Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

adelight

Get your Ds out ladies (and any men?) :j

((hugs)) callisto, you're not overreacting, i would be peeved too.

I did some great fabbing last night: body brushed, bubble bath with a pot of green tea, face mask, exfoliated then moisturised with baby lotion with a few drops of Agent Provocateur fragrance added from a tester. Really did feel great afterwards and the fragrance was bloody strong
Got lots of revision to do today but will fit in fabbing on my breaks: circuit training, hair mask, body brush.

lessonlearned

Callisto wrote: »

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Please tell me if you think I am over reacting, as I have lost all sense of proportion, plus trying to talk to OH about it will just cause another argument.

You are absolutely not over-reacting. Your MIL's behaviour is shocking and frankly totally unacceptable. Your OH doesn't come out too well in this either.

Somehow, someway you have to deal with this. Looks like the time for hints, tact and diplomacy has long gone. I really feel for you on this one because it's not going to be easy.

Frankly she sounds like the MIL from hell, thoughtless, insensitive and downright selfish. If she simply couldn't afford the hotel room but was too embarrassed or proud to say then she should have declined the wedding invitation. End of.

And by the sounds of things, this is by no means the first time she has treated you so badly, neither is it the first time that your OH has failed to see how badly she behaves and how upset you are.

My MIL was for many years also the MIL from hell - luckily my OH saw right through her shenanigans and was totally supportive of me. I put up with it for approx 15 years or so, until one day I snapped and let rip. (Not the best way to handle a situation I admit:o).

From that day onwards she did a miraculous u-turn and starting treating me with a bit of respect. Pity I hadn't flipped years earlier instead of just biting my lip and putting up with her nonsense.

Anyway - glad to hear that you enjoyed the wedding.

Actually your predicament brings me nicely to the first of our "D's".

Have a good day everyone. X

Edited to say - Just rang SS to check what time they are picking up the equipment - you've guessed "Oooh you're not down for today it's tomorrow". So high handed. Tomorrow is no good for me. Had to reschedule. No apology - no nothing, just a snotty, rude woman. They couldn't care less - no wonder the NHS, SS etc are in such a mess. Rude, arrogant and incompetent. Grrrrr.

lessonlearned

Doormat

We women are often our own worst enemy. We constantly let people get away with using and abusing us. Like so many of life's lessons I've learned this the hard way. I even let myself be bullied out of a job once, by a couple of nasty spiteful colleagues. I would like to revisit them and give them what for!!!. That was nearly 40 years ago - they are probably long gone by now.

I've learned that sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself and say "No you don't treat me that way".

The simple truth is if you lie on the floor and allow people to walk all over you and treat you like a doormat - then they will. It took me nearly a lifetime to learn that one.

Drudge

We women are good at this one too. We think we have to do everything, hold down a full time job, do the lion's share of the childcare and housework, take responsibility for all the meals, shopping, cooking, taxi service, seeing that everyone visits the Drs and dentists, organising activities and trips, you get the picture.

Again if you take it upon yourself to do all this - then folk will sit back and let you do it all. Don't become drudges - make others share the workload.

I have been so guilty of this in the past. I've come to realise that it's partly because I'm a bit of a control freak - and probably a bit OCD - therefore I tend to imagine they are not doing it right. I've finally learned to relax a little, does it really matter if it's not done exactly the way I like it. Things don't have to be always perfect - good enough will sometimes do.

Dancing

I'm noticing how many of you have taken up or gone back to dance classes etc. How lovely. I think dancing is wonderful. You can't beat a good "bop" - there now there's a good way to reveal your age - using words like "bop".

To any exercise phobes out there - give dancing a try. It's fun. If you can't manage a class then just stick on some music and get moving.

Off to get cracking and start the day.

Watty1

Am loving this thread. So many of you are an inspiration! LL you are inspirational ...how about adding life coach to the list of things you are considering for a few extra pennies this year? I've no idea how one becomes a life coach mind you! But I have a hunch you might just be very good at it.

Rode pony twice over the weekend so that was huge for me. A pal was here and pointed out I am very wobbly in the saddle because I have no real strength - hardly suprising as accident recovery meant that I did so little for around 18 months. I hate gyms but I think pilates or yoga might be good for me so I have rung a pilates teacher this morning and am waiting for a call back. And as a back up I have found a local yoga class and a pilates class at a localish gym that might be ok too.

Looked through stuff on ebay and ... drum roll... have bid for a couple of perfumes. I've been trying out some freebie samples that were gathering dust in the bathroom cupboard and I've found a perfume I like. Plus a moisturiser ...but when I checked the price of that on line it was over £70 ... don't think I'll opt for that one!! But the perfume is a definate affordable option (and I sold a couple of bits on ebay at the weekend so it would be coming out of the declutter money which I love).

And I've stuck with wearing clean clothes, showering, smellies and moisturisers and even used some body lotion yesterday...what an influence you have all had on me (grin)! Thanks!

Adela31

D is for Doctors... (and dentist)

I am very guilty of being too busy to get checked up, or have things fixed, like the broken tooth I have had since the summer. In fact there was a report in the paper that mums are dutifully taking their kids to the dentist but neglecting their own mouths in an attempt to save the pennies. This week I am bucking that trend in myself, and seem to have a different appointment every day, and still need to book the opticians.

This is mostly a reminder to myself, I have been putting off getting on the list for an operation on my leg, even tho I have private healthcare from OH's work! Partly scared, partly worried about the house getting even worse while I recuperate.

whatatwit

Thanks for reminding me Adela, I need to go and have a smear, had the reminder through before Christmas.

Callisto, putting aside the mix up over the invite, I don't think your MIL had any intention of booking her own room, not when she could come and camp out in yours. You did very well not to flip and ruin your whole weekend, but I do think I would have got very drunk and no doubt amorous.

LL I do wonder how SS manage to achieve anything with their lack of liason and organisation.

Think I will go and have some porridge in an attempt to warm myself up.

Adela31

Yeah was at the smear this morning, when the letter came before christmas it got added to the one bloomin thing more to do pile

philsmum

Hello Everyone.
Hope I can join you again, after a really awful last 6 months I feel ready to make a concerted effort to get well again. I have now been fast tracked (after 6 months of pain) to care UK (mobile hospitals in car parks in Greater Manchester area) after a MRI scan they have found that I have Osteo- Arthritis and something wrong with my hip, they are considering a replacement hip after physio that didn't seem to help at all. In the 6 months I have put on at least a stone and a half so, joined S/W last week and Iam determined to get back to normal (whatever that is ) LOL
Read all the mail yesterday and have now plucked up courage to come back. Starting today with hair treatment, body brushing, and lots of lovely cream and perfume all stored away in a box. LL . Glad to know your DH is settling in, it's bad though that you have to clean the bathroom etc. quite worrying, same in hospitals. Bring back Matron the really scary ones that used to rule with a rod of iron. We used to be terrified of her ward rounds 3 times a day.
That enough for now going to see the Consultant today to find out if it's a hip op. for me. Wish it was hip hop.
Pat:)

evilsquid1603

Morning ladies! hope you all had a good weekend!

hello Philsmum!

Callisto you aren't overreacting! that behaviour is just selfish. not booking a room was being lazy or stingy.

i think i'm off to the gym again later. will have a fancy new iPod to go with when Apple did the iPod nano recall, my dad had one of the exploding ones hidden away so we sent it off "just-in-case". this morning they sent me back a top of the range current one thats double the size of the old one and £115 on the website! :j rather welcome as my old gym iPod shuffle has completely disappeared. i think its in the black hole that is our spare room.

LameWolf

D is for...... Disability

As one who deals with this every day, hard as it might be, I try not to let it stop me doing things. I have my Wolf-mobile (what we refer to the wheelchair as) and the buggy, and two rather lovely sticks - one is a hazel root that was given to me by the gentleman who made it, because he no longer needed it himself, 'tother is coppiced hazel with an antler top, complete with two tines, that came from a craft show. For travel, I have two folding sticks, which can go in the Wolf-mobile's backpack if necessary.

I use the Wii Fit, as mentioned previously, though I cannot manage all the exercises, there are a lot I can do, using my sticks for balance, or a chair to hold onto.

It's not always easy, but trying to stay positive, making a bit of a joke about the situation, and putting people at ease who don't quite know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair are the way to go. Possibly the fact that I'm a bit unconventional in the way I dress and such like are an advantage, I don't know.;)

I try to think "not DIS-abled, just DIFFERENTLY-abled".;)


D is for....... Dog

A grand excuse for some fresh air. I don't have my own, but we're a host family for a dog-sitting service, so I get other peoples' dogs staying with me. Other people sometimes "borrow" a neighbour's dog. And of course, if you're dog walking at the same time every day, you might be able to get in with the local dog-walkers' fraternity.;)