you know when all you lovely people give advice...

RAS

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

in all honesty i thought you get no where in life without qualifications, again i am fast learning that this isnt the case (oh how i love my old teachers) however i do feel a little stupid although i know i am not and i know i have a lot of good qualifications but because i feel stupid i dont allow myself to apply for jobs that i could achive i tend to apply for cleaning jobs/retail/pickers/process line packers... i think i need more faith in myself... and i am sure this will come with time...

Posting HAS good qualifications.
Posting is a highly intelligent young lady
Posting is better qualified than three quarters of the UK population.
Posting is articulate.
Posting has lots of really valuable personal attributes; tenacity, good interpersonal skills, attention to detail, empathy, imagination, the ability to learn, the ability to communicate effectively with a wide range of people. I could go on.

Posting had the misfortune to go to a crap school
Posting may come from a background where most other people apply for cleaning jobs/retail/pickers/process line packers

That does not change the facts

Posting HAS good qualifications.
Posting is a highly intelligent young lady
Posting is better qualified than three quarters of the UK population.
Posting is articulate.

And even if she does not have GCSE Maths, her numeracy skills are enough to handle money really well.

If you really want to get into university, do an Access course (this will probably include Maths). If you want a better job take a level 3 plus qualification in the professional area in which you want to work. Even better get a job where they will pay you to train.

And by the way, there are probably half a million people in this country who would agree with you

"I do feel a little stupid although i know i am not and i know i have a lot of good qualifications but because i feel stupid i dont allow myself to apply for jobs that i could acheive."

... and who are earning over £50K. With the stress leveles that come from believing that they are not worth it.

Posting needs a bit more confidence, that is all:D .

Love you, babe.

PS sorry about the car lesson. Have to admit I only had 4, but OH had been teaching me for 3 years beforehand. And I nearly crunched the car a few times.

With respect to the looking in mirrors, the problem may not be whether you are looking in the mirror, but whether the inspector can see that you are looking in the mirror. You just need to exagerate the movement of your neck a fraction, so it is obvious. that's what I was told anyway.

And it may be that having a bad session, you are going into the next session expecting that to be bad ( a bit like the "i dont allow myself to apply for jobs that i could acheive" thing.



Not allowing yourself to succeed is a common problem. Have you access a library? Try to get hold of any basic NLP book (Bandler, Grinder, (frogs into princes) or even have a play with some of Paul Mckenna's stuff. He is good even if he can seem a bit up front.

These things do work, although I recommend that you think carefully about what you want first, as you are likely to get it. Always ask "What would the consequences be if I got this?"

RAS

just seen all the other replies. Sorry if we are piling it on.

Take a break, take a deep breath and smile (requires less energy than a frown).

if you feel like you have PMT all the time, no wonder you are finding the driving lessons difficult just now. I know I am due because I screw up badly the day beforehand, leave stuff places, make errors using the calculator, feel persecuted and go for people and am a nightmare in a car.

Get yourself a B supplement. I find it helps, but things hurt a bit. When it does not hurt, I need the Vit B again. In the old days it was a lifesaver. Also, a couple of my friends have PCOS and they have their black dog days. I think it may be part of the symptoms.

Big Hug.

postingalwaysposting

thanks all i dont know what to say... really i dont... i just hope that i can pull myself out of this quick and start apply for jobs to get me out of where i am now...

kathfisch

You will be able to do that pap, no question about it!

You have to try and harden yourself to disappointment when you're applying for jobs, absolutely everyone gets rejections and it does not mean there's anything wrong with you! My dad told me to keep all my rejection letters (I've got a lovely pile of them ) and then when you have a much better job you can look at them and see that you only got the right job through applying for lots that weren't right for you, for whatever reason.

I look back at letters that I was heartbroken to get at the time and I now realise that they wouldn't have been the right job for me, despite what I thought at the time. I wasn't the right person for them at that time, for whatever reason, but that doesn't make me bad, useless or unemployable.

The right thing will come along for you and in the meantime you are so much stronger in dealing with your colleagues! :T

x

lynsayjane

hiya pap, not able to hang about for long but sending big hugs (gather from replies that today is not a happy day) keep your head up and just remember fate does reward the good and punish the bad
xxx

Emmzi

pap,

no advice, just to say FWIW I really admire your strength and determination to improve your position. I wish I could tackle my parents the way you do with your mother. I wish I could plan the way you do. I wish I had your drive.

There are many good things about you; these are the ones I admire most.

gingeremmie

Hey pap, can't hang about and read now as I need to go to bed, but will catch up tomorrow. Just wanted to say hi and keep your chin up chuck

x

tesuhoha

Pap, Make some plans about what you are going to do; it will make you feel better. Remember the Legal Secretary idea that seemed so hopeful. Well, its still all out there waiting for you. I would suggest that you do a couple of courses in office skills (word processing etc) in order to give you confidence. Save up and buy yourself some smart new clothes and get your hair done. Buy some makeup if you dont have some. One of the reasons why you are getting depressed is that you are young and you dont have any kind of social life. I think that there must be something you can do about this. Maybe you could join a club or do some voluntary work. Remember that people always like someone who they can talk to who is a good listener. If you start off in that role then it might be easier. I dont mean being nosey and prying into people's private affairs. I just mean being relaxed and approachable, having a ready smile, a sympathetic manner. You are like that I know and I agree that you are very intelligent. You are wasted in that job, undervalued and downtrodden but it is a means to an end. Make use of it till you can get something better. You are much much better than you realise. Start looking after yourself and try to stop this soul searching. You just have to try to be the best you can be and that is good enough. If its not good enough for someone then thats their problem not yours and theyre not worth ..... Just remember that you are a young lady who is going places and you have ambition. Work on your appearance, and confidence, hold your head up high and realise that you are special. There are a lot of people that come into contact with you that are not fit to wipe your shoes but you have to put up with them because they dont even know how stupid they are. Be tolerant of them because you are of superior intelligence. Dont lower yourself to their level. And if you get knocked back from jobs, dont be defeated. Toughen up and keep trying. Someone, somewhere will give you a chance as long as you keep trying.

RAS

postingalwaysposting wrote: »

thanks all i dont know what to say... really i dont... i just hope that i can pull myself out of this quick and start apply for jobs to get me out of where i am now...

Posting are you there?

Sorry if we piled it on last night. Well meant but maybe not exactly subtle or respectful. Never heard you be so quiet.

You are right

"however i do feel a little stupid although i know i am not and i know i have a lot of good qualifications but because i feel stupid i dont allow myself to apply for jobs that i could achive i tend to apply for cleaning jobs/retail/pickers/process line packers... i think i need more faith in myself... and i am sure this will come with time... "

And i was wrong to come back like that. Sorry.

You feel how you feel. I need to respect that. As you pointed out, you appreciate that there may be a discrepancy between how you feel about yourself and what you could acheive.

You may have gathered that quite a lot of other posters agree with your assessment?:rotfl:

Anyway, I have to go, but just wished I had thought a bit more before I put my virtual foot in it.

postingalwaysposting

hi all, sorry i havent got back to you but working late and coming on here is very tiring so i had a early night (for me anyways) ummm... thanks to all those who pm'ed me and huge thanks to peb... and ras, no you didnt pile it on all is fine ... now i am not giving up saving for one minute but... my attention has been drawn somewhere else for the time being (as as the title of one of my pm to me) its.... Mission : get PAP a new job

my plans before now was save my 3* wages and do my math gcse... well thats all changed :rotfl: i have decided that my well being is more important and that means getting a new job asap...

i am re processing my cv and i will be producing standard cover letters ready to send out... now i dont know what to do about courses? or if to just work my way up? i am thinking of using some of my ebay money to get a disc to teach me touch typing again, i learnt it in school but now i dont use it at all but work has still given me the set day off... but i dont think i should do gcse maths anymore, the reasons i was doing it was not the right reasons to complete it... now the college does lots of admin qualifications etc but i dont know if they will be a waste of money? and it would also require me to write back to work and tell them i am swapping courses and the new one starts in august etc etc... what do you think?

work has been fine, but they are putting more and more work onto me because they know i will do it :mad: but if i say no they kick up a fuss so i just do it... never mind

ebay stuff selling well, but i dont think i will have enough for postage (in my bank) as most pay through paypal so i may have to go into my od for a few days :rolleyes: also i have to confess, the last time i posted here... (was it tue?) i went onto itunes and downloaded £7.11 worth of songs i havent downloaded in ages... i am sorry...