you know when all you lovely people give advice...

Gemmzie

The money won't be lost, they have to refund it to you. It's just a bit of a pain for now Sorry hun

postingalwaysposting

thanks gem, i hope so... bit of a pain but never mind, the thing that made me chuckle is i put it on my bills list then once i was debt free i scrubbed it off

well done on your number crunching :j

Gemmzie

The joys of SO's and DD's!

Thanks, I'm still The last £745 will be eaaaaaaaaaasy

postingalwaysposting

mmm i think i may have dropped myself in it... i was doing oh so well, i have said no to mum yesterday and again today and to my brother friday and my sister friday but my sister needs an new car and she needs some money and she has debts in loans etc so she asked me to get a loan for her and i said no but she knows my ebay id and she said have i got any money from ebay lately and i couldnt lie... so i have now agreed to give her the £200.00 all my ebay earnings :mad: till the end of may (she will give me £60 a week back) :rolleyes: god i have no will power at all i am a complete push over :rolleyes:

tesuhoha

Right Pap. Ive just read this and my first thought was OH NO!!!!!!!! However, I think you should speak to your sister right now and say that you have been having a think and that you cannot do this for her. She has no right to expect/demand this from you Pap. She is abusing your good nature. :mad: If you hand over all of this money, can you really trust her to give it all back. You must refuse. Hope you havent given it to her yet have you. Please dont.

tesuhoha

Why on earth should you fund her new car, when you cant even afford one for yourself? Why should you be forced to show her what money you have on ebay or anywhere else? your financial affairs are a private matter and its none of her business. Just going to get washing in - raining

postingalwaysposting

tesuhoha wrote: »

Right Pap. Ive just read this and my first thought was OH NO!!!!!!!! However, I think you should speak to your sister right now and say that you have been having a think and that you cannot do this for her. She has no right to expect/demand this from you Pap. She is abusing your good nature. :mad: If you hand over all of this money, can you really trust her to give it all back. You must refuse. Hope you havent given it to her yet have you. Please dont.

no tes its still my paypal, i dont think i can get it out see i havent linked my bank account to the paypal account and i am not verified so that will take nearly 3 weeks in reality i can get it into one of my current accounts but i dont want to just sent her a text and i will see what she says, but i dont really want to do it, i am fed up of lending people money and i know i am not likely to get it back :mad:

tesuhoha

Pap, I just feel so angry at your sister. If she is in debt then its her own fault. Why should you have to bail her out? Its not even to help her with her debts but to buy a new car. Its unbelievable! If you have written her a cheque please phone the bank tomorrow and stop it immediately. If you havent then tell her NO, NO, NO. Pap you will never get anywhere with your money and your savings if you keep doing this. You will lose any interest on them you are due even if she does pay you back. It will also make you feel despondent again because after all of your hard work, scrimping and scraping and selling on ebay you will have nothing to show for it. Why should she benefit from it? Im sorry to say this but she must be one hard nosed !!!!! to do this to you. What an awful cheek she has. :mad: and how dare she? Please Pap, before it is too late, come to your senses, toughen up and tell her no. She will respect you more in the long run. If you give in then your mum, and brother will come after you for money again too because they will know that you are not as iron willed about it as they were beginning to think. And your sister will ask again and so will they every time they sniff around and realise that you have a little bit of money. Sorry for the rant but I am very angry :mad: Not at you but at her audacity. Incidentally, you will get that money back that you have sent to Sainsburys. Just phone them and tell them the situation because you dont want a credit balance whatever you do.

postingalwaysposting

tesuhoha wrote: »

Why on earth should you fund her new car, when you cant even afford one for yourself? Why should you be forced to show her what money you have on ebay or anywhere else? your financial affairs are a private matter and its none of her business. Just going to get washing in - raining

my sister needs to know everything... she has even asked to see my credit card statements! thats what its like, but at the end of the day she is married now, its not my fault he has been deported and cant support her... she never speaks to me only if she wants something... shes worse than my brother and mum put together... she will prob hate me and i will get no xmas present now ~ thats what she is like...

tesuhoha

I actually put a word in there to describe her but theyve blanked it out but you can imagine what the word was. Pap you should enjoy telling her no. It doesnt matter what she says, you say no. Remember all your intentions of not so long ago. Honestly, we're slipping here; we have to keep you on the right track!