A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

boultdj

Byatt I would go with the calm state of fact's again, and point out that DD is calmer when pooch is around and it also give's her a reason to go out and see other people when pooch need's walking.hth.

Byatt

boultdj wrote: »

Byatt I would go with the calm state of fact's again, and point out that DD is calmer when pooch is around and it also give's her a reason to go out and see other people when pooch need's walking.hth.

Thanks, yes it does help. :A

VJsmum

Please block your ears



AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Bl00dy kids. BOth off today for parent consultations, had appointments at 8 and 8.15 to give us a day together. Beautiful sunshine, breakfast in Maccie D's, lunch in Nandos and then they didn't stop arguing and one is now in tears.

Never, ever again will I take them both shopping at the same time. I thought they were old enough to compromise on what each would do. Clearly not.

And it has all cost a small fortune - they can damn well continue to sit in their rooms with the curtains shut (god forbid teenagers should see daylight) and emerge when they have both got a bit older.

I'm going to dig over the veggie patch.

S0d em

boultdj

Glad I could help Byatt and passing cup of tea and emergency chocolate to VJsmum.

Byatt

Yes, emergency tea and chocolate is a good idea!

Hugs VJ. :A It's so disappointing when they don't appreciate the lovely day you organise. Hopefully, tears will dry and they will be somewhat contrite and give you some cuddles.

katieowl_2

[QUOTE=Byatt;52050671
DD's support are complaining continually about her having pooch. They are now sayong pooch should go into kennels when I'm cat sitting. Basically, I might as well not bother to work at all if that's the case. However I would come up with a plan if DD didn't want to have pooch with her. She is company for DD.

So, DD is upset, I am upset, and a letter needs to be written. The thing is do I write the emotional, p!ssed off letter, or calmly state the facts yet again. Pooch is 12 and has cancer so her life span is limited. If we manage to keep her for several months it will be a bonus.

Honestly sick of being made to feel bad and guilty. Had enough of ex doing that (still does) and so it's verty triggery for me and DD.

Any ideas for wording of letter gratefully received. I am just so upset I am scared I will go off the deep end.
)[/QUOTE]

Dear Support worker,

Get over the freaking dog.

love

Byatt :P

Seriously though I'd write something like...

I'm somewhat surprised that you find DD having the Dog with her a problem. The calming influence of animals around people who are sick is well documented, and DD tells me (Byatt) that SHE finds him a comfort to have around, and that it gives her a reasons to go out during the day and interact with her neighbours. I would also like to point out to you that the period of time we expect to have the dog for is limited now, as dog is now 12, and in poor health himself. You may not be a pet owner yourself, but I am sure that you can appreciate, that as a much loved, long standing family member we ALL want his last few months to be as stress free and enjoyable for him as possible AND for our whole family.

I'm afraid for the time being you will have to bear with this and work around our needs as a family.

Yours Faithfully

Byatt.....


HTH.

Kate

Byatt

Kate, Thank You!

I :rotfl::rotfl:at the first draft. First laugh all day! Brilliant and I'm so tempted, but...

I will use the second. It's perfect. When I'm emotional I get long winded, well even when I'm not, so really appreciate it. :A

maryb

VJ How I feel for you.

DDs are 22 and 16 respectively. We went shopping as a day out for my birthday last year and they still couldn't stop themselves bickering even when I pleaded with them not to spoil my day.

Uniscots97

VJsmum wrote: »

Please block your ears



AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Bl00dy kids. BOth off today for parent consultations, had appointments at 8 and 8.15 to give us a day together. Beautiful sunshine, breakfast in Maccie D's, lunch in Nandos and then they didn't stop arguing and one is now in tears.

Never, ever again will I take them both shopping at the same time. I thought they were old enough to compromise on what each would do. Clearly not.

And it has all cost a small fortune - they can damn well continue to sit in their rooms with the curtains shut (god forbid teenagers should see daylight) and emerge when they have both got a bit older.

I'm going to dig over the veggie patch.

S0d em

Sending you a hug. I know how you feel. SS could cause a row in an empty house.

kidcat

Vjsmum- hugs.

Byatt - there's a study about dogs and the benefits for people who have asd. Have a wander it must be available somewhere. In fact several places are running trials of supplying dogs for asd kids - I was offered one for ds but as we already have dog I said no. I can testify to benefits though and will happily write a supporting letter if you wish.

Lazy day for me - did all school runs, pegged out washing on twirly thing, then slept for two hours before pick ups.