How to manage inlaws on their long visits

londonsurrey

You can have mine - after my husband died, after years of us telling her to stay away, she appeared, threw holy water over my house, and told me that unless I let her sell the house for me (at circa 60% its market value - note that she did not help with buying the house!), that I would be the next to die.

I await with eagerness a recipient name and address.

19lottie82

londonsurrey wrote: »

You can have mine - after my husband died, after years of us telling her to stay away, she appeared, threw holy water over my house, and told me that unless I let her sell the house for me (at circa 60% its market value - note that she did not help with buying the house!), that I would be the next to die.

I await with eagerness a recipient name and address.

Oh LSthis really made me chuckle!

londonsurrey

19lottie82 wrote: »

Oh LSthis really made me chuckle!

To know that it's raised a smile always brightens me up. Thank you.

XYZ1000

I dont have any advice but wanted to say I think you must be a saint as I couldn't do it. So :T:T:T:T you!!

BitterAndTwisted

19lottie82 wrote: »

Oh LSthis really made me chuckle!

I don't know whether I'm glad it amused someone or not. It made me angry and sad at the same time. That MIL sounds simultaneously both purely evil and totally crackers.

I suspect a stake through the heart might be the only remedy for what's amiss. Or fleeing the country.

londonsurrey

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I don't know whether I'm glad it amused someone or not. It made me angry and sad at the same time. That MIL sounds simultaneously both purely evil and totally crackers.

I suspect a stake through the heart might be the only remedy for what's amiss. Or fleeing the country.

It was my mother, not my MIL. There's actually another matching story with the MIL! And it made me incredibly angry and TBH quite traumatised, and I called the police and took her to Family Court as a result of this and another two decades of abuse and harassment.


If it helps, it amused me to be able to happily and honestly able to offer her to someone who wants a mother, and appreciate the humour in the dark side of things is what makes my good friend say that I have the capacity to survive this. She also thinks I should write a book. Lol.

BitterAndTwisted

Darling, I'm so sorry that I didn't appreciate that it was your own mother you were talking about. Very possibly because I'm naive enough to not want to believe that mothers can treat there own precious blood in such a way. And a MIL of the same tripe, too. Holy Mary Mother of God.

Your friend is absolutely right: you should write a book. You have the material and you most certainly have the writing-style. Almost certainly the human qualities too as I note a great deal of self-deprecation, humour and compassion in your posts here.

My sisters and I could write a decent documentary-style book as well and we keep talking about writing it all down before it's too late and no-one would believe us. If that Dave Wotsit can make money out of misery perhaps we should all write books before it goes out of fashion!

gingin_2

Bitter and twisted is right Londonsurrey, you do have a fantastic writing style ande should write it all down - I do love the Benjamin Franklin quote and shall mutter it to myself to make me smile, we tend to laugh at the dark humour of things too.

Been an awful day today, woke up to find someone had thrown a rock through our car window and damaged the inside, so a £250 excess gone and the no claims bonus - and it's really disheartening that some little *hit could do that at this time of year - I even have a kids car seat in the back of the car - people just don't care . So Mil and fil have been good and looked after the children whilst we ran round getting it fixed so we can get away over christmas.

Merry christmas everyone and thanks for all the support and smiles on this thread.