Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

lizzie157

Originally Posted by Callisto
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Please tell me if you think I am over reacting, as I have lost all sense of proportion, plus trying to talk to OH about it will just cause another argument.

I agree with LL, I too have experienced a MIL like this and I tried the talk it through rationally but things changed for a while and then regressed to as before. We now have no contact - her grandkids are ignored by her not even a card- one did contact her when he reached adulthood but her first though was to badmouth me and she hasn't bothered to keep in touch with him since. Not an ideal situation but it is one less hassle for us. Sorry don't know the solution but I feel for you.

LL
D is for ...............
Doormat

We women are often our own worst enemy.

yes unfortunately this could be me but I am getting better at putting myself first sometimes and sticking up for my feelings

Drudge

I've come to realise that it's partly because I'm a bit of a control freak - and probably a bit OCD - therefore I tend to imagine they are not doing it right

This is me too but am trying not to be like this -have started a rota for kids to do abit of cleaning starting today!

• Managed a bit of exercise this morning - a bit lop sided as I didn't want to hurt my shoulder - but at least its something. Will see how it goes and perhaps go to zumba class later in week but take it gently.
• did face exercises this morning
• dogwalk later
• dye hair later

• a bit of decluttering

Think thats enough for today. x

Bitsy_Beans

Welcome all new posters.

Callisto not overreacting at all :mad: what a cheek.

LW you are so inspiring with your attitude. I take my virtual hat off to you lady xxx I love differently-abled

D is for Dramatic
I am slowly coming to the conclusion that small changes can make the most dramatic impact. I always told myself that pampering was high maintenance and something I couldn't do. Am not naturally girly girl but I am slowly finding my inna DIVA. But in a good way, not a J Lo way :rotfl:

verynewmoneysaver

Agree with you about social services LL. Doctor said my mother needed residential care, but Dad wants to take her out of sheltered housing where they both live at present to live in a a bungalow with him. He is getting quite confused himself too. Doctor concerned as my mother getting dizzy and falling and he thinks she needs more supervision. When I called social services the social worker said if she falls and breaks a bone it won't make any difference if she lies on the floor for five minutes or an hour. I feel like putting in a complaint because of her attitude.

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Callisto wrote: »

OH's Mum was also invited to the wedding, but due to an invitation mix-up, we didn't know until just after Christmas. We kept telling her to book a room (we had already booked into a hotel near the venue) and she kept putting it off - long story short, she ended up having to stay in our room for both nights which I was so peeved about as I had already offered to book a single room for her, two weeks before (haven't been away with OH for ages, so I was looking forward to some quality time together away from home.) I stalked off to see my Mum and Dad in their room, and stayed talking to them for ages, so didn't paint my nails and didn't have time the next morning!

I am angry with OH and his Mum now, after the 'expecting to stay for a week over Christmas situation' as well. I am probably over reacting again, but I am thoroughly fed up of him and his Mum trampling over my feelings! (Sorry for rant ) Please tell me if you think I am over reacting, as I have lost all sense of proportion, plus trying to talk to OH about it will just cause another argument.

Hi Callisto, I do not think you are over reacting at all!! You sound like a saint for putting up with it all. I have to keep my MIL at arms length or she tends to take over. The worst one was when OH invited her to visit for a few days when we lived in Aberdeen. They stayed with us. MIL was huffy that I hadn't stayed up to all hours chatting after we had come in from a meal one night and didn't seem to care that i was actually working the next day. I even tollerated her moving the furniture around but the final straw came on the sunday morning when I woke up to find she had got up earlier and had gone to the kitchen to start breakfast - when I went downstairs OH was sent out with a cup of coffee saying that i had to wait in the living room while they all (MIL, FIL, BIL and OH) finished breakfast!! It was my house and OH who was my boyfriend at the time didn't even contribute the rent as he had no job. In true doormat style I didn't want to make a scene so took the dog for a walk to calm down. Ended up at a friends house and never went home until five hours later (and spend the time ranting to hmy friend). That seemed to send a message and BIL had taken them all home before I even got back to the house. I had never been so happy to see the back of anyone in my life!

LameWolf

Callisto frankly, I'd be inclined to smack her with my walking stick - the one with the antler top!:D No, seriously, mate, you are no way over-reacting, rest assured.:o

Callisto

LW - Love your positive attitude towards being differently-abled. Lol at smacking MIL with the walking stick!

Watty - Well done on getting back in the saddle and hope you can get into the class of your choice to start building your strength.

Philsmum - Hello and welcome.

Thanks for your replies regarding OH's Mum, thought I was over reacting as OH had no problem with her staying in our room!

Lizzie - I am sorry your MIL has been so horrible, she has lost out on the relationship with her grandchildren and will regret it later on.

Allie - Wow, now that is taking over on a grand scale, glad BIL was able to notice what was going on and sensibly vacate the premises!

LL - I found it quite amusing you were able to use my situation as an example of doormat. I do sometimes stand up to her though. Over Christmas she was saying she needed to lose weight and could she come over every weekend so we could exercise together. Sheer horror took over when I realised she was serious! I said there was no point in us exercising together as we are vastly different fitness levels, that I preferred to exercise alone and why didn't she look into attending classes at her local leisure centre! She hasn't mentioned it since, no way is she coming over every weekend as she will want to stay the night as well.

I think she is being like this mainly because she is lonely (although she has lived alone for years) as she has only been retired a year or so. She carried on at work long after retirement age, so I think she used work as her social life. She has a daughter who lives much closer than we do, and they go to a sewing group together once a week. It may sound harsh, but I don't see why I should be responsible for entertaining her on a regular basis?! She can drive and can get involved in other local groups if she wants something to do.

Right I have definitely finished ranting now, need to think through some assertive answers for future situations, all involving the word no! :think:

It's so cold today, think I am going to light the fire now and get on with some studying.

Bagpuss741

Todays fabbing will consist of:

1. Cleansed, toned, moisurised skin.
2. Cuticle oil and handcream
3. Buff nails
4. Shower, body lotion, body brush
5. Drink plenty of water
6. Made dentist appointment
7. Cleansed, toned, nightcream skin
8. Continue to do 50 stomach crunches before bed

Watty1

Deep breath... I have found a yoga class and made plans to go tomorrow and try it out. Am just sharing here as a kind of incentive to make sure I go!

the_cat

Watty1 wrote: »

Deep breath... I have found a yoga class and made plans to go tomorrow and try it out. Am just sharing here as a kind of incentive to make sure I go!

Me too! Am dithering about my decision to join the gym tomorrow. Mostly because I don't feel 'worth' the money each month (and a bit [STRIKE]shy[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]embarrased[/STRIKE] terrified about the initial assessment thingy:eek:)

Lets make a pact and report back tomorrow

Bitsy_Beans

Go on ladies as Nike says JUST DO IT! Nothing to worry about, most people are too busy worrying about what they look like to pay much mind to you. As for the gym assessment......they have probably seen all types, its their job, no big deal. Step out that comfort zone and go for it

Did 30 mins zumba this afternoon. Will go for some Yoga on the Wii tonight too