Sister in law recycling presents

meritaten

Its the thought that counts - yes! exactly!
I wouldnt care if the gift cost nothing! if thought went into it! I think I speak for many on here when I say that we dont care what the gift was - it could cost nothing, but if it was something we needed, wanted, or would love - that gift would be treasured!
so dont call us ungrateful! we realise people (sometimes) spend money on our gift - but if it isnt what we like, need , want or desire - in fact it is something we DONT like DONT want and is to us, insulting please dont lecture us on GRATITUDE!

moomoomama27

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Yes, we all might try to get something thoughtful but clearly a lot of us fail if the threads in here are anything to go by!!

Personally I find it appalling that so many people moan about what they have been given - It may not be to their taste but the person who gave it might have tried their best!

I tell you.. If I thought my family and my children were so rude and ungrateful about their presents (wether they liked them or not!) I would be mortified

Christmas should not be about what you can bl00min well get out of people.... and then take the pee out of the people who got it wrong!

Totally agree!

Some of the things I've read are shocking, some really ungrateful, and ungracious people around these days!

I try my best to find gifts that suit the person, and I hope they are liked, I too would be so upset if someone was slagging off the gift I gave

moomoomama27

meritaten wrote: »

Its the thought that counts - yes! exactly!
I wouldnt care if the gift cost nothing! if thought went into it! I think I speak for many on here when I say that we dont care what the gift was - it could cost nothing, but if it was something we needed, wanted, or would love - that gift would be treasured!
so dont call us ungrateful! we realise people (sometimes) spend money on our gift - but if it isnt what we like, need , want or desire - in fact it is something we DONT like DONT want and is to us, insulting please dont lecture us on GRATITUDE!

But just because you don't like the gift doesn't mean thought went into it!

thatgirlsam

meritaten wrote: »

Its the thought that counts - yes! exactly!
I wouldnt care if the gift cost nothing! if thought went into it! I think I speak for many on here when I say that we dont care what the gift was - it could cost nothing, but if it was something we needed, wanted, or would love - that gift would be treasured!
so dont call us ungrateful! we realise people (sometimes) spend money on our gift - but if it isnt what we like, need , want or desire - in fact it is something we DONT like DONT want and is to us, insulting please dont lecture us on GRATITUDE!

You may not like it... but the person who gave it to you obviously thought you would!!

So they got it wrong! Big deal!!!

I am not lecturing on GRATITUDE, I am giving my opinion on GRATITUDE.. or total lack of it

split_second

i think what it is all down to is that some people feel they have to buy for people, rather than buying for someone because they want to. i have bought a present in a hurry because i didnt know what to buy someone, bottle of wine and box of chocs, mainly because they were the ones insisted i went round at a particular time to see them and collect a present (which i didnt know they had bought)

thatgirlsam

split_second wrote: »

i think what it is all down to is that some people feel they have to buy for people, rather than buying for someone because they want to. i have bought a present in a hurry because i didnt know what to buy someone, bottle of wine and box of chocs, mainly because they were the ones insisted i went round at a particular time to see them and collect a present (which i didnt know they had bought)

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't

People buy gifts for all sorts of reasons - In my opinion they should all be gratefully received, not moaned and b1tched about because it wasn't what they wanted!

Some of the ornaments my children have given to me have not been exactly to my taste but I absolutley treasure them as they were bought for me from my kids

durham_girl

Thanks for everyone's opinion so far.

To those who are calling me ungrateful, that may be the case but when I spend a lot if time finding nice presents for her children and she gives him something wholly inappropriate 2 years in a row it feels a bit off! It's not the type of toy he can play with now either, it's most definitely for an older child. We didn't mention anything last year when the present was for a child up to 6 years older then he was!

moomoomama27 wrote: »

It's the thought that counts, he was obviously thought of, as your sister wrapped the present for him! IMO where it comes from and if it was regifted is irrelevant!

As I said in the OP, I don't care if a present is regifted as long as it's suitable for the recipient.

victory

:DYou have a very valid point but read my post 7 and there should be a solution for next year amongst the ideas

thatgirlsam

durham_girl wrote: »

Thanks for everyone's opinion so far.

To those who are calling me ungrateful, that may be the case but when I spend a lot if time finding nice presents for her children and she gives him something wholly inappropriate 2 years in a row it feels a bit off! It's not the type of toy he can play with now either, it's most definitely for an older child. We didn't mention anything last year when the present was for a child up to 6 years older then he was!



As I said in the OP, I don't care if a present is regifted as long as it's suitable for the recipient.

The age thing is only a guide

My son is 6 and I gave him lego aimed to 9-16 years, because I know it will give him more of a challenge and he will love it

So I gave my son something aimed for children 10 years older then him... not sure how many 16 year olds still like star wars lego though

Maybe she did re-gift as she had nothing else to give

globalds

Just don't bother giving to each other.

You do the honourable thing and say money is tight..saves her any discomfort and you get what you want ..An extra few quid to buy the kind of present you think is appropriate ...my opinion ..I think your attitude stinks and you have lost any notion of Christmas.
But it was a solution I think you wanted and not my opinion.