Son removes his pyjamas and nappy in bed

pinkladyof66

He has global developmental delay and is only functioning as a 2 year old at most, so is not like your average 3 year old, he has only been with us 8 weeks and we have been advised not to try and do toilet training yet as it will be too much trauma with moving house etc and we have to wait, and to be honest he isnt no where near being able to be trained yet.

lisawood78

Good luck with the adoption and the training. And the body suit sounds like the way to go.
Hope it works for you.

daska

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

We are in the process of adopting our son and he has global development delay by 1 year so we dont envisage being able to toilet train him yet he doesnt speak and doesnt really understand the process of a potty, we have tried but he isnt interested we were intending to try again in the summer.

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

He has global developmental delay and is only functioning as a 2 year old at most, so is not like your average 3 year old, he has only been with us 8 weeks and we have been advised not to try and do toilet training yet as it will be too much trauma with moving house etc and we have to wait, and to be honest he isnt no where near being able to be trained yet.

Just edited my post above to give a bit more info, it sounds like we have similar problems. DS2 still has severe language difficulties, well, you'll get some of the picture by reading that thread I linked to.

Plans_all_plans

Ah, that makes sense then. Well I can see the difficulties that must present for you. Have the social work team been able to provide you with any advice? Are there any organisations for his range of difficulties that may be able to help?

ETA: don't get disheartened that at 3 he's not potty trained yet. I have a friend with a 3 year old son and he doesn't get the potty yet either (and it's not for lack of trying!) He has no additional needs, so they are all just different. Boys seem to take longer than girls too.

As well as this, I have another friend with a 4 year old son (again no extra needs), he's been potty trained in the day since 2, but he is still in pull up pants at night, even though he's in Reception now. Just to put your mind a bit at rest.

Aimless

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

Thanks yes these look really good I am thinking this might do the trick as i am sure he wouldnt be able to get around the back.

Thanks;)

Hard to say if it would work without looking at the outfits you have, but could you put them on backwards as a temporary measure?

meritaten

pinklady - thanks for clearing that up! Yes, they are right, you must allow him to settle in first and assess for yourself when he is ready for potty training! I would be the LAST person to force a child who wasnt 'ready'! having experience with grandkids with ADHD and Aspergers - no good will come of trying to force development - it happens when its ready to happen!
Hun - does the heating HAVE to go off at bedtime - couldn't you just turn it down so the rooms dont get 'freezing' (that would actually cut your costs as you wouldnt be paying to heat them up from freezing - it actually makes economic sense). we turn ours down from 21 to 18 or so at night - and it really does help and we havent noticed an increase in the bills. If the house gets really cold then the heating has to work longer and harder in the morning to get the house up to temp! IYSWIM!
Its hard when you have to wash a load of bedding every day - could you get those large incontinence pads to put under him? your GP may be able to help here, or a social worker if you have one?
failing that then a vinyl tablecloth covered with an old sheet (which is what I call my 'damp proof course' is what I use when ADHD GD sleeps over! saves my best sheets and the mattress!

jackyann

Global developmental delay - definitely speak to your social worker, health visitor, or maybe someone at the nursery. If he is being assessed & treated by a child development centre, there will almost certaibnly be a specialist nurse or similar there who can help. Get to know who has experience and can help you. Good luck

Mupette

who had him before and what did they do?

Surly social services would know or be able to find out?

tw1nklestar

have you tried the all in one fleece sleepsuits with a zip up the front - try putting it on backwards so the zip is up the back so your littleone will not be able to undo it - just dont zip it up to the top as it might not be comfortable around the neck

DVardysShadow

meritaten wrote: »

Hun - does the heating HAVE to go off at bedtime - couldn't you just turn it down so the rooms dont get 'freezing' (that would actually cut your costs as you wouldnt be paying to heat them up from freezing - it actually makes economic sense). we turn ours down from 21 to 18 or so at night - and it really does help and we havent noticed an increase in the bills. If the house gets really cold then the heating has to work longer and harder in the morning to get the house up to temp! IYSWIM!

I would agree with keeping the heating going to manage the situation. But it will cost more. This has been covered so many times on the utilities board that it really needs a sticky.

[Would you leave your car engine running overnight, to avoid using the extra petrol to warm up the engine again in the morning?]