A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

Penny-Pincher!!

Just checked online and the letter has been signed for. OH will call him later and ask what he wants to do. We've called around for quotes and we can get the work all done for £1500, so it would be better financially for him to pay for the work rather than give us all our money back. BUT, we will see how he's going to play.

grandma247

(((hugs ))) ginnyknit.

meme30

Ginnyknit:- Hope things go ok for your OH tomorrow. It's such a worrying time for you. :grouphug:

We got the news that DSiL is being laid off on Friday. So it's officially a Bl**dy Cr*p month. Poor DD, twelve weeks pregnant, awful morning sickness, bump in the car, (a write off) and now this. We are all chewed up over this. They have redundancy insurance cover for the mortgage, but I don't think it kicks in for being laid off. Bizarrely I think they would be better off if he was made redundant! Does anyone have any experience in this? I don't know if he will even get JSA if he is made redundant because DD works. We don't know the rules!

Still, big breath... we will just get on with it, help out where we can and get them through it. That's what families are for, well, that's we believe anyway!

I can't eat cake, there's none in the house. I have eaten six :eek: Marshmallow biscuits! I don't even like them either! This comfort eating is going to have to stop! :EasterBun

greent

meme30 wrote: »

Ginnyknit:- Hope things go ok for your OH tomorrow. It's such a worrying time for you. :grouphug:

We got the news that DSiL is being laid off on Friday. So it's officially a Bl**dy Cr*p month. Poor DD, twelve weeks pregnant, awful morning sickness, bump in the car, (a write off) and now this. We are all chewed up over this. They have redundancy insurance cover for the mortgage, but I don't think it kicks in for being laid off. Bizarrely I think they would be better off if he was made redundant! Does anyone have any experience in this? I don't know if he will even get JSA if he is made redundant because DD works. We don't know the rules!

Still, big breath... we will just get on with it, help out where we can and get them through it. That's what families are for, well, that's we believe anyway!

I can't eat cake, there's none in the house. I have eaten six :eek: Marshmallow biscuits! I don't even like them either! This comfort eating is going to have to stop! :EasterBun

Grim news meme

Re: JSA, I believe he should at the very least get contribution based JSA, but I'm not 100% convinced. He can now, however, apply for it online - so get him to do it straight off, as they don't backdate it. It's a soul destroying process registering and signing on, but a necessary evil. Travel to interviews may also be possible to claim (DH claimed his when he was signing on - which included things like £100+ return train fares (he had interviews at Head Offices in places like London:eek:), so worth it if he can claim it)

Being laid off is different to being made redundant in what way? Is he a sub contractor and there's no more work? If he's an employee and they're letting him go then surely that's redundancy? (I'd ask my employment law specialist DH if he was here, but he's at work)

((hugs)) for all of you x

Penny-Pincher!!

Ginnyknit-Im sorry to hear your OH's news and apologise if my post seemed insensitive but hadn't read before I posted. Its a positive note that they're checking him regular and when and if treatment is needed then it can be done quickly. OH is having to have his PSA levels checked regular and will know next week how they're doing. He's 37 and hasn't been feeling well in a while now.

The benefit system is a minefield.

Keep your chin up.

MeMe-Hugs to you too.

PP
xx

auntymabel

Here's a bit of info from the ACAS website:

http://www.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1641


Agree he should get a claim in asap to get the ball rolling.

SDG31000

Afternoon All

Thank you all for the hugs and good wishes. I'm feeling a bit brighter today which is ironic as the weather is carp. I haven't made it out of the house yet, but I've managed to text a few people, have a shower and do yet more laundry. I might attempt to go out later with DH depending on when he gets home.

I've also made triple chocolate cookies, so get them while they are warm

ginnyknit I am so sorry to hear about your DH's diagnosis. A friend of ours was diagnosed with stomach and bowel cancer last week and we are waiting to find out what the specialist say today. He was finally taken seriously after haemoraging and losing 3 pints of blood 9 days ago. This was after been told that he only had piles :mad:

meme30 Have a cookie, it sounds like you need it. The best of luck to your SIL and fingers crossed your DD's morning sickness passes soon. I know how horrible that is. I used to bite slices of lemon as the acidity of them took away the sick feeling for a while.

Penny-Pincher!! I hope the beeping beep of a beep is seriously worried and you get your money back asap.

I have now offically stopped watching the news as I only end up shouting at the TV and getting upset. It's enough to make me want to research the cost of pitchforks and to see if we can get a bulk discount. I'm sure I can't be the only one wanting to march on downing Street and to tell those $%^&*(*&^%$£ some home truths.

Time to go and hide the cookies before the walking black hole aka DS2 gets home.

Take care everyone and thank you again xxxx

BitterAndTwisted

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B&T, I'm on a website www.garden-birds.co.uk Looking at pix of the hawfinch - could that be your mystery bird? Apparently, there's an informal classification of critters which birders call LBJ (little brown jobs) because they look so similar.

Nope, it wasn't a hawfinch. In fact the little orange-reddish-brown birdy I saw isn't represented in that list on the site at all. Maybe it's a confused foreign visitor? I hope he enjoys his stay and especially hope I see him again so I can get a much closer look at him. I am very gratified to discover that we've got lots of chaffinches outside. I'm in a north London ghetto and it's like a nature-reserve here. How lucky I am.

I echo SGD31000's thoughts about pitchforks, but that bloody heartless T woman got the gates erected at the end of Downing Street so we can't even wave them threateningly outside numbers 10 and 11 any longer. I might still buy some shares in pitchforks, just in case we can get to brandish them in a menacing manner outside the H of P. There's a couple of members I'd like to have a full and frank discussion with. Also my local MP who's the very epitome of useless berks. To hear him talk you'd know he's never had the misfortune to have to actually live here amongst the many poor and disadvantaged who have to.

The tightest of hugs to dear Ginnyknit and her OH, and a hug to anyone who could use one right now.

shelley_crow

Ginnyknit, so sorry to hear about your husband. It must be such a confusing time for you both, hugs.

Meme, not sure how the JSA works now but a similar thing happened to us a few years ago. It's bad enough at any time but especially worse when you have a baby on the way

PP: My offer of a flashmob still stands! Bitterandtwisted seemed quite keen too, so that's a mob of two at least! If SDG bulk orders pitchforks, we can stop off at Downing Street on the way. I would say the farmer who dumped a load of manure at number 10 a few years ago had the right idea, although it does seem a waste of great manure.

All this talk of cake has made me bow into peer pressure and make a victoria sponge. You are all lovely but a very bad influence!

shegar

So sorry to hear everyone seem to have problems one way or other....

PP........glad he as signed for your documents to him, I really wouldnt like to say which way that will all end, but I really do wish you the best, its a very worrying situation for you both..........xx

Ginnyknit..... I do hope the hospital appointment goes okay for Wednesday, as we all know with cancers loads of cancers are very much treatable these days , but I know the word "cancer" sets alarm bells ringing.................You hear some people say "oh its good to have cancer on so and so part of the body" . because its got a very good recovery rate, so we are all praying for you and hubby....xxxx

Meme30........ You too seem to be going through the mill in your family, I hope it all get sorted for all of you......xx

Well im slowly on the mend, I have to have a hours kip near lunch time as im so wore out since I had that bronical pheumonia, its sure has taken the stuffing out of me.......The first week I was ill I lost 8 pound in weight, but most recently people are saying to me ,"have you lost weight."?, I say yea about 8 pound, so this morning I thought id just jump on scales and see if id lost a wee bit more, ive so far lost 14.5 pounds..:eek::eek:, yes im happy about that , but my appetite is crap this past 3 wks. I hope this will kick start my healthy eating and id be able to lose a bit more.........

The sun is shining down lovely this arvo, it cheers me out no end to see the sun, I think weve all had enough of the god dam wet weather........Keep your chin up girls.........