A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

LavenderBees

Byatt wrote: »

LB's what a great memory you have. Yes I think Catbells was going for longer than 2 weeks. I think it was 2 weeks with her son, and then venturing out on her own. Can't wait to hear how she is. The "gap month" plans sound like a plan. I can look after the pusscats when you are away!

All this talk of fish :eek: and I got some ready cooked mussels from Mr T, for 35p on YS. Not sure what to do with them now though. Only ever had them once before in a posh restaurant, all garlicky and yummy.

The cat I was looking after made a bid to escape out the door! I don't blame her, she's been cooped up all weekend and wants to go out and hunt. :eek:

Stressy this morning. My DD has been transferring money from her main account (bills) and using it for frivolity and fun. Just told me she is worried about paying her phone bill and when I asked why, told me she had moved money again, but insisted it was only £10. (probably an understatement).

Sigh.

edit: just told me it's £50! :eek: I may go back to bed.

oh, yes, so you could...you could stay at mine and have a holiday (and clear up the dead mice that Jaspie brings home now - think he's discovered a stash somewhere - live mice not dead - but they're very mauled and dead when he brings them home to play with - think I've unleashed a terror on the village :rotfl:)

Mussels - gorgeous - bit of onion, garlic, white wine & cream (or coconut milk, maybe) and loads of crusty bread. Discard any that stay closed when you've cooked them for a few minutes. I'm just hopping in the car to join you

Sorry to hear DD is causing you worry at the moment. Part of me doesn't blame her though, frivolity and fun, sounds....well, ...fun. But unfortunately, overspending has consequences. Hope you manage to get this sorted easily/soon.

I've had such a lovely day pottering in the garden in the sunshine. I wouldn't miss holidays abroad at all if it was like this now until late September. Aye, I know, I'm never grateful for what I have, always got to push it. One lovely weekend and I want a whole 6 months of it. I've got my fleece on now as the sun has dipped behind a house, so it's a wee bit nippy, but still pretty perfect.

Hope it's been as glorious for everyone.

xx

Byatt

:rotfl::rotfl:LB, thanks...so that's a plan?!:rotfl::rotfl:

Jaspie sounds like a proper hunter. I just spoke to the pusscat's owner and they said, she dived out the door and they haven't seen her! She was stir crazy this morning as I kept her in to keep her safe.

I forgot to get cream so need to subsitute that but the rest I have!

Yes, I understand DD saying s0d it at times. At least she told me this time. Last time it was a lot more.

Yes a beautiful day.

OK you heard it first here, in view of the fact I am preparing for next winter with a vengeance, we are going to have the mildest winter on record! :cool:

LavenderBees

Byatt wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:LB, thanks...so that's a plan?!:rotfl::rotfl:

Jaspie sounds like a proper hunter. I just spoke to the pusscat's owner and they said, she dived out the door and they haven't seen her! She was stir crazy this morning as I kept her in to keep her safe.

I forgot to get cream so need to subsitute that but the rest I have!

Yes, I understand DD saying s0d it at times. At least she told me this time. Last time it was a lot more.

Yes a beautiful day.

OK you heard it first here, in view of the fact I am preparing for next winter with a vengeance, we are going to have the mildest winter on record! :cool:

Perhaps use tin tomato and chilli flakes instead of cream - most of the rest of the ingredients are the same. Never tried this myself, but probably healthier than the cream.

:rotfl:re your winter prep. I did this last year after suffering 2 dreadful winters, and we hardly had a frost this winter :rotfl:

xx

kidcat

LB- me too, I really prepared for deep dark, snowed in weather, must have seen no more than a dozen snowflakes!!

thenanny2die4

Hi everyone. Just gatecrashing the thread for a moan - sorry.

I've been proper poorly today with a migraine; I used to suffer terribly in my teens but these days it's quite a rare occurrence and generally only at times of stress or upset. So that'll be why then...

I heard on Thursday evening that the family I nanny for are relocating to New York. Actually it wasn't a total shock; the Dad is already there having become a bigshot TV star :cool: (he's a sports presenter) and, although he actually worked in the States over the last two years, he was able to get home regularly and spend a few months here over the winter months. The new job, though, looks as if it will keep him there pretty much permanently. Naturally enough, they've decided this is too much strain on the family unit, so Mum and the twins are going to join him.

I've always said that the day I stop getting attached to "my" kids is the day I stop nannying, but after twenty years it seems to get harder to move on each time. I've been with this family for three years and I have a really close bond with the girls as I'm often in sole charge for extended periods with Dad away and Mum staying in London when she's not working from her office at home.

So I'm fed up. And I want to stay at home and bake bread and not have to do this any more. *stamps feet like a spoilt child who hasn't got her own way*

kidcat

HI nanny2die4 - is going with them an option?

I would imagine that your presence would be a real aid to a smooth transition and maintain a routine for the kids. FRom there a whole host of future opportunities could await - when the kids are too old, you would be in a good place to secure further work.

meme30

I am really tired this morning. I think the sun has leeched the energy out of me this weekend! It was all very well having a bone idle Sunday, well except for a bit of cooking. But DH said as he went to work 'this is my last shirt!' I looked in the ironing pile and I hadn't washed any of his work shirts! :eek: Three o'clock in the afternoon! So washed and dried them (half and hour in that lovely sun!) Then I had to iron them, he's back in again today! Bone idle does not suit me at all, I think I am better off being a potterer! :rotfl:

Byatt:- Mussels are delicious, we used to pick them and cook them when camping. Sorry to hear about DD I'm sure it will work itself out (with your help!):)

Nanny:-It must be very hard to lose contact with the children you look after. I can imagine it must be impossible not to lose your heart to them. If you still have to work and can not give it up to bake bread, could you change to caring for children in your own home? I can see you are married and a granny so your own family life must come first. Can you re-jig your professional life? Not an easy one I know, sometimes when a big change comes along that's the time to take stock and think outside the box.:think:

thenanny2die4

Thank you kidcat and meme30 for your replies. I was just about to hit "reply" with a response to kidcat's message late last night when we were plunged into darkness. :eek: I was not expecting MSE Winter Preps to come into their own on a weekend of such beautiful weather but, without them, I would not even own a wind-up torch, let alone know where to find it within seconds.

Anyway, no, I've woken up in a better frame of mind; stopped throwing poor old teddy out of the pram. I shall make myself enjoy the time I have left with the twins and get myself back on the agency books to find a new family for the Autumn.

Byatt

Nanny, I think it's perfectly natural to feel the way you do and you are are obviously a very caring nanny (I wanted to train as a nanny but my mother wouldn't let me). But I am glad you feel better today and ready to face the new challenge.

Meme, yes, DD has "owned" up to her support, with my encourgement and she feels better and so do I. Definite progress.

Byatt

Need some advice, when you have all come in from your gardens/work...

DD's support are complaining continually about her having pooch. They are now sayong pooch should go into kennels when I'm cat sitting. Basically, I might as well not bother to work at all if that's the case. However I would come up with a plan if DD didn't want to have pooch with her. She is company for DD.

So, DD is upset, I am upset, and a letter needs to be written. The thing is do I write the emotional, p!ssed off letter, or calmly state the facts yet again. Pooch is 12 and has cancer so her life span is limited. If we manage to keep her for several months it will be a bonus.

Honestly sick of being made to feel bad and guilty. Had enough of ex doing that (still does) and so it's verty triggery for me and DD.

Any ideas for wording of letter gratefully received. I am just so upset I am scared I will go off the deep end.

Hope you are all enjoying this amazing weather.