Husband in hospital christmas day

meritaten

I have to ask - does he really NEED to be in hospital christmas day? is he totally unable to come home? because I have known some very ill patients who came home for christmas! perhaps you should be asking this?

GlasweJen

I agree meritaten but they won't let a smoker on oxygen out in case they blow themself up or collapse because they're not keeping their oxygen up.

madelaine

and sadly none smokers also die, i lost my Mother aged 48, and my Sister aged 30, both never smoked all there live's.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

RacyRed wrote: »

Someone came on here asking for advice about cheering up a hospital patient, mentioning that nicotine withdrawal was complicating the problem and just look what this thread turned into.

Errata wrote: »

The smoking police getting their rocks off, it seemed to me.

:cool:

rachelhen wrote: »

He has a heart condition but I imagine the rules can be bent for one day...

You sure the OP, as many addicts do, wasn't actually looking for people to say 'sneak some fags in for him, it's only one day, it's Christmas, a packet of fags isn't going to hurt after all, and he doesn't want to stop, so why not?'

Oldernotwiser

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

:cool:

You sure the OP, as many addicts do, wasn't actually looking for people to say 'sneak some fags in for him, it's only one day, it's Christmas, a packet of fags isn't going to hurt after all, and he doesn't want to stop, so why not?'

And one wonders what response there would have been if the OP's husband was recovering from a liver transplant and the question of sneaking him in some alcohol had come up.

margaretclare

rachelhen wrote: »

A big thank you to just about everyone who replied. I take the criticism on the chin but none of it is new to me.
I will take up some of the ideas put forward and Merry Christmas to everyone especially to those who are facing adversity. xxx

Thank you for this, and just to emphasise that my words were not meant to be a personal attack on yourself or your husband. It's just that I've been there, seen it, felt it, smelt it, over long periods of time.

Smokers use words like 'it's my only pleasure' and 'but I enjoy it' which really means, they are describing the 'buzz' from the addictive substance. Like any other addiction it is not easy to deal with. What drives me crazy, and OH too when we hear it, is 'oh well, you've got to die of something'. Yes, but it's how you die, the long period of deteriorating health beforehand, not seeing your grandchildren grow up, the man someone else described in this thread who had completely blocked leg arteries which would mean leg amputations. It's all that and more, which I would not wish on my worst enemy.

Your husband is in hospital on Christmas Day because he is too ill to be anywhere else. It's a Sunday, so there won't even be routine surgery going on. He'll be getting the best possible care, and there will be 'Christmassy' things going on around him. I wish you both all the best and a speedy recovery for him.

Pennylane

As margaretclare says it's about how you deteriorate and eventually die. There are some terrible illnesses and diseases out there like MND, MS etc and people really can't do very much to avoid them.

But smoking related illnesses ARE avoidable. As soon as a person quits smoking the body improves. The carbon monoxide is gone from your body in just a day or two and I find that amazing.

When I quit 7 years ago I got talking to a woman who was also in the early days of quitting. She was my age (50 ish) and had been told to quit by her GP as she was getting a lot of chest probs. Our paths crossed from time to time and she had always gone back to the fags but said she desperately wanted to stop. TBH when I quit it was such hell for a few weeks that this has kept me on the straight & narrow and I just could not go through that agony again.

Anyway, I saw this woman a few weeks ago and she is now using a mobility scooter as she has emphysemia (sp?) and can only walk a few steps. I couldn't imagine riding around in one of those in my 50s and knowing that I could do nothing to improve my health now.

Lincoln_Imp

Take your pc into the hospital and get hubby to read this thread

skintandscared_2

No comment to make on the smoking thing, except to say that if he's been off the fags for 72 hours or more the nicotine is gone from his body and the pangs should subside anyway. Lectures are pointless - if he wants to quit he will, if he doesn't he won't!

I'd take in a portable DVD player with his favourite box-set of something that makes him laugh or he really enjoys watching. Preferably something with LOTS of episodes!! Or a kindle full of his favourite books.

Hope your hubby is back home with you soon.

margaretclare

skintandscared wrote: »

No comment to make on the smoking thing, except to say that if he's been off the fags for 72 hours or more the nicotine is gone from his body and the pangs should subside anyway. Lectures are pointless - if he wants to quit he will, if he doesn't he won't!

I'd take in a portable DVD player with his favourite box-set of something that makes him laugh or he really enjoys watching. Preferably something with LOTS of episodes!! Or a kindle full of his favourite books.

Hope your hubby is back home with you soon.

I agree with all of this.

A man I knew - my late daughter's FIL in fact - was very seriously ill, had some quite serious surgery at the same time as having various long-standing conditions, he too was a dedicated smoker: 'they gave them to us with a cup of tea and a sandwich when we got back from Dunkirk'! Well, he was in Critical Care, the whole family assembled from all points of the compass because it was touch and go, then he was in High Dependency, couldn't get out of bed so no chance of nipping off for a smoke, and this lasted several weeks so the substances must have been gone from his body, and the addiction. You would think - ideal not to re-start the habit, but not in his book. 'I've smoked for 50 or 60 years, I might as well go back to it' and he did. He used to use an inhaler alternately with a cigarette. There is no point, with some people. Nothing and no one can ever get through. Well, he had a stroke and died, now his wife, who never smoked, is a widow.