Help To Reolve Issue With My Ex

Lyrrad

CH27 wrote: »

Is access just by verbal agreement too?

Very much yes.

It would cost about £6000 to change that

CH27

Do you seriously think she would stop you seeing your son?

Lyrrad

CH27 wrote: »

Do you seriously think she would stop you seeing your son?

She has in the past, albeit for 1 weekend here and there. For me it feels like I have just had my right arm amputated.

What she says is that the time I have with my son is more than a court would award. She is right here

easy

Oh hells teeth.

Any private school will ask for a terms notice for withdrawal, or expect a terms fees in lieu. That will be in the original contract, and I am afraid you and your ex do not have a leg to stand on.

As an earlier poster said, your best option is to pay the fee and move on.

If you or your ex dispute how the school treated your son, that is a separate issue I'm afraid, and should be taken up with the head teacher. If that isn't satisfactory, then take the complaint higher, to the board of governors.
You should ask to see the school's complaints policy.

If you feel the school actually mis-treated your child, and you can't get satisfaction through the school itself, then OFSTED say

We cannot consider complaints about
independent schools or places that provide
education only for people over the age of
16. For independent schools you should
write to the school first. If you are unhappy
with their response, you can send your
complaint in writing to:

Independent and Boarding Team
Department for Education
Mowden Hall
Staindrop Road
Darlington
DL3 9BG.

CH27

Lyrrad wrote: »

She has in the past, albeit for 1 weekend here and there. For me it feels like I have just had my right arm amputated.

What she says is that the time I have with my son is more than a court would award. She is right here

This is so awkward for you. How old is your son? 9?

Lyrrad

easy wrote: »

Oh hells teeth.

Any private school will ask for a terms notice for withdrawal, or expect a terms fees in lieu. That will be in the original contract, and I am afraid you and your ex do not have a leg to stand on.

As an earlier poster said, your best option is to pay the fee and move on.

If you or your ex dispute how the school treated your son, that is a separate issue I'm afraid, and should be taken up with the head teacher. If that isn't satisfactory, then take the complaint higher, to the board of governors.
You should ask to see the school's complaints policy.

If you feel the school actually mis-treated your child, and you can't get satisfaction through the school itself, then OFSTED say

Yeah although I did not know that, I just can't believe there is a case for the school to answer.

I just need to be careful who I sign papers with in future.

So I accept the money is owed, and the school has been prepared to reduce the amount to £2000. Should I just pay it, wipe my mouth, and put it down to experience?

Lyrrad

CH27 wrote: »

This is so awkward for you. How old is your son? 9?

Yes he is 9 years old.

His mum finds it very difficult to accept her errors (as I suppose we all do).

As I have said, I'm no angel, but I always offer the olive branch and she always knocks it on the floor.

Just recently I repaired her laptop, changed the RAM etc, returned it to her. Not even a thank you. Okay I enjoy doing these things, and the cost was £10.00, but for goodness sake thank you costs nothing. I know, as she would tell me, she didn't ask for my help, I offered.

For the sake of my son I suppose I must keep the peace and pay it, but even then I am afraid to upset her by paying the lesser amount out of court and denying her the day in court she seems determined to have.

Bennifred

Surely if your son is so badly behaved for his mother she is unlikely to prevent you having him - if only for her own sake?

I think you should pay the £2000 and move on. If she objects then you must point out that she can't have her cake and eat it - either you are jointly liable (and thus have the right to pay) or you're not and she pays after the court rules against her.

podperson

What an awkward situation. Has she taken legal advice at all? Perhaps it might be worth you going to see a solicitor, if she heard from someone 'offical' that she doesn't have much of a case then it might sway her?

WhiteHorse

Lyrrad wrote: »

She withdrew him because she claims that they were not dealing with issues in a correct manner. to be fair she does have a good point here, but she did not put anything in writing. She was being hassled by parents in the playground, she claims that our son was bed wetting, she claims that he was made to stand in the classroom with his face against the wall.

Is any of this actually true? It all sounds very convenient.