Charging relatives for Xmas dinner

Sharon87

My brother and his girlfriend are hosting dinner for me and some friends. He's operating bring a cheese (not cheddar) and drink. I did ask if he wanted contribution towards the food, but they decided on that.

£30 a head is outrageous. If I were to ask for contribution for Xmas dinner it would be a small contribution, food or money! But that would probably be if loads of people were coming, and it's just me hosting it. I would never charge family if I offered to host it. I'm all about money saving, but not profiting from family!

VfM4meplse

lily_the_pink wrote: »

For £30 I would want to be drinking champagne all day!

For £30 ph I would expect prostitutes on tap .

candygirl

3v3 wrote: »

Totally get that, but ... her Mum must be prepared to pay it or she wouldn't go?

If I were 80yo and it was a toss up between hosting dinner for the family or paying £30 to be wined, dined and see the family ... I'd be thinking £30 is a small price to pay for the least hassle. What's the alternative? Being alone?

Either way, it really isn't worth you busting a blood vessel in anger over It clearly works for this particular family you are posting about - even if it isn't a recognised "norm" for the majority

The reason I posted was cos the 80 year old isn't happy with it, and I wanted to know others peoples opinions on it.I'm not busting any blood vessels don't worry;):D

sugarwalsh

VfM4meplse wrote: »

For £30 ph I would expect prostitutes on tap .

Ha ha ha, is that all they charge these days? Not really worth riskings one's reputaion for!:rotfl:

MEgan

sugarwalsh

3v3 wrote: »

Totally get that, but ... her Mum must be prepared to pay it or she wouldn't go?

If I were 80yo and it was a toss up between hosting dinner for the family or paying £30 to be wined, dined and see the family ... I'd be thinking £30 is a small price to pay for the least hassle. What's the alternative? Being alone?

Either way, it really isn't worth you busting a blood vessel in anger over It clearly works for this particular family you are posting about - even if it isn't a recognised "norm" for the majority

I suspect no one is busting any blood vessels, just discussing whether we feel it is acceptable. Without discussion then this would make for a somewhat dull forum.

Megan

candygirl

sugarwalsh wrote: »

I suspect no one is busting any blood vessels, just discussing whether we feel it is acceptable. Without discussion then this would make for a somewhat dull forum.

Megan

Exactly:T:T:T:T

mummyroysof3

we have my inlaws coming for christmas dinner..i havent charged them but they are bringing the stuffing, crackers, pudding and cream and her own wine

VfM4meplse

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

we have my inlaws coming for christmas dinner..i havent charged them but they are bringing the stuffing, crackers, pudding and cream and her own wine

It's quite normal to share things in a family, you are the host and still doing the bulk of the work I would imagine.

h007

VfM4meplse wrote: »

It's quite normal to share things in a family, you are the host and still doing the bulk of the work I would imagine.

yep i am hosting xmas dinner this year.
my sister is bringing the meat, my dad is bringing the wine.

so i just have to provide the various veg, potatoes, yorkshires, stuffing, gravy, cranberry sauce, xmas pudding, custard, cream, ice cream, chocolate cake for the kids, crackers, soft drinks and all the other stuff i will remember at the last minute!!

kittywight

feeling the pinch this year so have asked mum to provide desert

i wouldnt charge especially not £30 pp .... could go out to a restraunt for that price and still have change!!