The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

catewithers

How are you doing today Weller? Been thinking of you.

WiseOldBird_2

Been thinking of you Weller. Hope things seem brighter today. Let us know how things are.

BettiePage

Let us know you're ok Weller.

gettingitsorted

Weller i noticed your green light is on,can you just let us know your ok please .

elantan

weller i want to join in with everyone in wishing you love and luck ..you are an amazing person (taking aside an amazing mother) to be able to come through the obvious abuse that your childhood and adulthood has thrown at you and yet still be able to function on a normal level is one thing ...but to be able to do it on an active level looking after a family and helping your virtual friends the way you have (i've read alot of your posts to other users all very positive and helping) yes things are !!!!!! just now ..yes (and i think i speak for everyone here in saying) you have a manipulative nasty nasty mother...but for every bit of badness she has believe me you have that same quantity and more in goodness ...please let us know you are ok and take our love and hugs with you if i can help in anyway please let me know ...

kathfisch

Weller, hun, please let us know that you're ok. We can see your little green light

The number for samaritans if you (or anyone else) needs it is 08457 909090, please just ring them if you're still feeling bad.

You absolutely can get through this, no question at all, we all have such confidence in you and we know you'll do it! We do not think you're a disgrace or a failure, we care about you and want you to stick around.

Money is just money, other things are more important. Some people take up tons of space and time discussing clubcard points and pigsback clicks (no offence meant!)... for the way you're feeling you deserve all the space and time in the world! We're all here supporting you whether you feel able to post or not.

Kath x

findingmyownway

I hope you are ok Lisa. I have just read this thread from the beginning and i thought it was heading towards a happy ending and now things have gone wrong again!!

BUT - you have delt with much worse than this. Your mum is LYING to your dad and sooner or later he will realise this and where his loyalties should lie. Maybe now is the time to tell him about the things you kept from him before? Obviously your mum has not learned her lesson yet and is making things worse for herself. The only way you can help your dad understand what an evil manipulative c ow she is is to be 100% honest with him.

Secondly, how is Andy's job situation looking? I am sure he will get something sorted. He sounds like a great bloke.

I know this isn't a very DFW thing to say, but sometimes its not about the money. No amount of money is worth killing yourself over. If you have to buy food on the CC for a month, its not the end of the world - YOU and your little family are the most important people in this situation. Sam and Mollie love you dearly, no matter how old their shoes are. Without you, their hearts would truley be broken.

Please post and let us know you are ok x

jennynoo

Hi weller, thinking of you while I do my spring cleaning. Hope you are feeling more positive today, it's soo sunny outside, makes me feel 2x better than normal, hope it does for you too.

moonlightpjs

Cant say much - in a bit - well a lot of a state but I'm here still alive and reading your wonderful messages and all the lvely ones that have been PM'd. Just didn't feel i could post - sorry for worrying you all, really I am.

I know Andy will get work as he is skilled (hes a coded welder) even if means temping for the moment - we have looked at job websites and there is plenty of work there both temping and perm but as luck would bl**dy have it - its a bank holiday. His company (that he worked for) are going into liquadtion so he wont get paid at all, nothing. So he has worked all last month for nothing.

He worked this morning and is working Sat and Sun mornings for a man he knows - just fitting gates and railings so thats £200 in his hand, £50 for today, £50 for tomorrow and £100 for Sun. We still cant afford to pay mortgage though on tuesday and am worried sick as we are at the last chance saloon so to speak - Andy is currently at his Grandmas asking if we can borrow the money for the mortgage as we know his Mum wont lend us it as she is married to a man (andy step dad for 33 years) who hates Andy and his brother. We are not sure though if all his Grandmas money is dealt with by his Mum so she may not be able to help us, but shes a lovely lady and if she can she will. if she cant then I will still love her -shes an angel and like my own grandma to me. so am now sat by the phone waiting on tenderhooks for Andy to ring. Dont know what to do if she cant lend us it - house will more than likely be repossessed and am very scared, I feel sick, haven't eaten since Thursday night and I hate to admit it but I went to bed last night with my packet of sleeping pills at 8.30ish, fully intending to take the lot but Andy knew - I dont know how - so he came up, I just took my usual dose and we laid on the bed and he cuddled me all night whilst I slept, he didn't get much sleep so feel really guilty but he says its ok, he doesn't need much (though I know hes fibbing and tired and worried) but it just shows what an absolutly wonderful husband I have and I will be ever grateful for him and my two beautiful children.

I know its not the answer (to kill myself I mean) I just let things get to me, cant cope and see that the only way of feeling better even though I know I could never leave my family, just seems easy and I dont think of the effect I'll be leaving behind even though sometimes I think ndy shoudln't have to put up with me like this.

It all came as a bit of a blow and knocked me for six, Andy didnt feel for one minute he wouldnt get work again but its like a mist comes over me, oh, I just dont know how to explain it. Things were going so well - apart from my parents - and I was beginning to enjoy my life despite the debt, my CPN even discharged me as I was doing so well. I always knew we would be in debt for a long time and it was manageable, we were saving to pay off debts when we had enough money but just had a nasty debt off so all savings went on that (Awful, awful Welcome finance).

Andys just rung - she cant help us.

Gotta go as am sobbing, thanks fr all your kind messages of support and love - means a lot - more than I can tell you

elantan

lisa i dont know what to say...but were here when your ready to talk ...and thankyou for not doing anything the other night ...love and hugs to you and your family