Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

lessonlearned

Good Morning Ladies

A little cooler here and a few drops of rain but nothing much so far.

I have to stay in today - they have promised faithfully to deliver the wheelchair power pack - ha - we'll see. So I shall make a start on touching up the plastering later - once my back has loosened up.

Also need to do some serious tidying up and a pile of ironing - so a busy day ahead. Other than that - nothing much going on this end.

I have been doing a lot of thinking, talking to people and getting advice and feedback re the viability of bringing OH home. I have decided that, after watching OH closely for the past few days, realistically he will not be able to come home again after all.

It really does take 2 people to do all the transfers etc - he is also finding it increasingly difficult to sit up for long periods without get very tired and slumping. I just have to face facts - it is neither do-able nor advisable.

It's been six months now since he went into care and my back has still not fully healed. I tried to help a nurse on Sunday do a transfer and it hurt my back again.

So it's back to Plan B. I will order him a tilt in space wheelchair - no point waiting for wheelchair services they are not going to cough up. That way at least he can be tilted into a comfortable position when he gets tired when we are out and about.

Sometimes you just have to face facts .............no matter how unpalatable. We'll just enjoy the summer and take it from there.

lizzie157

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

Lizzie I took the plunge and ordered a book on self esteem last night so will give that a go. I'd happily kill to be a 12-14 mindful eating is a different way of eating but it's got to be a better way than what I currently do if you're interested in reading more I can recommend a couple of books x

Thanks Bitsy that would be great I am interested to find out more.:)
What self esteem books have you bought? Have been doing the paul Mckenna cd and reading his book did feel it was helping but it's hard to find a time when there are no distractions to relax fully enough to do it.:o


As with the some of you I was always reminded about waste and will try and eat what's on my plate even though I may be full. Have tried not to make it an issue with the kids but H is always on at them over wasting food.

Have had to do the dreaded hair dying today as am off to have it cut tomorrow. Need a kick up the a**e again with fabbing routine am telling myself once assignment's out of way should be a bit more time to get myself back into it.

Bitsy_Beans

lizzie157 wrote: »

Thanks Bitsy that would be great I am interested to find out more.:)
What self esteem books have you bought? Have been doing the paul Mckenna cd and reading his book did feel it was helping but it's hard to find a time when there are no distractions to relax fully enough to do it.:o


As with the some of you I was always reminded about waste and will try and eat what's on my plate even though I may be full. Have tried not to make it an issue with the kids but H is always on at them over wasting food.

Have had to do the dreaded hair dying today as am off to have it cut tomorrow. Need a kick up the a**e again with fabbing routine am telling myself once assignment's out of way should be a bit more time to get myself back into it.

I bought this one

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Boosting-Self-Esteem-Dummies-Rhena-Branch/dp/0470741937/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1338477107&sr=8-1

I quite enjoy the "Dummies" books and quite frankly I don't need something full of flowery analogies and too wordy :o

I can recommend Beyond Chocolate by Audrey and Sophie Boss and also anything by Geneen Roth, especially Breaking Free from Emotional Eating. The latter is an Amercian but I love what she writes

carebabe

hi all

diet still going well here. now on 2nd phase which is called cruise. plenty of energy and no hunger pangs making it easy to stick with. biggest test so far was a gorgeous trifle at the weekend but i managed to look the other way when everyone else was tucking in.

WelshWoofer

Afternoon all!

LL - I'm sorry to hear that your plans to bring OH home won't come to fruition. Good luck with the wheelchair powerpack - I'm still interested to hear how it works out, could be useful for mum with my sister's wheelchair (and me!). Just take it easy and let your back heal. I'm sure there's nothing that will stop the world turning that can't wait until another day.

One more day of school to go - a better day today. Yesterday was one of the rare days that frustrate and annoy me at school. Thankfully they are few and far between and generally I love teaching.
Mum mentioned that dad had told her about coming up to see me earlier than planned and she put him right in his place! Good old mum! So, no guilt or bad mood for me anymore. Again, that happens rarely too - in fact since exOH and I split up I can't remember the last time I was in a really bad mood apart from yesterday:rotfl:

A bit of house fabbing to be done tonight - just hoovering and dusting and a bit of a tidy. I feel better when its nice and clean and tidy (even though it probably doesn't look very different to the outsider as I'm a bit of a clean freak!)

Personal fabbing to be done tonight includes a defuzz, maybe a face mask and some foot attention. I'm another one whose roots need doing but they can wait until the weekend. I've walked the dog for 45 mins so have had a bit of exercise and fresh air.
I'm off to make a list of what's on the agenda socially so far for June so I can start a budget. Will pop back later with a list.....

WelshWoofer

Here's June's social calendar - sorry if it bores anyone, it helps me to focus if I have a list....and to thnk that only a few months ago I sat in on my own and did nothing but work and visit family;)

• Dog walk and pub tea with new found friend
• Dog walk and pub lunch with Meet up group
• Abseiling day with Spice group (paid for)
• Tour around BBC studios in Salford with Spice group (paid for)
• June book club meeting
• School prom (good night out for teachers too!) (paid for, but need money for drinks and taxi)
• Mum and sister visiting for 2 nights (will no doubt involve a trip to a shopping centre, a meal out and possibly cinema)

I'm also babysitting a friend's dog for the weekend - I'm a trainee LameWolf!
I may also suggest a night out with new friend in a couple of weeks - we'll see how the cash goes. There's also the possibility of going to the pub quiz on Thursdays with the meet up group and a few other things but I can't afford to do everything so will have to be selective. Won't have time to go to work soon:rotfl::rotfl:

lessonlearned

WW What a great social calendar for June. You make me feel quite ashamed that I haven't done anything about socialising yet. I just don't feel like it at the moment but I think I'm going to have to push myself and make a start. I'm in danger of becoming a recluse at this rate. :eek:

They have still not delivered the power pack - I'm getting really cross now. I might have to cancel the order and try somewhere else.

Well I have made a good start on the plaster patching, some of it will need a couple of sessions though because I'm filling in holes from where the various hand rails were fitted and because they had to take OH's weight they had very long screws and deep fixings.

Then just a quick touch up paint wise because it will need completely redecorating when we do the downstairs re-configuration, either later this year or next.

It's been a bit rough on my back today so tonight I'll just take it easy. Tomorrow will need to "supervise" DS2 sort out his bedroom. The joiner has made a good job of the wardrobe doors so hopefully said son will manage to keep things a little tidier from now on.:rotfl:

Like WW - I do like the place to look nice. Not quite as OCD as I used to be but I can't stand mess and clutter for long.

I am having my hair cut and coloured on Saturday - it really needs it now - looking decidedly unfab at the moment.

My hands are a bit of a mess with all the gardening and DIY so time for a manicure tonight.

Off to cook dinner - bye for now.

Savvy_sewing

I put on a dress that I bought the other week in the charity shop, and a pair of cream shoes, and a necklace, bracelet all in the same sort of blues/turquoises. as I had a shower and had to defuzz this morning, I felt quite Glam! I still didnt bother with any make up though. Something I still need to get into the mind set to do more.
Went to see a solicitor today, re my divorce. Said it will take between 4 -6 months. So I will be officially divorced by Christmas it looks like. Not that I have been with him for nearly 8 years but heyho, it needs to be done.
My wardrobe collapsed last night, and I went into the Recycling Centre that sells furniture to raise funds for the homeless men in town. Found a triple door wardrobe, with a double set of drawers, single set and a storage cube-box, for £190 including delivery. It is not a pretty set, but its sturdely made, and should last me a while. i can always shabby chic it up at a later date. I just now need to get all my clothes sorted out of the way, empty the others and the drawers, etc and get them to my daughters (the drawers), all before Saturday Afternoon! EEK you would not believe how difficult that will be as DS is away, and I am babysitting for my other Granddaughter in the morning, 18 miles away, so I am only realistically going to get tomorrow afternoon, and early Saturday morning to do things, as my back is not good at the moment, and I am sitting with my heat pad on, desperately hoping that it will be ok!
Timing wasnt the best but this is the second wardrobe that collapsed and came falling down in the middle of the night. They are only those canvas ones, with the metal/plastic frame, so I suppose I should have expected it sooner.
I had wanted to save up for someone to build me in a bedroom wardrobe etc, but this was a cheaper option.
So I best try and look through some of the clothes (currently on the floor of the wardrobe) and see if i can clear out those that I do not wear, will not wear, and cannot wear!.
I usually keep all my stuff to recycle, but I think on this occasion unless they are good labels I think I will have to take it all to the local Charity shop.
I had planned to sort, and Ebay my stuff, even if I got only 99p an item, plus the postage covered. But where will I put it all while I do all that?
Why do I have so many clothes? Cos I am a charity shop -aholic!
I even went and bought another dress today,(before I bought the wardrobe set) Its a pink shift dress, fuscia pink, just above the knee, sleeveless- £3 in Cancer Research shop. Couldnt resist it.
Its the kind of dress I used to wear about 10-years ago maybe. A classic dress that doesnt go out of fashion and with a belt and a jacket its suitable for any occasion. My Kids used to call them Mummy Dresses as I had about 11 in the same style once. But I lost the confidence to wear them, thought I was too old at one stage. Now I feel really happy, and apart from a rather less then flat stomach, I think I will be fine with the style again now. The dress I am wearing today is similar, except this one has a row of buttons all the way down the left hand side.
Right time I got on and got DGD in her bath and ready for her bed. Perhaps then I will get some energy to do some of those clothes!

fedupandskint

Good evening everyone.

I've had a bit of an up and down week this week with how I've been feeling, not sure why.

Feeling pretty chirpy now I have 5 days off work and can have a rest from the oppressive office atmosphere from time to time.

Looking forward to a couple of runs this weekend, maybe some mountain biking and visting family alongwith the usual housework and dreaded assignment overload.

Finally, I'm off to get my hair trimmed tomorrow and will be dying it this weekend to cover the grey back up again!

Everhopeful09

Morning All,

Thread a bit quiet this morning, hope everyone doing ok?


I'm meant to be working but not a great deal to do, roll on 4:30pm when my weekend begins and I head back to the west country for a weekend of catching up with family and friends, can't wait.


Have a good Friday everyone


EH xx