how she acted. We all can be horrible at times as people but I feel it is friends job to say no this isn't right and hold someone accountable... if they admit what they did then fair a friendship can continue.....
Maybe I'm just bitter and jealous I don't know I think I'm just too close to the whole thing to see anymore! and I'm not sure why I felt I moved on and suddenly it also really is making me angry!!


Sorry for hijacking thread!!!! and I'm loving the puns.....

Honey_Bear

HappyNow wrote: »

Todays efforts:

• Healthy eating/drinking: Finally got round to making the veg casserole, chucked some lentils in with all the bendy stuff - must have been 2 portions in there. Also a banana, baked beans and orange juice. Finished the chocolate cake for 'sweet treat' and had one glass of white wine. Somewhat better today! Once all the Christmas indulgence stuff has been 'cleared up' you'll find being virtuous much easier. I'm still on the 12 Days, and fully into the spirit of it ....
• Money: Worked from home so zero spends. YNAB balanced. Well done for finding it. It's usually transposed figures when I can't get thing to balance.
• Daily Admin: Wrote a cheque for the coal bill, need to post it tomorrow. Double whammy, doing admin and it costing money. Commiserations.
• Admin catch-up: A bit of filing, not enough really. Such a boring job, well done for cracking on with it.
• Contact with parents: Twice today, passing messages to their solicitor and back Save that extra one to let yourself off the hook on a day when you're run off your feet.
• Keep house tidy: Meh

Defo closer to mark Happy and you've kept the target you didn't enter - posting every day. :T

Honey_Bear

jvr wrote: »

1. Wash make up off every night... I am terrible at the moment leaving it on Done! and facemask Well done!
2. Start cycling to work again Done on way to work, driving lesson on way home Nifty organisational skills. *impressive*
3. Log calories again (best way I find of keeping me on track. Not started logging yet but not had junk although very large glass of wine last night You'll notice how many calories there are in wine when you start logging them. I was horrified when I found out!
4. Exercise 3 days a week cycled in but nothing else as was still sore Keep stretching those sore muscles. It's just our body's way of telling us we've overdone it.
5. Stick to my new budget added some slightly unnecessary items to basket in Tesco and spend a lot in superdru* but mainly as I ran out of everything! I swear at the beginning of January every year I'm going to cut out unnescessary spending and every year get carried away buying things that have been marked down after Christmas that I absolutely love. Jelly baby anyone? And grout's on offer too, as B&Q have a closing down sale and everything's 90% off. Very useful as I'm about to teach myself how to do a bit of tiling because it needs to be done and OH is hopeless at DIY etc etc. Still expenditure though.
6. Work on learning Afrikaans at least once a week not yet Have you found the right course yet?
7. Do more fun things and stop obsessing about friendships gone wrong - in summary my best friend who was also my sisters best friend got pregnant at beginning of last year at same time as my sister. Sadly my sister miscarried and my friend was amazing. Then my sister miscarried again (found out at 12 week scan) and this girl was no where to be seen.. we had holiday to Barcelona booked and she said it wouldn't be a good idea to come as would be too hard on my sister to see her pregnant. This was not how my sister felt and it became clear that she seemed to want to avoid my sis like the plague as if her miscarriages were catching! she told everyone that we were trying to stop her being happy about her pregnancy bla bla which was not the case at all! But the day after my sisters miscarriage she started posting constant bump pictures which to be honest the timing felt hurtful. Then her sister sent me nasty messages about my sister saying she was a bad person and not invited to the baby shower. Eventually I told this friend I was walking away, she was my closest friend but she saw no problem in how she or her sister acted and I basically was told to shut up and accept it. I couldn't as I felt it had become bullying and isolating my sister who was very vulnerable after everything she went through... this girl then moved house abandoning her cat (wth) and we have had no contact since. There were a lot of other nasty things in that time but I can hand on heart say I never did or said anything except I don't want a friendship with you.
I think what fills me with anger is all our joint friends acted like this was a little spat... 'were gonna be friends with you both' and nobody looked at it and admitted that this girl had bullied someone at lowest point in her life. So she keeps all her friends and is never confronted about how she acted. We all can be horrible at times as people but I feel it is friends job to say no this isn't right and hold someone accountable... if they admit what they did then fair a friendship can continue.....
Maybe I'm just bitter and jealous I don't know I think I'm just too close to the whole thing to see anymore! and I'm not sure why I felt I moved on and suddenly it also really is making me angry!! This is very, very sad and I'd be as angry as you in the same circumstances. There are a couple of things that might help you with this target, so forgive me if I'm over-stepping the mark but here goes. Every time we re-run a scenario that has upset us, we strengthen it in our minds. The good news is that if you focus on why your sister means so much to you, all of the good things about her that you want to protect and cherish and write them down, even in a letter so that when she's feeling vulnerable she has something lovely to read, it'll take the focus off the person who did the horrible things who has such a hold over you, and put the focus on the person who you love. And I'd be looking to make some new friends, because as yet they haven't learned how to discriminate between unkind people and kind people. They'll learn but they're not ready yet.

Sorry for hijacking thread!!!! and I'm loving the puns.....

Good luck with today.

Honey_Bear

• Five fruit and veg a day: Grapefruit, raisins, sweet potato, spinach and courgette.
• Lights out by 11.30pm Tick.
  
• Make 100 sales cold calls by 31.1.17 Where does the time go? I must do the research for this.
• One random act of kindness or public service a day I'll have to put this one down to the second letter I wrote on 1st January. Oops. And thanks for the comments on litter-picking, Happy. I feel a bit embarrased when I set out to do it, but once I've picked up the first bit I'm away. I've put a carrier bag in my dog-walking jacket because it needs more doing already.
  
• Record something lovely that happens every day so that at the end of the year when I empty the jar I'll remember all the good things that happened Tick.
• After 7th January cut out sugar until 1st February. Still sticking to 12 Days of Christmas rather well.