A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

shelley_crow

VJ: Please resist the temptation to make your kids a feature your in the veggie patch :rotfl: It does make you wonder why you bothered planning such a nice day.

Byatt: Pooch is a member of your family as well as being important for your daughter, I'd say no too, I guess most dog owners would.

I missed out on the cheap blueberry bushes at Aldi, they must have been really popular. Lots of blackberry and blankcurrant left though.

kidcat

shelley - I bought a nice blackberry bush from Aldi yesterday - looks exceptional quality. Really pleased.

New cat has been outside for the first time today - she has hovered at top of stairs staring out at the front for days so today I maneuvered her downstairs and opened the french doors - took her a while to wander out but then it was ages to get her back!!

meme30

Katieowl:- Nice letter writing!

Byatt:- Yes I would have been tempted to write Katieowls first draft too. Lot of thoughts of interfering/unhelpful/supercilious/patronising idiots! Am good at words when wound up but not good at the calm logic!

Vjsmum:- Bless you that sounds like a perfectly awful day. lock them all in the [STRIKE]coalhouse[/STRIKE]their bedrooms and have a long bath with a glass of wine and a large slice of strawberry cheesecake. Am sending it mentally...was lovely when I ate it!:rotfl:

LavenderBees

Katieowl, that was a fab first draft. Also was my first laugh after a pretty dreadful day at work, so big thanks! :T

Byatt - I'm not sure I understand why the wee dog is such a contentious issue for the support workers. Are they concerned that your dog is being neglected or causing DD to be neglected becasue it's too much for her?

If not, then they're effectively asking you to put an ill member of your family into a home every now and again, but that will be too much for your pet at this time in her life, bless her, in my opinion.

In which case, my admittedly unhelpful response to the support worker would be to tell them to p... off.

Sorry, but I've used up my fairly extensive quota of trying to be constructive at work, where it was completely unappreciated, so I've now decided to just cut to the chase in all things. Why worry?

LB xx

P.S. Is it really still just Monday :eek:

Byatt

Awwwe, thanks everyone for your replies; you are all stars. :A

Kidcat, thanks for your offer, I think I will be ok, and will check out Google.

Shelley, exactly! Pooch is all we have left of our old life. which we lost after ex fiasco. For myself and DD pooch has been all that's kept us going at times.

Meme and LB, I agree about Kate's first draft. I nearly spat my tea out when I read it. :rotfl::T

I have no idea why support are so down about the dog. She's not neglected and is in fact very spoiled, if loving her to death is spoiling. DD does need support, but certainly not in the area of looking after pooch or it being too much for her. I'm not sure what they want her to do and as you suggest LB I feel like telling them to p!ss off. There's no way pooch could go into kennels; the last time I did that when having to move from family home, she became very ill with stress (and kennel cough) and took months to recover. She hates being apart from us. We lost our cat just before we moved, our older dog just after we moved, so pooch is all we have left.

Of all the things for her support to get upset about, this should be the last thing on their list. I would favour ignoring the SW's but DD is getting very upset with their suggestions of kennels etc.

Anyway, I'm cat sitting this week, weather is amazing and I'm milling about a larger than average house and certainly bigger than my shoe box. Not sure what to do with all this space!

Might have a beer in a moment.

LavenderBees

Byatt wrote: »

:T
Might have a beer in a moment.

And why not? Have one for me too, as I've decided that if I stress drink this early in the week, by Friday I won't ever sober up .

Hope your constructive letter works with the support worker, and definitely mention how much they (not the dog) are upsetting your DD. Totally counter-productive in my view.

Shuffles off muttering dark thoughts....

Byatt

LavenderBees wrote: »

And why not? Have one for me too, as I've decided that if I stress drink this early in the week, by Friday I won't ever sober up .

Hope your constructive letter works with the support worker, and definitely mention how much they (not the dog) are upsetting your DD. Totally counter-productive in my view.

Shuffles off muttering dark thoughts....

Thanks LB :A I'm sorry you have had such a c*** day.

I just had a chip butty! I had dinner earlier which was nice and healthy, well apart from the cauli cheese , and now ruined it with chip butties. Did I say butties? :cool:

katieowl_2

Byatt wrote: »

I have no idea why support are so down about the dog. She's not neglected and is in fact very spoiled, if loving her to death is spoiling. DD does need support, but certainly not in the area of looking after pooch or it being too much for her. I'm not sure what they want her to do and as you suggest LB I feel like telling them to p!ss off. There's no way pooch could go into kennels; the last time I did that when having to move from family home, she became very ill with stress (and kennel cough) and took months to recover. She hates being apart from us. We lost our cat just before we moved, our older dog just after we moved, so pooch is all we have left.

Of all the things for her support to get upset about, this should be the last thing on their list. I would favour ignoring the SW's but DD is getting very upset with their suggestions of kennels etc.

I'd lay odds on that the Support worker simply does not like dogs.
A lot of people are really scared of them, and would simply like to not have to negotiate them in their day to day life...It's probably that simple. They are working themselves into a great wobble about it, to the detriment of their client.

Kate

Byatt

Kate, I think you are spot on, certainly for at least one of the sw's. Thanks.

prepareathome

VJsmum wrote: »

Please block your ears



AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Bl00dy kids. BOth off today for parent consultations, had appointments at 8 and 8.15 to give us a day together. Beautiful sunshine, breakfast in Maccie D's, lunch in Nandos and then they didn't stop arguing and one is now in tears.

Never, ever again will I take them both shopping at the same time. I thought they were old enough to compromise on what each would do. Clearly not.

And it has all cost a small fortune - they can damn well continue to sit in their rooms with the curtains shut (god forbid teenagers should see daylight) and emerge when they have both got a bit older.

I'm going to dig over the veggie patch.

S0d em

I know its a bit late but sending you a big, big hug and I hope by now they are fast asleep and you are as well or at least relaxing. Teenagers never consider others, its almost a biological impossibility - almost as some are wonderful, but on the whole most only see things from their own point of view, even when they get their own way they usually find something to moan about. Just never ever take it personally, as you will only find you are the one who is then making a mountain out of a mole hill with the two of them ganging up against you..........

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